Welcome back! (Where do you go every six months or so?)

[QUOTE=LangstonW;252229][COLOR="blue">For some reason I don't really care for making out. Im a guy and making out is alright, but to me its very over-rated, and I know I don't enjoy it as much as the average person.
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This is certainly a contradiction in terms. How can it be "over-rated", yet understood to be a necessary and critical part of arousing our partner and becoming aroused ourselves? In addition, it is a physical way of connecting emotionally with our partner.

[COLOR="blue">What am I missing??? It kinda does bug me that I don't like making out that much (since it is a big part of hooking up with a women).[/COLOR]

* What bugs you about making out?

* Please explain why you believe spending time kissing, cuddling, and fondling, are over-rated.

* Why do you believe people make out?

* How much time do you devote to Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, all before getting to the Foreplay stage?
+ with a significant other
+ with a casual date

* What is your goal when you are planning to have an orgasm be it from Foreplay activities and/or intercourse?[/QUOTE]

I am asking these questions in order to understand why you believe as you do and for what information to provide in order for you to become more enthusiastic and engaged when connecting with someone on an emotional level.

-doc

"Making out" can be, and often is, a rather superficial relationship leading to either sexual satisfaction or sexual frustration. Do not assume too much about the average person; you are not alone.

If you are getting to know women better through other activities, eventually one will likely ring your bell and you enjoy it. Sometimes takes a while.

In other words as the saying goes: "He's (read: you) just not that into you." If true, then this is why you find no real pleasure in the process of touchy-feely make out sessions.

No doubt, someday, after dating lots of people, one will come along who will match you spark for spark and pheromone for pheromone and the "chemistry" will connect you. When this happens you'll probably discover that you want to hold hands, kiss, touch and caress her, and, ultimately arouse each other.

If you will take the time to read The Program, found elsewhere in this forum, you will see a lot of hands-on "making-out" - at least 20 minutes worth.

Your problem is two-fold:

1. you're focusing on yourself too much
2. You do not have an upon mind, you're discounting the process

Skimping on the process of having great sex results in not having great sex, regardless of your partner. Just like any other 'sport' you can't go into sex "cold" and expect to give/get excellent results. "Making out" is the warm-up for vigorous sex.

In addition: you are NOT going to learn one of the most crucial skills a man can have - how to "listen to" and "read" a woman's body. Her involuntary reactions give important information - but you will miss all of that and find women leaving you after only one interlude and not coming back for more. They have classified you as a poor lover and not worth their time, not when there are so many other,better, lovers out there.

It is up to you but I recommend that you open up your mind and get with The Program.

Seriously - you might see a podcast or RSS

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;252249]
In addition: you are NOT going to learn one of the most crucial skills a man can have - how to "listen to" and "read" a woman's body. Her involuntary reactions give important information - but you will miss all of that and find women leaving you after only one interlude and not coming back for more. They have classified you as a poor lover and not worth their time, not when there are so many other,better, lovers out there.[/QUOTE]

I agree. I'm not much of a kisser but I'll certainly take the time for cuddles and caresses and tickles. It gives me a chance to learn what sounds and movements means "yeah that's good" and which ones mean "eh no thanks" without having to learn these things on the fly in the heat of the moment. Being a great lover is all about being responsive to your partner. Ideally, when done right, sex can happen so that you never hear someone give directions even if it's your two's first time together as long as you've both taken the time to learn. Making out is a MAJOR part of that learning process.

Ladies take heed that this applies to you too! Guys hate crappy lays just as much (they're just too whipped to complain, usually)!

It is just a way to get started and to learn about the person you are with. It also is the beginning of some foreplay. I am one that enjoys it and during my dating years, was just the beginning of getting to know the lady I was with. An even learn about her sexuallity. It was exciting to experience even the kissing and initial beginnings of a more sexual relationship and was very important in learning both about her and about myself and what worked for me. Now, even being married, it is a nice way to get things started and to have an enjoyable night of sex. Dating it started with kissing and then if she was open to more touching and feeling. It was nice since this was a new experience for me also and then to find how different girlfriends responded was also nice. They all didn't like the same things and I found I didn't like some of the ways they responded to me.

"Now EEK showing a podcast, thats a turn on."

LOL

We will see how it goes.