I know this is a topic everyone talks about, but i'd like to pinpoint my exact problem.
I masterbate regularly, just with my fingers on my clit. I dont finger myself because it doesnt really do anything for me. Anyways (Ive only had sex three times btw) My boyfriend has gone down on me twice. When he licks my clit it doesnt really feel that like much. Maybe he's just not pressing hard enough. I didnt think I rub hard when rubbin my clit. Could it just because im not really used to the feeling? Maybe im too nervous? He's not very good? Lol. When he fingers me though, oh wow lol. I also think it takes me a long time to orgasm from rubbing my clit, it always feels good the whole time (Unless im thinking about it too much.) I could show him how I like it, im just still shy with sex. I feel like im terrible at it lol.
Another small question: Last time we had sex, the next morning I had a small cut or something on my minora labia. Could that have been from not enough juices, or too rough? Possibly both? Or just because im not used to sex lol.
When your partner says your a good kisser and good in bed, do you acctually believe them? I have no experiance, and I feel he's just saying that to make me feel better about later sessions. Any thoughts about this?
Any comments and suggestions are welcome ;)
okay, for the record,
IM IN THE EXACT SAME BOAT AS YOU! lol
it could be because hes only done it twice, and your not totally relaxed and comfortable, therefor your body isnt leting you pleasure from this.
just take a deep breathe and relax, :)
it could be becuase hes too light
ask him to go donw on you and finger you at the same time!
my bf did that, and wow i melted :)
i dont know about the cut though? im guessing friction, maybe but im not entirely sure
and yes you should believe the person your having sex with, tell him to tell you the truth if you think hes lying.
its okay either way, yourve only had sex 3 times, relax and enjoy it, dont stress on if he likes it, he most likely does.. alot.
so calm yourself, lol :)
Somewhere deep in this forum is a thread entitled "Female Sexual Response." Our response is complicated and delicate. Masturbation is certainly the best place to learn but that does not automatically transfer to sex with a partner. It is likely that neither you nor your boyfriend are vary expert at this new activity.
Read the thread and ask more specific questions.
In addition, my suggestion to be added to what has already been said is this:
First, a relationship including the romantic and sexual aspects is a partnership.
Second, regardless of each person's previous experience, each new partnership has a new "Square One" from which to begin.
Third, explore and learn together.
FOURTH, try holding off on the oral stimulation until you are very very aroused, and then invite him to do this. Waiting until you are almost to the brink of an orgasm is an excellent way to introduce oral stimulation, rather than when you are not quite so aroused.
The same holds true for him with you.