I NEED HELP! I used to masterbate...with a vibrator..ALOT!
Now that I have sex with my boyfriend, I cannot have an orgasm for shit! We go at it for a loooong time too.
But I just cannot have an orgasm. I think my body is too used ot the vibrator. I end up having to please myself in the end anyway-WHAT CAN I DO? Someone help...
Tue, 07/27/2004 - 23:38
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I CAN'T HAVE AN ORGASM!
[QUOTE=Quote ]For my g/f All it takes is some clit stimulation and some fingering to warm her up before we have sex. So once she is "warmed up" as i would say, it doesnt take as long until she is screaming.
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lol i can get her screaming before hand, its the opposite problem here i last a little longer than here (rare) So we never finger or anything like that. So the opposite should work for you. B-RaD G may be right ( Along with the rest that may have said this )
For my g/f All it takes is some clit stimulation and some fingering to warm her up before we have sex. So once she is "warmed up" as i would say, it doesnt take as long until she is screaming.
I have used a vibrator for years. I am one of them that needs lots of clit stimulation to orgasm.
Like Wally said try using it while you have sex. My favorite postion is on my back with him on top and me holding the vib on my clit. There is also a vibrator that goes on your finger so that you don't have to much getting in the way if you are worried about that.
I don't think there is anything wrong with having one. As you know they do a great job and when combined with intercourse can be truly amazing.
I think you'll find some posts on this board relative to the idea of introducing toys into "traditional sex." One idea: try a position where you can use the vibe on yourself while you're having intercourse. (Him on his back, you on top comes to mind.)
I'd also quickly add that you shouldn't try too hard or get too worried about it, because stress is the enemy in this situation.
As a somewhat philosophical aside, I think we sometimes get too immersed in the idea that we "make" ourselves or our partner cum -- as in "I'm going to make myself cum using a vibrator." Reality is closer to the idea that the orgasms are in there and all you have to do is relax and release them.
it's really not that uncommon.
lots of women cannot orgasm through just sex. a lot need clit stimulation and some just can't orgasm at all.
yes, it's frustrating, but i'm not really sure there's much you can do.