He can feel me all the time and we've tried everything. I'm fairly new to sex and I dont know exactly what I'm doing but he's been doing this for sometime. The problem is that I cant feel him at all. Ever. I get turned on and everything but I can never feel masterbation oral or even rough or soft sex. I'm starting to get depressed over this issue. What can I possible do ?
I have done kegels and different positions and nothing is wkring :(
The obvious follow-on question is how you respond to doing it yourself. If you masturbate successfully, that gives you an indication what you are looking for. If you do not respond to doing it yourself, something is blocking you and it is time to ask your gyn for a referral to a sex therapist.
The biggest thing you have going for you is that you really want to. With that, you can make it.
I agree with Brandye (of course), you have to know what you're looking for before you can find it. Otherwise you're just banking on blind luck...
No not really, I've never gotten off on myself. I can barley feel masturbation .
what you need to do is you need to sit down (err well lay down) and just get yourself nice and wet....not like ok...like OMFG I want it now...then just slowly run your hands all over your body, find what spots feel good...then move down to your vagina...rub your clit, every different direction and try to find what feels good to you...try going inside...or even just touch other places on the outside of your vagina....even so far as your perenium. just relax, try not to focus too much...try it every night for a week or so and if no luck, you may want to check with your gyn and try to get an appointment with a sex therapist.
I wouldn't get depressed about it, you'll get it figured out, and when you do....instant depression killer.