thought i should respond to this...

when u say u do not think u r beautiful...i am wondering if you are judging the word 'beautiful' by wut society says beautiful is, or wut U say beautiful is.
the way that society uses the term 'beautiful' in today's world makes me sick. you have to be skinny, have features like everyone else, and flawless basically.
beautiful to ME is someone having confidence in the way they look, i loove nice big hips and i think it is attractive to have some rolls on ur stomach. i also think it is attractive to be muscular, muscle is beautiful on anyone.
but the thing that turns me on the most about someone is when they have confidence, and they dont try to say "oh...oh no...my boobs arent big enough!!" or "oh...oh no..im too fat!!" because i think that confidence is extremely sexy and if u have confidence, u find urself sexy, and the way that u feel about urself kinda...like..permeates (sp?) into the world around you. i think that when u r insecure about ur body, u always try to cover ur body up, because u dont think ur beautiful, and if you cover ur body up THAT much, no one will ever be able to tell if they think u r beautiful or not, but when u r secure with ur body you tend to wear clothes that are more flattering to ur figure, and that really shows ur body off, so someone can say "she looks very sexy in that shirt" etc.
so i think confidence is the main part, u need to remember that u r beautiful no matter wut, NEVER EVER compare yourself to celebrities, because they have people working 24 hours a day to get them skinnier, get their skin clearer, and fit them into clothes.
i think wut im trying to say is that...as long as you are confident about urself, screw everyone else and wut they think, confidence is sexy.

WOW that was a long post just to say one thing. LOL.
anyways i hope i helped? -mariah

I'm obviously not female but I kind of hate the way my body looks, I have a crooked waist/hip from the back surgery I had long ago when I was teenager. I've had sciolosis as a kid and I've always used to be afraid to show my naked body in front of someone. But after a while, I got used to it, so when ever I have sex for the first time, I won't worry about what my body looks like in front of someone since I have confidence around women now. Everyone has insecurities about their bodies. So if I date a woman who's not in perfectly good shape, I won't care, and I'm sure she won't care what my body looks like. I'll always be attracted to her no matter what she looks like. So as long as both of you are comfortable seeing each other naked, then it shouldn't be a problem. It takes confidence.

A lot of people- male and female- dislike their bodies.  A good thing to remember is that "you aren't going to be dating/having sex with you".  It's the other person's opinion that matters here... not your's.  If they think you are sexy, then to them, you ARE sexy.  

Also, most people worry WAY too much about how other's see their body.   A little secret is that most people are too worried about their own bodies to be worried about how the other person looks...lol.  

Finally, as Tessie stated, you are as sexy as you think (act) you are.   Self-confidence can be one of the sexiest things of all.

[QUOTE=Quote (diosarubia10 @ Jan. 04 2005,11:03)]i don't know what to do. i am very insecure of my body because i am not exactly skinny, and my breasts aren't exactly perky. i am ready to have sex with him, but i am nervous because i worry about what he will think of my body without clothes on. what should i do? should i just wait or talk to him or what? thanx so much 4 any help i get!  [/QUOTE]
The truth of the matter is boney model chicks are not the type most guys like. The majority of us want a girl with T&A, not a little guy-body girl. Look at Ashanti, Beyonce, Trina and J-Lo.Oh and what about Anna Nichole Smith before she got fat and married some dead guy. She was a bunny, man, *hop hop* and she didn't wiegh 90 pounds either. Like Sir Mix a Lot his royal hinieness said, "I LIKE BIG BUTTS!".  

I definitley don't mind a Christina Agulerra(Or however you spell that chicks name) or a Britney Spears type braud either, but theres not many REAL girls like that. After all, you gotta have something to grab onto.

Thats my two cents.

You are not alone. A LOT of women hate their bodies and I find that so sad.

All the time we see the beautiful celebrities with NO cellulite, perky breasts all the time, flat stomaches, perfect teeth, perfect skin, etc..

Well they have these wonderful tools at their disposal.. Liposuction, breast lifts, tummy tucks, surgeons and best of all... airbrushing. lol. could someone follow me around and airbrush when I get that huge zit in the middle of my forehead? That would be great, thanks.

