Alright, well me and my girlfriend have been together for going on a year.. and I'm her first boyfriend/kiss/everything.. I've tried to finger her plenty of times, and I can't.. she flips out and says it hurts. I can't even fully get a finger in her before she flips out.. Even if I'm just rubbing the hole a little bit sometimes she cringes and says it hurts..
Could something be wrong, or is she just super tight? What can we do to get rid of this little problem..?:confused:
Yeah, she's still a virgin so I would imagine she still has an intact hymen.. And yeah, I know what I'm doing, I'm not new to the whole thing myself. lol
Is she still a virgin? Does she still have an intact hymen? Do you know what you're doing? there are several reasons for her reaction so more information is required.
Is she getting really wet before you try to slide a finger in? Does she enjoy you touching her down there (other than fingering)?
Yeah, normally she's super wet before I try to finger her.. and yeah, she loves it when I'm just playing with her clit or whatever else.
Okay then the problem isn't down there but up in her head.
She may just want to wait for marriage.
Or she's scared.
maybe she needs to try herself first and see if its gonna hurt that much.
It just sounds like she is not ready for it yet.
Maybe it's best for her to masterbate alone and then tell u what she liked and what she disliked when she was doing it. Tell her to show you how she likes to be touched and where. And when you go to try out what she likes on her, get her fully relaxed first by keeping the communication going - tell her things she loves to hear... give her soft kisses every now and again to calm her. the more relax she is the more she'll let her mental guard down :)
hope it works for u!
you should first penetrate her. then the next time fingering part will be easy business when it comes to that ;) btw 1 .. year already.. how old ru? dont you think it's time for real sex?
ha.. it'd be nice, but shes a good girl.. and i really care about her so its worth the wait.
i know for me, fingering isn't pleasurable at all, at least as far as insertion goes. actual sex is fine, doesn't hurt at all, but there is something different about the texture of the skin on a finger, as opposed to a penis that is very noticable to such a sensitive area. while its not an unbearable pain, and not enough to really *hurt*, its certainly not comfortable.