> i am deathly afraid of being on top

"Deathly?" That is a very strong reaction and a bit over the top in my estimation. Consider all the other "101 positions" and what is all that different about the Woman Superior compared to any of the others?

In this position, the man reclines on his back face up while the woman straddles his torso facing him. A variation is to turn the other way around. With the usual orientation, she can squat, rest on her knees, bed over and rest on her hands or forearms.

This position is most beneficial for women because it positions her pieces-parts in close and constant contact with his thus enabling her to achieve an orgasm very easily. In addition to raising up and down in order to stroke the penis and to generate friction for her labia and clitoris, she can do some undulating movements while sitting on him so that his pubic mound rubs directly against her genitals. Rock and roll, undulations, side-to-side, and bouncing are all doable in addition. Just go with the flow of the moment and have fun.

The man can elevate his hips and hold the position as he desires. I like it when she leans over and I can position her nipples against mine for added emotional connections. The man has a different view of things and can also fondle her breasts. The position is generally more pleasurable for her than him with regard to how much stimulation is generated so he may need another form of stimulation in order to cum. It just depends.

The position is an important one for first time intercourse because it places the woman in control. She can govern where to position the tip of the penis, how much pressure to apply, how fast or slow to insert it, and how best to stroke each other.

I hope this is of help. Got questions? I'd really like to know what it is that has you so affraid.

Thank you for the additional information and clarification.

> Well i am afraid because i dont know what to do.. i understand the positioning and everything, its just the act of doing it..

OK, but lets not get morbidly paranoid over this by labeling your lack of knowledge or confidence as being "deathly" be it a sexual position, or some other activity for which you might lack information, training or skill. I learned to fly an airplane and upon flying solo for the first time I was certainly full of anxiety, had some confidence issues but certainly was not deathly afraid at being a thousand feet in the air with no visible means of support and no one to come rescue me if need be. I had to trust in my training and my newfound ability and keep a clear head if I hoped to make it back to earth in one piece.

You can read many of the "how to" threads on this site and glean a lot of information and instruction. Heck, I just gave you a broad general how to, above. So, with practice comes confidence. So what if your first attempt or two is not as desired? You are learning a new skill and until it is perfected there might well be some oops moments, yet who cares as long as the two of you are happy and understand that things will improve with experience.

> i feel like the guy should be more in control, not the woman.

This is fine, yet in the overall scheme of things, very restrictive and limiting. A relationship is and should be an equal partnership. This means that if a woman wants to instigate lovemaking and/or to choose a particular position or activity, then why not. Variety is spice and where is it written that men are always the leaders in other activities besides Ballroom dancing?? If you do not want to take charge, fine, but at some point things are going to become very boring and stale.

> i dunno why, but thats just how ive seen sex..like... in my eyes....I dont know exactly what my problem is and why im so afraid to do it... i guess because it doesnt seem as natural

My suggestion is to read more be it on this site, the internet at large, the library, or by purchasing sex manuals, and try to become more enlightened about the matter of love and romance. A common thread to people who have been together for awhile is how ho-hum and mundane and boring and uninteresting sex has become. Do not let your relatlionship suffer the same fate.

OK, this is easy enough to answer.

> i guess i'll just be nervous on it..

There is nothing wrong with being anxious and uncertain. Your anxiety will go away as you do it a few times and it becomes familiar.

> i mean.. what i dont understand is- where do i put my hands? how does it work with a gurl on top, where does he put HIS hands, that kind of things.

Last thing, first: With the woman on top, a man has the ability to hold, cup , and support his partner's breasts from bouncing around so much; in addition, he can fondle them and the nipples. He can continue to touch and caress her body wherever he can reach and in ways designed to please both of you.

Your hands can remain free at your sides, you can touch and caress yourself as appropriate and need be; and, if using your knees, to raise and lower yourself you can also place your palms or the heal of your hands over his nipples--or, on his chest, or wherever you want them that feels good to you. Lean over a bit more and rest your hands on the bed, or, rest on your forearms. If you lean down, he can cup your face and you can kiss. If you lower yourself all the way, then whisper sweat nothings to each other. This is a good variation because of the full body contact it affords the two of you.

As mentioned, the Woman Superior position primarily benefits the woman because she has control over all aspects of intercourse from where to position the penis, how slow or fast it will go in, how far; how slow or fast the stroking will be, when and how to thrust; and, for seeing to her own pleasure and orgasm by rubbing her pieces-parts against his pubic mound and base of the penis. Most men do not get a great deal of stimulation out of this position so their needs may have to be addressed, later.

OK, we've discussed raising and lowering your body repeadedly in order to pleasure him as much as possible and for letting his penis rub against your labia and clitoris thus giving you friction. By sitting on him and rocking around you receive the maximum amount of friction on a continuous basis thus pretty much guaranteeing that if you are going to have an orgasm, you have the required friction of which you control.

> i mean. with him on top, i put my hands across his back, through his hair, that sort of thing, but.. it's a whole different ball game with me on top, ya know?

Not totally; lean forward, rest on your forearms or simply rest your body on his chest to chest, and he can do these same things for you.

I believe with this or any other position or uncertainty, you will throw caution and worries to the wind when you become very highly aroused. Your inhibitions will not matter as the passion begins to peak. Feel free to explore, make discoveries as well as fau pauxs and simply have fun without being overly concerned about being right and proper and being great right out of the gate.

Good questions. Got more?

roll over with him....he probably isn't going to mind. confidence in yourself would be the best advantage in my opinion. try to focus on something non-specific, like how it feels in general, to avoid thinking down on yourself.

guys i need some help ,does any of you know how to reshape my penis ,when its erect its pointed to ground and i want it to be looking up ???
please tell me how to do it ,some people told me its by the way i jerk off but i dont know the right way

lol yeah, this is her spotlight. make a new topic, im sure someone might be able to help you.

although, it could be just your bone structure. my penis tilts to the left a little. just dont stress it, unless it is THAT important.

sorry sweetness, back to your topic...

i dunnu where to post it !!!!!!!!!

and by the way the penis is a muscle not a bone

Ok I get what ye mean,

well basically, where you put your hands, what about if you put them by the side of you (bed perhaps?) or on his face? or on his chest?

as for the motion, you know them big bouncy balls you might of had as a child? (like a massive ball with handles) it's like that, if not erm....

Move your pelvis backwards and forwards

Jump up and down?

Not sure if that helped, but if i think of anything else I'll post it ;)

~*~ Law ~*~

[QUOTE=presly87]i dunnu where to post it !!!!!!!!![/QUOTE]

Post in mens topic, or something

use the "New Thread" option top left of the forum screen :)

[QUOTE=~*~Law~*~]Post in mens topic, or something

use the "New Thread" option top left of the forum screen :)[/QUOTE]

what he said, only on the top right of the topics, it says "new thread" (or new topic?) click it, make a title for it, and then post your question ;)

hey Sweetness12, my girlfriend is affraid of going ontop as well im not sure why n i really wish she would just try it, ive done it b 4 with a chick on top but and trust me its not hard 2 work out once ur up there
good luck anyway

RELAX, it is natural at times. You're not expected to know all the stuff of positions and things. Knowing where to put hands, etc...if your partner is loving and caring, if will be alright.

i myself am rather scared of being on top. I had my first time two nights ago, so im still getting used to being on the bottom. -smirk- But same thoughts basically. I wouldn't know what to do on top. I mean even after reading all of this, i would still feel rather hesitant about it. I dont think i would have the guts to do.