So, I'm terribly frusterated. I am incapable of having an orgasm. I also have serious lubrication issues. My boyfriend isnt very much into foreplay, so he wants to just go charging in, and ya know, my giner's just not ready. It's very difficult for penetration to occur. I think a lot of it might be that Im often uncomfertable with my body...I need to know how to enjoy sex more, how to cum, and how to get lubricated uicker and more easily, HELP!!!!
Fri, 02/23/2007 - 05:50
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I can't orgasm - I give up, help me.
Before that, he needs to have some sex ed.
You might just want to have him read some of the relevent Sticky posts on the Board as well as the information found on the links on the front page of the site. In addition, I believe the two of you would benefit by reading some sex manuals available at the local book seller.
Maybe first you haveto let him know you need foreplay, it's half the fun.
You are responsible for knowing your body first. Get a copy of Our Bodies Our Selves and learn what is going on. THEN, your boyfriend needs educated.
Abotu a qaurter of all women never experience orgasm and early bad experience can contribute to this perceived frigidity. Your statement can be a first step down this asexual road.
Call of all activity until you have learned and explored yourself completely. Recognize why "personal lubricants" are on the market - you are not the only one with dry problems. You might as well use vaginal jelly and get the added benefit of added contraception.
Thank you for your suggestions, I thinks its just a matter of realizing that I need to make myself happy and pleased (along with other things) and quit putting "him" before my self. Well, and of course explore myself, it needs to be done, I cant say Im complaining either. Thanks. ;)
Hey! ms. frustrated. I completely understand your frustrations. I'm 26, and up until like 6 months ago, I had NEVER had an orgasm in my life. Unfortunately, for alot of women it's very hard to have an orgasm during sexual intercourse. However, it's generally much easier to have one from clitoral stimulation. Nowadays, I realize the importance of knowing your body first and how it works and what works for you. I found a way to make myself orgasm by stimulation and now I'm in the process of showing that to my boyfriend so he understands. As far as lubrication, don't be ashamed to go by a bottle of something to help out! :) I also understand about being uncomfortable with your own body. Once you feel more comfortable, sexually, things will get better. "Charging in" from any man doesn't help us women, thats for sure. We need attention too! Especially because they will probably cum alot faster then we do. I suggest the woman getting her attention first then the man since it takes us longer. Sorry this is so long! I hope that helped some!