This ties in with my boyfriend and myself--I do not like to touch myself and I don't exactly like him to touch me either. What I mean by that is, It feels disgusting when I try to finger myself, I just don't like the feel of it at all. I also get nothing from it on the rare occasions that I have tried, I guess because of the overwhelming feeling of disgustingness. And when it comes to my boyfriend, I feel the same exact way, kind of. :eek:
As weird as all of it sounds, that's exactly how I feel and I cannot make a conclusion for it. Fingering would probably help us out a LOT in the sexual area considering I have not had my hymen popped yet so I'm a very hard person to arouse (you have no idea HOW hard I am to arouse when I say that) so I'm kind of stuck on the whole situation. Does anyone have any advice?
Thanks.
I kind of know how you are feeling with the arousability thing (yay words). As for you hymen, it may have all ready been "popped" by any variety of things, and fingering may not automatically do that if it hasn't. I wouldn't really worry about your hymen being intact or not at this point, it seems like you have a while to go before you get to any intercourse.
And you do realize you don't have to use your fingers to masterbate, yes? Use your imagination... have you got a massaging showerhead? Etc. I'm sure the feeling of revoltion will go away over time. If you haven't, go ahead and grab a mirror and get familiar to yourself down there. It's not so bad. ;)
And have you talked to your boyfriend about this?
maybe don't try to penetrate with your finger. just stimulate your clit. you don't even have to touch the "gross" part. you can keep your finger on top of the hood where your clit is and it will feel great. then when you get used to that you can try fingering again.
[QUOTE=Oh, Silly Girl]I kind of know how you are feeling with the arousability thing (yay words). As for you hymen, it may have all ready been "popped" by any variety of things, and fingering may not automatically do that if it hasn't. I wouldn't really worry about your hymen being intact or not at this point, it seems like you have a while to go before you get to any intercourse.
And you do realize you don't have to use your fingers to masterbate, yes? Use your imagination... have you got a massaging showerhead? Etc. I'm sure the feeling of revoltion will go away over time. If you haven't, go ahead and grab a mirror and get familiar to yourself down there. It's not so bad. ;)
And have you talked to your boyfriend about this?[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I realise that I don't have to use my fingers to masturbate. But that stimulates another problem....
But no I haven't talked to my boyfriend about it, we haven't had any intimate time in a VERY long time so bringing it up out of nowhere would be awkward.
[QUOTE=orchid]maybe don't try to penetrate with your finger. just stimulate your clit. you don't even have to touch the "gross" part. you can keep your finger on top of the hood where your clit is and it will feel great. then when you get used to that you can try fingering again.[/QUOTE]
This is where I was talking about how ^ above, that stimulates another problem. I don't like to touch myself anywhere down there. That includes my clit and lips. It feels disgusting and even if I was horny and wanted to masturbate (that never really happens), I'd totally turn myself off by touching myself anywhere below. lol.
But I have nothing like a shower head that detaches or anything that vibrates or anything.
you can buy like a little hand held back or neck massager. maybe that wouldn't be as uncomfortable for you to use since it not a "sex toy"
Well I could but seeing as I've never had a job and am at home with my parents...
Plus since I'm on summer break I never go anywhere so I can't buy anything.