Hi,
I tried giving a blowjob for the first time last week and couldn't get the guy to cum. I'm not sure what I was doing wrong, should I just be taking the head and a bit of the shaft in my mouth and whilst sucking and circling with my tongue should I move my hand up and down the shaft? Or should I instead be moving my head up and down the shaft?
I've tried looking at the tips on this board but am unsure how long I should tease for etc and once I've taken it in my mouth should I not return to say, licking his balls?
I tasted a bit of salty fluid but wasn't sure what it was, I'm sure it wasn't cum because it didn't sound like he was climaxing and nothing came out at a high velocity.
I'm just a bit disappointed with myself and now this seems to be adding more pressure on me to perform next time.
Thank you for any input.
what u tasted was precum. have u asked what he likes? try giving a hand job at the same time as sucking and circling with your tongue on the head. that should make him cum.
don't beat ur self up it was ur first time u cant expect yourself to be a natural the first time, it takes practice. and dont be afraid to ask what he wants
Be sure you go through the [URL=http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_him/10856-blow-job_techniques_1... 101 listing for lots and lots of info.
If you have done your reading then the main thing to remember is to COMMUNICATE. You are new at this so don't feel pressure to be successful right away. Talking about your feelings with him will help take the pressure off because you'll know he is expecting to teach you about himself as opposed to sitting back and enjoying. But make sure you ask him to give you signals when something feels good. If think that verbal signals are un-erotic, try something like having him squeeze your shoulder or similar.
Also, remember to use a hand to stroke the part of the shaft that's not in your mouth as it can be very helpful.
Also, remember that not all men cum from BJs...maybe they can only cum from intercourse...or vice versa. Women can be the same. They can/can't orgasm from oral or intercouse or one or the other.
Like the others mentioned, you can't expect to be a pro the first time. Rarely is anyone a pro the first time they try anything new.
And even if he is one of those guy who has a hard time cumming from BJs... it doesn't mean he isn't enjoying it while you are doing it.
Don't worry about it my first time giving a BJ didn't turn out well either. As i've gained experience i've gained techniques that most guys like. When you tease play with his balls and flick your tongue first around the base of his penis then drag just the tip up the underside of his penis and put light pressure on the vein there. When you get to the top use your other hand to stroke his shaft and swirl your tongue around the head of his penis. Usually the guys are pretttyyy much trying to shove it in your face by now if you do it long enough then just take it in your mouth and suck away though you might want to lighten up just before he cums and what for him to come down just a little and repeat the process and he'll have a great orgasm.
Thanks to everyone who replied, am feeling more reassured now which is the important thing!