I have finaly found myself situated with a girl who I regularly have sex with. I used to masterbate VERY often. I figured that since I masterbated so often, the time I would last would be fairly long when I started having sex. I couldnt have been more wrong. I have had sex several times, and my length of time that I can stay without orgasming is not getting any longer. Even with no foreplay, jut the feeling of being inside her gets me off very quickly. This is embarrassing too! What can I do to lengthen my time? Any kind of training?
Thu, 11/15/2007 - 19:56
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I cum too quickly
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Squeeze training
> What can I do to lengthen my time? Any kind of training?
Hello Gman, welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. You can begin by reading through the index:
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[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;199517]> What can I do to lengthen my time? Any kind of training?
Hello Gman, welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. You can begin by reading through the index:
--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics
and the Posting Guidelines, both found at the top of your screen on the Main page.
Specifically, please read this article:
Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controling Premature Ejaculation
I also suggest doing a search of the Forums. Use the advanced search function using my name and a search term like "Premature Ejaculation" or "coming too soon" or "lasting longer".[/QUOTE]
Thanks for your response. This does help some issues. However, my largest problem isn't that I cannot control it, it is that it just comes up too quickly (only a few minutes into sex). I would like to be able to go at it for much longer before having to worry about stopping to let it cool down. Thanks!
Hi, is there any way to work on lasting longer, however without a girls help. I say this because I have no girlfriend, as well would be embarrased to do the stop and start technique with a "random" hookup. Thank you
I have heard a few people say (not on this site) that a fleshlight works well as far as conditioning yourself to last longer...if you really wanna last longer, masterbate alot, with a tight grip and fast, since a vagina isnt as tight as your fist, and you cant go as fast, you will last a lot longer...except after a while it gets really lame lasting longer than 15 minutes
[quote=Gman32] However, my largest problem isn't that I cannot control it, it is that it just comes up too quickly (only a few minutes into sex). I would like to be able to go at it for much longer before having to worry about stopping to let it cool down.[/quote]
I understand; and as much as many of us would like those urges to come later than sooner, this is the whole idea of learning the various ways of controlling when we climax. Just grin and bear it, I suppose.
[quote=LangstonW] is there any way to work on lasting longer, however without a girls help. I say this because I have no girlfriend, as well would be embarrased to do the stop and start technique with a "random" hookup.[/quote]
There are two contributing factors; first, if you are ignoring your internal feedback then your inner self will take over and push you beyond the point of no return; second, if you do not recognize those sensations that present themselves immediately prior to a climax, then it will occur by sneaking up on you.
This "inner self" thing is a behavior we have much like when we declare that we are on a diet, yet when an intermission is on TV we get up, go to the refrigerator, get a snack, walk back to our chair and eat, only later realizing that we did this and did not stop ourself at the time. We have to keep a portion of our conscious brain "awake" and aware of what we are doing and what we want to do and then to give it the power to stop the behavior we really do not want to pursue, whether it is snacking or climaxing, or.... Call it mind over mind.
Second, you can practice the exercise each time you masturbate in order to learn to associate certain sensations with the onset of a climax, and then those specific to being at the brink of a climax, yet when you can still maintain control. Now, practice learning how to integrate the two. When you know what an approaching climax feels like, let one area of your brain enjoy the orgasmic experience while a small portion controls the timing.
Please note that you can orgasm without ejaculating. The orgasm is the flexing of the pc muscle. The release of sperm from the testicles is the ejaculation. To prepare for this, do your Kegels (by delibertely stoppng when urinating, holding, releasing and repeating) and by recognising, as Dancin' Doc has said, the signs and backing off. It is called "edge play". this is how you can have multiple orgasms before ejaculating - which brings on your refractory period.