Okay, so my girlfriend came over yesterday, and my parents left us home alone for about 3 hours. So we went upstairs into my room and started kissing, i went to finger her, and she said we can just skip that and go straight to the sex. I was like okay... and for some odd reason, I just couldnt get a hard on. It was the weirdest thing... because I can get them regularly, but last nite I couldn't get one. It was so weird, and so i just fingered her... and she loved it, and then i went downstairs and drank some vodka and rum, and i came up and then it finally went up, and we had sex for about 30 minutes. I just can't figure out why It didnt go up earlier. It kinda scares me because my girlfriend loved the sex, but I dont wanna have this problem again. HELP!:eek:
Sun, 05/13/2007 - 14:10
#1
I Couldn't Get It Up.
Hey, it happens from time to time, so don't worry about it. If you do worry about it, it's likely to happen more often.
Exactly
Plus the fact that you had to go drink suggests that it's just nerves.
Have you guys done stuff at your house before??
Maybe it was nerves that you parents wouldn't be out for 3 hrs but actually come back soon.
Like cycle mentions, it happens to all guys every now and then. Just don't start to depend on alcohol to get you through! lol
First, two things:
Drinking and sex like drinking and doing other things, don't mix. Besides, why would you want to dull your senses for an activity so potentially blissful?
T#2. Weird, yes; however, this is actually a very very common experience for us guys. The condition is known as "Performance Anxiety" and you can do an advanced search on this site using my name and read lots of posts concerning the issue.
Anxiety and the newness of what you were doing just sidetracked your erection. The fix is simple, although, sometimes tricky to do. The answer is quite literally to stop worrying. This happens by gaining more familiarity with your partner and in making out and in particular being seen without clothes on. It also will happen with more experience and confidence on your part. Even if you were comfortable with the situation, there was some part of your subconscious mind that probably was not and this is why you may also have remained limp.
> i went to finger her, and she said we can just skip that and go straight to the sex.
Ah...a "Quickie"! These are good; yet do not let them become a continuous habbit. Devoting half an hour and more to making out before you ever get to the Foreplay is beneficial for you and really necessary for a woman most of the time. More information and insight into the fine art of making out can be found in a series of Sticky posts I wrote for people just starting out--as well as those with experience who need help. Please begin your reading here:
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping
Begin with Chapter Three and then read the first chapter before reading the rest of the thread. Read the information together or separately. Please look around as there are other informational Sticky posts having additional information that will beneficial knowing.