Read through some of the posts on the site about having an orgasm, look under the topic of "new to sex". It's been said it's not up for a partner to do this for you, rather it's up to them to help get you there...everyone is responsible for their own orgasm. I would put a link for you, but this computer will not allow me to do it! Sorry.

If you can orgasm on your own through masturbation show him. Some women cannot ever reach an orgasm their whole lives.

i am sorry to say but i have been with my man for 10 years and i too have yet to have an orgasm. its not that the sex aint good cause its great:). i think my problem is that i dont like the feeling or it scared me or something like that cause i almost get there but when i start to feel it i make my man stop what his doing until it passes. He too sometimes gets frustrated about it but it has never come between us. sorry i know that i havent been much help, but if anyone has any ideas on why i would be scared or why i dont like the feeling, it would be most helpful.

To expand upon what Sera has stated, please read the following two links:

The Anatomy of the Female "O", Answered by Brandye & Dancingdoc2 & Inspired by Godiva

For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?

Do you masturbate and if so are you able to climax regularly and consistently by your own hand? If yes, then read the third link, below. If not, then you absolutely must learn as explained above and partially by Sera.

It is very important that you (and he) know and understand that very few positions place your pieces-parts in sufficient constant ongoing contact in order to generate the required friction to build and then trigger an orgasm.

Think about it, when a person masturbates their fingers are moving constantly on the genitals in order to build arousal, excitement, and anticipation--friction. When two people "couple up" as in intercourse, and stroke or thrust away, there is more often than not with most positions, too little contact between bodies to generate an orgasm. If all else is working for you, then this is the trouble. Now, here's what to do about it:

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

Knowledge, understanding, and practice, should bring success and a cure to your depression as the two of you work in partnership. Making love is not what one person does to the other; rather, what we do with and for each other. Sera, explained that we do not give orgasms away and that each of us is responsible for our own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve hers/his. After the two of you read the information in the above links--go for it, and please report back.

I also want to recommend that the two of you read most of the information listed in this index:

One Stop Shopping--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics

yea for starters you have to know how to orgasm on your own first and as he is getting off he should pleased now you have to concentrate on you a bit

I loved the sentence Brandye once said somewhere (or maybe not once): women have to learn to orgasm, it doesn't just come naturally like for men. It took me two years of masturbation to finally reach the top - luckily I started very early :) Be patient, find time to work with your body, get to know it - then you will know what to do to orgasm with the boy.

Don't expect to get vaginal orgasm just so easily. Many women only get clitoral ones and others need to reach certain age before they can experience both. Just don't get all panicky - it's only a huge turn off.