hi im 19 years old and i can never get an orgasm through sex. ive been with my current girlfriend twice and nothing. shes came but not me which makes me feel like an *******. im here cuz we had sex last night i had no problems getting it up or keeping it up she even went down on me for about 10 minutes but still nothing. it feels good being with her just i can never get that final push to orgasm. i dont know. i know my penis isnt too small for her. i just want to know is it becuz i used masterbate hardcore and im used to the speed and pressure i wud use? or mabey becuz im not curcumcised. i mean i dont have to orgasm to enjoy having sex with her becuz i have feelings i have strong feelings for her i just want to be able to have the intamacy of cumming with her so she knows she does turn me on and i love her. any advice on anything u think might be the problem dont hesitate i just want to make this right
Tue, 04/03/2007 - 18:23
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i cant orgasm please read and respond
I agree w/NizeGie but your lady is able to orgasm, there is no difficulty there. Now you have to get yourself there too. Think of it like training. If you do push ups maybe you can only do one or two, the more you work at it you can do 10.
Once you get through the first few then the rest will follow. I just went through this w/the last guy I dated. He could not orgasm. He was 40, and the only way for about a month was to do a hand job and hop on.
You are young, you should begin to work fine, you have to begin somewhere. Heck, she will have fun working this out just make sure you give her an orgasm or two (however you too do it). You should find once you get used to the sensations it gets easier.
And you have to relax! If you don't it's not happening, you are putting too much pressure on yourself ! I think you are holding off so long that you are missing the opportunity. And men think of really different things to hold off orgasm....could write a book about that!
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new_sex/20641-intercourse_orgasms_the_ge...
Start here...also read on the site there are so many men with the same issue. Read the threads!
wut does he mean begin intercourse right b4 climax wudnt that defeat the purpose?
[QUOTE=Makaveli The Don;173139]wut does he mean begin intercourse right b4 climax wudnt that defeat the purpose?[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I know: to be frank, I don't quite "get" that either.
On the other hand, if some guy is having trouble having an orgasm during intercourse, then it makes a lot more sense. I guess.
Get yourself to the near peak then begin intercourse. Once you get into the habit of having an orgasm, then you can work on lasting longer. I think many men just magically think it happens and they can last for hours, you have to begin then build stamina.
When you masturbate, your body gets used to your touch speed, sensation, and pressure. A woman's is most likely going to be different then yours. During oral or intercourse it's a much lighter pressure then many are accustomed to. Try the basics first, then when that is mastered work on the rest.
ok heres how last night went mabey u can tell my if there is a problem in wut im doing we were in bed started making out grabbed a condom started having sex vaginally she was on top it was feeling good i wud tickle here little button(thats wut i call it)to make sure she was getting off too well wen that wasnt working i got on top went at it for awhile that didnt work so she wanted to get me off so she went down on me for like 10 minutes it felt good but still no orgasm i tried going back in without the condom but by than she wasnt wet enuff and it hurt my penis to put it back in so we stopped and we joked that i was like the women and she was the guy and it takes forever 4 me to orgasm i dont know mabey we just need to be a little more sloppy or hardcore. but my main point is i get close to climax but i can never get that final creshendo
ok from wut i get ur saying is i need to learn how to be a minute man than build up stamina to wut is now?
Learn to be the minute man first! Satisfy her too...either before or after or both. Manual stimulation or oral for her. You are not getting yourself close to the edge before starting intercourse. She will understand. Once you get it going then work out the details. And get a tube of lube for her!
There's a lot of variety in the world. Everyone has problems, sometimes, though not always the same ones.
However:
I still think it's uncommon for men (through middle-age, anyway) to have difficulty reaching orgasm during intercourse. Reaching orgasm more quickly than desired is, so far as I can tell, much more common. Much, much more common. That doesn't mean there's anything particularly "wrong" with guys are too slow, they just have a different problem, and nobody is so perfect they never have any difficulty at all.
From what I can tell, almost all guys have various little tricks to hold off (baseball statistics being a favorite of many). And almost all of them will admit, if you can get them to be honest, that they've come faster than they meant to on at least one occasion (more like dozens, or hundreds, depending on how old the guy is).
Two caveats: It can be difficult on the second go-round (and if it's not then, it likely will be on the third!) It can also be affected by alcohol or (I guess) drugs. And age eventually slows everyone down, though I suspect most women who are having sex with men over 60 are probably sufficiently experienced they don't need a lot of advice about how to deal with that.
Getting the woman right to the brink before starting might make more sense. Then again, my approach has been that if you're doing something sufficient to get her right to the brink, you're probably better off to just keep at it until she's over it, rather than to choose that moment to switch to a whole new activity.
i hope she understands cuz i dont know wut kind of damage this will do if we go at it again and i cant orgasm. u know its kind of funny i always here girls talk about how their man cant last long enuff. do women really want a guy that can have sex for like 3 hours not orgasm and have too go for another 3 hours and still mabey not orgasm.well im gonna tell her tonight were not having sex anymore were making love i guess im gonna have to get the r&b out the ice im gonna have to bring the whole arsenal. i just wish i cud have teenage sex you know wut i mean all discombobulated and uncordinated and still get off i dont want have to turn it in to a berry white session every time
[QUOTE=Makaveli The Don;173162]i hope she understands cuz i dont know wut kind of damage this will do if we go at it again and i cant orgasm. u know its kind of funny i always here girls talk about how their man cant last long enuff. do women really want a guy that can have sex for like 3 hours not orgasm and have too go for another 3 hours and still mabey not orgasm.[/QUOTE]
Just make sure she knows you are enjoying yourself. Has this happened w/ all your previous g/fs? or just this one??
And no, I personally do not want 3 hrs of straight intercourse...not even 1 hr. Just like you said before, you tried to enter her again and she was no longer wet and it hurt. After a while of penetration, I tend to dry out and it becomes more painful than pleasurable...especially if I have already orgasmed.. its like... eh are you done yet? LOL
I would suggest maybe she does the oral on you first and gets you worked up good and close...and then start intercourse.