First off, sorry for the long post. I like to get into detail, to assure everyone what I am doing.
I have been going out with her for almost 2 months now.
I have been with about 8 girls, but for my girl I am her first guy.
With that said, I would like to say there is absolutely nothing better on God's green earth then getting a female to climax.
I have been doing everything I know to get her off, but so far no luck, but close! I love performing oral on her sweet little self, but I do the tease that every girl cannot stand; kissing and gently gnawing on the inner thighs and lower stomach. After about 5 min I outline her lips with my tongue and then go to the clit and focus on it.
Then I use my fingers, first one (because she is still tight and I love it) then I gradually get to two fingers and rotate them, gently massaging her g-spot with my finger tips. After about 15-20 min, I notice my chin, where it has been resting around the vaginal opening, is soaking wet, but her emotions have remained the same since I started... I mean her eyes are shut and her waist is moving around, but I can just tell it is not doing much.
Anyways, she is kind of a loud girl, in general. I can only imagine what she would sound like actually having a real climax. Her best friend and I are expecting the damn neighbors to be awakened one I get her off.
So far, I am the only one getting off. I can control how long I go. Before with condoms, it was at least 30 min I could go for 2 hours. Now she is on BC and I can go anywhere between 10min to at least an hour so there is plenty of time for her to get off.
But she has been saying since our first time having sex, she wants to take a shower. Since we are both 19 and live with our parents, it's hard to find time.
So I am getting a hotel room saturday night. Just me and her, and I will be doing everything to my ability to get her off. Maybe since she is so aroused by the idea of sex in the shower, she will get off in there.
What are good shower sex tips? I never had sex in the shower. I am only 19 so shower sex isn't TOO common around my age. I want to make her first shower experience unforgettable.
Thanks everyone!!
Please see the sticky post entitled The Program and do that - she'll climax.
Just take your time about it.
WEAR YOUR CONDOMS!!!
It is UNFAIR to have her pump hormones into her body that put her at risk hile you get off "scot-free". It is NOT just about pregnancy or diseases.
What kind of man are you that you will let her, that sweety you're so 'into', bear all the responsiblity for safe sex?
It is great that you're not selfish and all but YES, wear your coondoms. IF nothing else it show that you give a damn.
Her wanting to shower should have given you two clues: 1 she has issues re: sex; and 2. sex is messy. "wanting a shower" is femme-speak, buddy.
Showers are great for foreplay but the main event is better elsewhere. Any couple who have difficulty having sex whilst standing will have difficulty in the shower.
Here we go, again! I just spent a good part of yesterday and today answering similar questions and concerns. Please read my replies to the various questions and posts "d-boy" has been asking.
In addition, please go to the Index and read each of the articles, particularly those on making out, experience differences, and, Foreplay. Pay particular attention to the discussions about communication, feedback, and, time durations.
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thanks!
Hey dancingdoc, I noticed you are in Northern California? Where about if you mind me asking? I am in the bay area.
Sacramento.
Hey, I didn't mean to sound harsh or critical. It is just that we have many articles that address all manner of concerns people have regarding relationships, matters of the heart, and sex, and, I just spent hours working with this individual and a couple of others and was drained when I read your post. I will be happy to work with you and answer questions, as will others; however, we do ask that people do their "homework", first, by browsing the Index, reading, and doing site searches.
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I wanted to shower with my boyfriend because it's intimate (to me anyways) and because he looks so hot naked (and even hotter in the shower), not because of the "underlying messages" that EEK mentioned.
Have you even spoken to her about her not climaxing? Have you asked her how she gets the job done? Have you spoken or asked her anything at all having to do with her climax?
I'm 17 and I have showered with my boyfriend plenty. I don't see why you had to mention your age, as if you're trying to justify why you haven't, seems... unnecssary.
Well anyways about the shower, either way it'll be special if she really likes you. Sex in the shower is pretty difficult. When my boyfriend and I have sex in the shower, I usually bend over, place my hands against the wall, and let him penetrate me from behind (probably the easiest position in the shower). I'm pretty flexible so my boyfriend is able to lift my legs, if we choose to have sex facing eachother.
While showering, ask her to relax and wash her body for her. I'm sure she'll enjoy it. Oh and hardcore make out sessions in the shower are awesome.