I haven't had an orgasm through penetration either,and i've been having sex for 20 years.I've come close a few times but just can't get over that last hurdle.I've had great orgasms through clitoral stimulation and oral.There aren't any nerves inside the actual vagina,so orgasm would be achieved through rubbing the clit and or lips,or by hitting the g-spot.

Yeah this is not that unusual. I generally don't orgasm by penetration alone either. RG is right, there aren't nerve endings inside the vaginal wall. No, it's got nothing to do with his size, so put that out of both your minds. We don't want him to have this complex that always seems to go around about whether he's big enough.

I remember having to put this complex at rest for my fiance. When we first started playing around he told me he's small compared to most. After we'd done some things a few times, I said "Um, no you're not--not when you're erect, anyway. You're pretty typical from what I know." Come to find out he'd been assuming he was smaller than many, because he apparently IS a little smaller than some when he's flaccid. And he's 6'3" and built like a linebacker, so in relation to the rest of his body he's definitely tiny when he's flaccid. But his erect girth can change from one encounter to the next, too, depending on how long we've spent and how revved up he is by the time he goes in. So guys really do need to learn to get this size thing out of their minds.

He usually has helped me orgasm at least once by the time he goes in. Then once he goes in, it's his turn. Often though, he'll reach down and play with my clit as he gets close, to try to get us both climaxing at once.

There's an idea. One of the two of you reach down and add in some clit.

About one-quarter of all women never, or rarely, experience orgasm; about one-quarter of us frequently experience orgasm from penetration and thrusting. The leaves one-half of ud who require stimulation in addition to penetration and thrusting to get there. This can be during or before or after the "act." There are some positions that enable either partner to play with themselves or the other and can help. Men become less than interested after reaching orgasm (ok, too harsh, but men are better before than after ejaculation). There is a movement called "ladies first" that advocates the women always be the first and this reduces pressure on both to perform.

same, i've never had a vaginal orgasm either, i just rub my clit while he's inside and get off that way.

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[QUOTE=stefanie.lynn;261072]I am 23 and have been having sex since i was 17 and have never had an orgasm while having intercourse. I dont know if it is me or him. Could I be thinking to much or could he be to small or what? I fake it so I dont hurt his feelings and im just tired of it. I have only had orgasms by rubbing my clit never vaginal. What can I do or him? Any information will be appreciated. Thank You![/QUOTE]

Don't feel bad, this is a very common thing for women. If I understand correctly, the vaginal wall does not have the type of nerve endings in it that allow you to feel pleasure there so this would be normal.

Now, don't get me wrong, the g-spot does have nerve endings but even the g-spot does not help with orgasm for some women.

Most women are able to orgasm better via clitoral stimulation. As for me, I used to have problems with orgasms known as anorgasmia but now I have very few problems with it. My main problem is vaginal dryness for which I am using a lube.

No, the G-Spot, nor anything else in there, has nerve endings. To the extent it can be identified G-Spot stimulation is stimulation of the Skene's Glands and moving all the tissue causing the clitoral hood to rub the clitoris.

The consensus among "experts" is that the clitoris is where the action really is.