My girlfriend & I are new to each other sexually, 4 times (i think). i dont know if its because she gets really wet or if i'm too small for her, but i really dont feel a whole lot of sensation when i'm in her.
i am average length (6¼") and average girth
she has given birth twice, once to a very large overdue baby.
is there any truth to a woman being "looser" after childbirth?
are there any postions we could try?
i have a problem staying hard with her, mainly due to lack of sensation.
my personal thought on this one is that i'm used to masterbating, maybe preformance anxiety......i dont know
Generally the sensation of pressure or squeezing felt by the male is at the entrance. During sexual arousal, the vagina expands into a balloon-like shape and the head of the penis is not really "held." It is the vaginal sphincter muscles that hold the penis tightly.
Childbirth does loosen up the entire structure - makes the vagina a bit larger and stretched the muscles at the entrance. In the days when the diaphragm was the primary mode of contraception, it always had to be fitted again after childbirth. Often, this is not noticeable to the male; sometimes it is. For you, it is. Kegel exercises (use a search engine) will help keep these muscles toned and will somewhat decrease the sense of looseness for you. General physical conditioning also helps.
One position that could help if you are both relatively trim is:
After insertion, she can close her legs and you place your legs outside hers. This will place greater pressure on the penis and, because penetration is limited, the pressure will be around the corona or glas giving you greater stimulation. This also has the advantage of causing the thrusting penis to rub right over her clitoris. Not all people can do this but it is a nice alternative position.
thanks for the advise!
hmmm... me thinks me should try that position someday...?