hey guys, i haven't had sex all that much, and have only tried a few positions, but i have never gotten off yet..I hear some positions are better for the girl, any suggestions?
Sat, 05/01/2004 - 14:24
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i cant get off.. what position should i try?
a hah! found it..the age of consent is 14
Hey guys! haha for the bday question..i got 2 glow sticks ahha im gunna put them thru my ears. Also..a towel..and some pool toys..which is odd considering we don't have a pool.
Ne ways..the relationship isnt totally about sex, cuz we're friends and we were friends well before we started having sex..i mean i was the one that brought up having sex haha But besides being friends..thats all we are, kinda f*** buddies. I'm okay with that though, I haven't become attached.
Yea..i should stop worrying whether im making him happy or not, cuz if he didnt like whatever i was doing he'd say right? Actually..hes the type that would just make excuses so we wouldn't hafta do it again..which he hasnt done yet. lol
Yeah actually..I dunno what the law is on that in Canada..I'll check that.
Lexxxi I see that you're actually from Canada so the info in the prior post may vary from Canadian Law. The info I gave you was for the states, which are very strict on minors having sex if it's ever brought to court.
Also consider that whether the sex is consensual or not it most states it's still considered statutory rape because of your age. And yes if your parents found out and decided to press charges they could. Not trying to scare you but it happens all the time and consensual or not your boyfriend will find himself in a world of trouble. I just wouldn't wanna see the wrong thing happen here. I've seen it happen near where we live and it's very small communities surrounding each other.
On the aspect of it hurting and not feeling that great it usually doesn't feel all that great for women when the first start having sex. It seems like the first time you really don't know what to expect and then there after most of the time it's quickies and you can't usually enjoy yourself with a quickie. You boyfriend on the other hand will usually enjoy himself no matter what. As you get old the whole thing about sex will start to change. You realize that you can ask for certain favors called FOREPLAY which at 15 and 18 you normally do see alot of that. FOREPLAY makes all the difference in the world.
Good luck and please watch yourselves!
Should we ask what you got for your birthday? LOL
At least your guy sounds considerate! You're right that it will stop hurting eventually, and you sort of proved that last time.
I'm an old fuddy-duddy who's still concerned about what's going on here, of course. Most 18 year old guys will do and say just about anything to get laid.
Please watch your relationship with this guy... if it's all about sex, reconsider what's happening, you know?
In a few years a three year age difference won't mean beans, but it can now. You do sound mature, perhaps he's a bit immature... maybe it works. But don't be his "little girl" who's trying to make him happy, ok?
Wally
Yah I guess ur rite, he may just say im good cuz, like you said flattery will get you everywhere..i hope not tho haha ne ways, uh last time it hurt at first but then near the end it was fine, probably because we did a diff position. But he was always like "let me know if it hurts, and ill stop" "if u want me to stop ppplllleeeaaassseee tell me" Then afterwards he'd ask me if im okay and if it hurt and i said yeah a bit and he said sorry repeatedly. That was actually the one reason he was reluctant to have sex with me, cuz he didnt wanna hurt me. Oh yea thx about the bday! i got the weirdest things for my bday..hehe
Happy Birthday!
Tessie may be right... the guy may also be inexperienced and that's why he's telling you that you seem to know what you're doing. I seriously hope she is right.
But as I guy, I see another possibility. You have an obvious need for approval and making him like you. Guys know that "Flattery will get you everywhere." Let's face it, you're not going to be too anxious to have sex with a guy who tells you that you're not very good at it!
Have you told him it still hurts?
Wally
[QUOTE=Quote (Lexxxi @ May 02 2004,12:47)]i know, he probably doesn't expect me to be experienced..but I dunno, so far he's always been like "woah, u really seemed like u knew what u were doing" and stuff like that..and i havent really messed up anything..yet, im hoping that doesnt happen. What if i f*** up and he never wants to do shit with me again?[/QUOTE]
Sweetie you mess up doing something sexually because you are inexpierenced and this guy doesn't want you again then he is a big loser and you don't want him either.
Not to mention that if he is saying that it seems you know what you are doing then I would venture to say he is not that expierenced either.
To have good and satisfying sex means that there must be trust, communication, and a willingness to learn how to please each other and to teach what you like to your partner.
I am not sure if you know or not but most women do not achieve orgasm through intercourse. So it won't really matter what position you do it in.
BTW happy birthday.
Actually im 15 now
my bday was yesterday but thats besides the point..i guess it wasnt really that great cuz it still kinda hurts a little when i do it..but once it stops hurting it'll be fine rite?
Oh brother... a horny 18 year old guy and a 14 year old gal who's REALLY concerned about pleasing him and not screwing up.
I hear bells and whistles and sirens.
If you're that afraid of asking to experiment... that afraid of "messing up"... well, I'd say it's time to re-examine the relationship and what's going on.
Buttercup is right. It's supposed to be fun - for BOTH people.
In a sense, age is not the factor - you need to get on equal footing with this guy. If he wants to have sex with you, he's also responsible for your pleasure.
At least that's the way it's SUPPOSED to work.
Wally
he's 18..and i dunno, i havent had sex enough to know if hes pro..all i want is to not screw it up
who cares?
how old is he? is he a pro?
i mean its supposed to be fun
someone else said in another post a lot of people take sex to seriously and try to make it a competition or something. guys try to turn it into a marathon to see how long they last, etc.
we all make mistakes when we first start out, thats just how it is.
i know, he probably doesn't expect me to be experienced..but I dunno, so far he's always been like "woah, u really seemed like u knew what u were doing" and stuff like that..and i havent really messed up anything..yet, im hoping that doesnt happen. What if i f*** up and he never wants to do shit with me again?
id like to experiment more, but i dunno..im not shy per say, but im kind of reluctant when it comes to asking..especially cuz i dont exactly know what im doing.
well from another post you said you were 14 right?
well i mean you are definetly young to be having sex. what do you expect to be an expert?
being good in bed comes w/ experience, practice, and time.
i mean we all start out bumbly and unexperienced. no matter what age we start at.
you don't really have to say ok tonight we will try this position then this one..etc.
you just kinda do it.
i mean if you are in one position and its not doing anything for you..just say hey lets try this one.
or let him see all the positions on those pages and be like see any that interest you?
being open and communicating is a big aspect of sex.
heres some links to some sex position pages
link 1
link 2
there is no real specific position for everyone. we all enjoy different things.
you just have to experiment and try all the ones they have listed (theres a lot! lol)
and see which one works for you.
plus i pretty much always have to have some sort of clitoral stimulation during intercourse. whether its a hand or a vibe.
sometimes i can orgasm on top w/out either tho.