Both myself and my current partner are getting really frustrated as I cannot orgasm. We have tried various techniques of fingering, oral etc, but all it feels like to me is tickling... it's far to sensitive to put pressure on my clit by fingering. Oral I can cope with for a little while, but then it gets kinda painful, and if my partner pushes it, All i get is worn out and highly frustrated.
I have been active since I was 18 with a partner and masturbated since I was younger, however, even when I play with myself I cannot touch my clit, only the labia and have to lay face down to be able to make myself cum, even then it's not a strong feeling.
I kinda wish I had faked orgasm with him, like I have my previous partners, as all it does it make him depressed and sh*tty with me as he feels as though he is doing it all wrong and I'm not trying hard enough.
This problem has left me now with zero labedo and tbh, I really cannot even be bothered to have intercourse (as that is uncomfortable and usually makes me bleed) I'm really upset that I cannot achieve an orgasm and all.. All it makes me wanna do after it is turn over & cry as I don't feel normal down there.
I'm worried that I'm not normal :( Please any help is really appreciated...
OK, read all the stickies in this forum. Get a copy of Our Bodies Our Selves and read it. Then start over with learning to please yourself. Once the frustration level gets to a certain point, it keeps getting worse. A supportive partner can be a help but we women are responsible for our own orgasms and do what we have to do.
Many of us have the "overly sensitive clitoris" issue and this is a difficult one for men to understand - at the point they need more direct stimulatio, we actually need less direct stimulation. Master it for yourself than bring him into the process.
You are completely normal and remember that a quarter of all women never have an orgasm!
Thank you. No idea how relearning it is going to help too much though Lol. Guess it's worth a try...