[QUOTE=kly;262982][COLOR="blue">im 18 and i have a 5 month old baby and an amazing boyfriend. [/COLOR]

Congratulations! and welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you will enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about--like yours. In addition, if you click on the site's Home Page you will find even more information.

I recommend that the two of you read each of the articles listed in the Index, together or separately, then discuss what you have learned, and add the information to what each of you already knows. Knowledge is empowering! [COLOR="blue">

i have never had an orgasm while having sex with my boyfriend. he was my first and i've never had sex with anyone but him.
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Making love is not what we do to each other, it is what we do with and for each other in partnership. The key to success is exploring and learning together--then, practice, practice, practice.

That you have not experienced orgasms while making love is most likely the result of technique, a lack of feedback, and, rushing to the finish line. More on all this, below.*

[COLOR="blue">it doesnt even feel good and he has a really small penis and i've been faking all along but i dont want to tell him that because i love him and dont wanna hurt his feelings. [/COLOR]

Please clarify: what doesn't feel good, intercourse? Fooling around and making out? Both?

Communication is a prerequisite to having a happy, successful, relationship. Men are not mind readers. Women are much more insightful, yet not mind readers, either. That said, how are each of you going to fix problems in your relationship, whatever they are if you do not talk to and confide in the other?

Penis size is seldom a concern. There is an oft used saying that is: "it's not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean that's important." Put another way, it is technique or methodology that is important. Even though you are a girl, I recommend reading the very first article in the Index.

[COLOR="blue">i thinks it might just be me though because i can get off playing with my clit but not when i finger myself. can someone give me some advise please? what should i do?[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

You have mastered the first objective, transitioning from a pre-orgasmic girl/woman to an orgasmic woman. That you can masturbate and climax on your own is another key to your success in enjoying orgasms when making love. Other articles will cover this next bit of information in detail. It is important for everyone to understand that each of us is responsible for our own orgasms. We do not give them away. All any of us can hope for is to help our partner achieve his/hers.

Orgasms strictly from engaging in intercourse are rare. What most knowledgeable, skilled, caring, lovers will do is to reach around and finger his partner's clitoris while stroking. Please read this, again.

Lastly, it is important to know and understand that making love is a process, not a jump to conclusion. Males of the species can be UP and ready for an orgasm in a matter of moments, not so the fairer gender. Women require a good half hour or longer (within reason) devoted to fooling around, making out {Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting) before ever getting to the Foreplay stage and/or intercourse in order to become fully aroused. If the two of you are not enjoying this time together you are quite frankly placing the proverbial cart before the horse and rushing things. Women require the time and attention in order to get all reved up and to peak their ardor, men not so much, yet we also benefit from taking our time and and going slowly. I am willing to bet that if the two of you take it slow and work on building each other's level of arousal, sex will begin to feel much much better and be more enjoyable.

Please give us some additional information and we'll see if we can help the two of you out even more. In the meantime, please do your homework and talk about what you've learned.

I hope this is of help.

-doc

Start by focusing on what you can do rather than what you cannot do. And stop faking. Most of us do sometimes but that is different from living a lie.

One-quarter of all women never experience orgasm. Only a quarter frequently experience orgasm from penetration and thrusting. You must be with fully half of us who require additional or different stimulation to reach orgasm. You can get their with clitoral stimulation and that is enough to build upon. Teach him to play with your genitals. Women's genitals take different play from men's and few men fully recognize that. It is possible to have quite a satisfactory sex life without penetration. You have the advantage of being a woman and we can enjoy sex without orgasm. Figure out what you do that gets you there. Then, teach him how to do the same for you. Then, progress from there.

I have had a few patients who experienced their first orgasms in their thirties with a few children. The oldest patient to reach her first orgasm was 54. There is hope.

kly i was 43 before i had my first full orgasm,and i'd been sexually active for 20yrs.I couldn't even get myself off till i read the female masturation tips listed in the SI101 index.Now i can have multiple orgasms both during sex and when i play with myself .Like Brandye said there is hope so don't give up.

I have the same problem i have three kids with the same man and he is the only 1 i have slept w/ but never had an orgasm i think i stop myself though i make him stop when i feel that i'm almost there and i don't know why i can't even do it myself i get almost there and then can't go anymore i don't know why but i would love some advice