I can understand what Camman is saying being a straight guy myself. I think you have learned something forace, regarding honesty and the sexual chemistry of your relationship.

From what I gather from your post, you have discussed this with your fella. Guys principle means of pleasuring their woman is with their penis. It's as important for them as breast size is to girls....but for different reasons. He still has to be able to perform with it and he will hope for or expect positive results....to him his penis isn't just for appearances. If his woman doesn't register any feelings he will assume she doens't care for him, and assume she may in time seek another guy.

If it happens you act indifferent about sex with him he may feel all the responsibility is on him and he is failing both you and himself. Should he chance to meet another girl who has more experience with charming male egos, he may find it difficult to resist her emotional support.

In my experience, I've been with many girls who didn't get much from vaginal sex.....but when we did anal sex they were like a different woman, wild with pleasure. Oral sex was also a turn on for them and that couldn't help build any guy up.

Perhaps it is becase a girls vagina has most of it's nerve endings near the opening or in that lower 1/3 of the chanal.
Her clitoris isn't near the parts of her he stimulates.
A girls rectile duct has nerve endings all along it's length thus is able to offer more stimulation to her as she feels his movements inside her regardless of his penis size.

I wouldn't suggest trying to decieve him at this time with
newfound feeling as he may feel it faked. Possibly talk to him as Camman mentioned and explain you may get more out of it with experience. I would have never told the girl I was a virgin with that my first impression was....is that all there is to this? And this is what everyone is so crazy about? Yet I had that feeling that night. It was really the emotional closeness that took place when f***ing that made me want to continue to be intimate with her.

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sorry to be a dick but ...
I would feel bad to if i couldnt please u. Our dicks are a picky topic. Not trying to be mean but trying to let u knwo.
If u say its just this or that he will still feel bad ( in my opion)
I think if u blame yourself alittle it might make him feel alittle better about his masculinity.
Once again i am not trying to say u cant tell him what u want to all i am saying is that this perdicument is a big selfestem smasher and that if u said something like" im just not good in bed " ( not that its true more of like a white lie) it might make him feel better and try to comfort u.
But i am just trying to bring up other side to give u options , Do what u think is best .
Good luck !

forace there is so much to sex and feeling pleasure from it. Many women don't feel much from just penetration alone. The whole body especially the clitrois needs to be involved. Like Tease said there is a ton of great informantion on this board. Look in the how to please her forum and start reading and learning.

Reassure your boyfriend that it isn't him and you both just need to do lots of exploring to find what works for you. That is afterall the fun part about sex.

You're not alone in this.
If you read through various posts all over this forum you will see that many women do not get pleasure from vaginal sex.
Girls are more likely to get off on foreplay and oral sex than just sex because our clit is the most sensitive place on our body and it needs a little attention.