We are ALL beautiful in our own way. We ALL get insecure. Even skinny girls that you may think look perfect. They get insecure too.

Most men, if they are not total jerks, are not quite as critical of the female form as you may think. If he thinks you are beautiful, he's right. YOU have to believe that. Self confidence also makes this wonderful aura around you that enhances your look. It's true.

I'm an no where near skinny. I'm 5'3" and VERY voluptuous. I'm sure too voluptuous for some men and that's cool. But when I get all dressed up, do my make-up, hair and take special attention to my clothes right down to the sexy panties I feel great! AND the funny thing is that I get compliments quite often about how pretty I am. I don't dress provocatively (spellling), I just try to dress to flatter my figure. Nothing too tight, etc. I know it's not how I look that makes people notice me, it's how I feel inside! People see that - I know it's true. I mean if one Jessica simpson is pretty, then two of them bunched into one body should be even better, right? lol.

Have faith.. you are beautiful. We are ALL beautiful to someone. And luckily for you, that someone is your boyfriend. Reward him for being so sweet and loving you just how you are.

[QUOTE=Quote (Tessie @ Jan. 04 2005,17:02)]Good advice Os2, and welcome to the board.

I am not anywhere near skinny and my breast are quickly heading south. However I am found by my man and others to be very sexy and desirable. I don't get it, but I go with what they think and I project a confindence that if others think I am then it must be true.

Your guy knows what you look like. Clothes don't hide that much of our shape do they? If your both ready to have sex then you must know and trust each other. You can tell him that your nervous and a little insecure with your body. He will no doubt reassure you that he likes you just the way you are. Do yourself a favor and believe him.

Also no one says you have to be naked to have sex or have a bunch of lights on. I personally like a candle going and I wear some nice lingerie that leaves all the important bits exposed and the ones I don't like (stomach) covered up. He should respect your wishes on that.

Now just relax and enjoy each other and all will be great.  [/QUOTE]
alright...tessie's post was awesome advice, and i'd just like to take a couple of those points (in bold) and elaborate on them from a guy's point of view.

First, if your bf finds you pretty, please believe it and don't refute it. if he's told you he thinks you're pretty he means it, if he didn't think it, he wouldn't say anything (contrarily, if a guy doesn't say it, it doesn't however mean he doesn't think it. we definitely think more than we say).

Next, about telling him you're insecure, if you think that being insecure might interfere much with the love making, you should tell him, but otherwise, it's best if you don't mention it or make too big a deal of it. I would find it a bit unnerving for my gf to talk about being ugly, especially after i'd told her and tried to convince her that she's beautiful. it's practically saying you don't believe him or don't trust him or something.

Finally, the part about the lights is true. he should respect it if you want the lights of or dimmed, especially for the first time. and i'm sure you can find some comfort in the darkness covering your insecurities. on the flip side of that token,later on down the road, maybe do it with the lights on for a change to possibly show him that you're comfortable with his judgement that you are in fact beautiful.

Who says you have to be skinny to be sexy?
Who says your breasts have to be "perky" to be sexy?

Answer.... no one!

I know exactly what you mean though.... it’s about how you feel about yourself on the inside.

My suggestion is maybe don’t go straight to having sex and instead maybe "snuggle" with him and then both of you take your tops of and then just get nice and relaxed with each other having tops off and then on another occasion u can take all your clothes off… and let the good times roll!!

Then you can take it from there.

Wow first post!

Good advice Os2, and welcome to the board.

I am not anywhere near skinny and my breast are quickly heading south. However I am found by my man and others to be very sexy and desirable. I don't get it, but I go with what they think and I project a confindence that if others think I am then it must be true.

Your guy knows what you look like. Clothes don't hide that much of our shape do they? If your both ready to have sex then you must know and trust each other. You can tell him that your nervous and a little insecure with your body. He will no doubt reassure you that he likes you just the way you are. Do yourself a favor and believe him.

Also no one says you have to be naked to have sex or have a bunch of lights on. I personally like a candle going and I wear some nice lingerie that leaves all the important bits exposed and the ones I don't like (stomach) covered up. He should respect your wishes on that.

Now just relax and enjoy each other and all will be great.