What are you trying to say?

(edit) I get it. Sorry i was tired when i read it.

Masturbate BEFOREHAND.
Focus upon her.
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[QUOTE=crossy;231602]im lighten my load in about 10 minutes sometimes and yet to give my gf an orgaism, and ideaasss on both of these things?
and ideas would help.
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It is important to know that time is relative. When you say you climax in ten minutes, are you saying you are stroking and thrusting away that long? If so, you should know that many women reply to us that they become SORE, bored, and tired if intercourse lasts much longer. If you want the lovemaking session to last longer, then take breaks, go back to fooling around and making out, and then reengage.

Other articles listed in the Index discuss the female orgasm. Please read them. We do not give orgasms away. Each of us is responsible for our own. All any of us can do is to help our partner achieve them. For her to orgasm, she must have learned how to masturbate and then to be able to do so regularly and consistently. Once she knows what it takes, she can then help you assist her by taking your fingers and moving them so that you learn to mimic her unique and specific technique. (The same goes for you by the way.) In addition to learning how to do what she does, each of you should be providing verbal or non-verbal feedback on how you are responding to caresses and for what you need now/next. We benefit from an internal feedback when masturbating, however, this is not possible when the reins are turned over to a partner. That said, we must supply some verbal cues or body language cues like a squeeze of the hand, or whatever else the two of you work out.

Please read the articles referenced, and if you have additional questions or concerns, do not hesitate to ask. I hope this is of help.

[QUOTE=crossy;231602]im lighten my load in about 10 minutes sometimes and yet to give my gf an orgaism, and ideaasss on both of these things?
and ideas would help.
:D[/QUOTE]

well I've done it in less time lol...in fact most us guys probably have. It don't matter all that much. Don't worry about it... sometimes you will be 10 minutes other times you will be 20... the more experienced you get you realise it's about slowing down when you need to..and as doc says. take breaks, pull out and give oral or use fingers or even just massage and touch your girlfriend. Believe it or not your girlfriend may even orgasm in just the way you touch, lick, her breasts LOL

I would kill for 10 minutes. Hell, I'd kill for 5 right now! I'm a mess lately. It's been getting worse for some time. My wife and I have had some issues sexually that we are only now starting to address. It's not a good situation, I should never have let it get so far out of control. The good news is we both want to fix it.

If it makes you feel better, I doubt I last a minute right now on average. Part of it is that she is very tight, the other part is that my mind is all messed up. Regardless, be happy with 10. I might actually trade a kidney to be able to last that long right now.

If someone were to spent 5 min thrusting then go back to kissing/touching for x min and then back to thrusting for 5 min. If someone repeated this pattern for some time (1/2-1 hr) would the women still feel bored?

i'd say 10 mins. is pretty good, like dancin doc said, just slow down if you feel like it gonna happen, then continue whenever you feel up to it.lol me and my gf once only engaged in sex for about 2 mins. on account of me, but i like to think it happens to the best of us

yeah it happens to everyone don't it...my girlfriend seems to have this problem of getting very wet way too quickly and then that seems to make me cum a lot quicker too...or just depends how horny I am and how bad I need it..

I would also kill for 10 minutes as I will often go off right after I go in. Then other times I will last 30 minutes (I love those times, if only I could consistently do that.

[QUOTE=mattc;231665]I would kill for 10 minutes. Hell, I'd kill for 5 right now! I'm a mess lately. It's been getting worse for some time. My wife and I have had some issues sexually that we are only now starting to address. It's not a good situation, I should never have let it get so far out of control. The good news is we both want to fix it.

If it makes you feel better, I doubt I last a minute right now on average. Part of it is that she is very tight, the other part is that my mind is all messed up. Regardless, be happy with 10. I might actually trade a kidney to be able to last that long right now.[/QUOTE]

Now that you are making strides to improve your sexual relationship, do not overlook the many helpful insightful articles listed in the Index. Also, you might consider going to the library and checking out "The Joy of Sex".

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I've read "The Joy of Sex" before. I think that we do both enjoy sex, I think we both began to resent the other for various reasons. The pressure I put on myself was too immense to overcome. Last night was better. Not a complete success, and we both ended up laughing but I think that's progress.

I tried to use the squeeze method. I pulled out and applied pressure, only I must have done it to much or too little because rather than stopping the orgasm it made me come. It wasn't great sexually, but it was funny as hell! Especially when I muttered "well that isn't what was supposed to happen". She turned around and just started laughing, she tried to comfort me but I think she knew I thought it was funny too. Again, this is a step in the right direction.

[QUOTE=mattc;231706]I've read "The Joy of Sex" before. I think that we do both enjoy sex, I think we both began to resent the other for various reasons. The pressure I put on myself was too immense to overcome. Last night was better. Not a complete success, and we both ended up laughing but I think that's progress.

I tried to use the squeeze method. I pulled out and applied pressure, only I must have done it to much or too little because rather than stopping the orgasm it made me come. It wasn't great sexually, but it was funny as hell! Especially when I muttered "well that isn't what was supposed to happen". She turned around and just started laughing, she tried to comfort me but I think she knew I thought it was funny too. Again, this is a step in the right direction.[/QUOTE]

Yeah sounds like good progress to be honest, need to be at ease about it rather than freaked out...

After you've cum once, what is it like if you wash to wash yourself...give it 5 minutes and go back at it again...do you cum quickly the 2nd time or do you not bother trying again after?

No, after the first I can go for some time. Many times however my wife isn't game for a second time. If I have a pretty good feeling we're going to have sex that night I'll jack off before hand, but so much lately it's very hit or miss with her. Like I was her toy when she wanted sex and I was S.O.L. when she didn't. Thankfully that seems to be changing. I am very happy to say we are progressing.