Little seems to have changed in 2 1/2 years. This is both sad and worrisome. There is only so much that can be solved in a discussion group. Some conditions suggest lab tests in order to check hormone levels; some conditions suggest learning more about how to go about fooling around and making love.

For example, discussing the latter:

* do not masturbate for at least 24 hours prior to a make out session with a girl
* do not worry about the "what ifs" in life. Performance Anxiety is caused by worry and solved by not
* expect that erections come and erections go. When in the course of making out and an erection goes away--do not [COLOR="green">STOP[/COLOR] making out.

Reading between the lines (a sometimes dangerous practice) of this post and those of the past, I get the notion that there is not much fooling around (kissing and caressing) going on with you and each partner. True/False?

Short of having a low libido, little sexual attraction with the other person, too many orgasms within a 24 hr. period--AND not doing a lot of making out, I get the impression that you expect an erection to just happen spontaneously with little or no effort, just randy thoughts.

Often this is all that is required; however, when a man is experiencing difficulty getting and maintaining erections {plural) I ask why and can only surmise that technique is at fault, all other systems being fine. So, my question for you is: how much time do you and a partner actively devote to touching, caressing, and, kissing each other before ever involving the genitals? If the two of you are not making out for a minimum of half an hour, then you most certainly seem to be placing haste in place of a long deliberate physical and psychological build up of anticipation, excitement, and, arousal.

Knowing that you have a recurring problem, encourage your partner to not rush the proceedings and to devote as much time as necessary to stimulating both your penis as well as the rest of your anatomy. If you detect that an erection is subsiding, then ask her to employ her best techniques for rebuilding it. You might also just pause before doing so and return to kissing, cuddling, and caressing, before going back to working on your penis. After an orgasm, if you want to enjoy another, then you must go thru the "refractory phase" that can be as little as ten minutes to as much as half an hour before your body is ready to have another orgasm. Learn how long your personal refractory period is and then work within this time frame to continue with a low intensity make out session.

Condoms can and often do reduce sensation. Explore different types, like poly instead of Latex. Add a lubricant to the glans of your penis prior to rolling the condom on. Doing so gives more "wiggle room" thus more friction.

Lastly, as I have said several times before: Act your way to success. Like an actor in a play, adopt the qualities of the person you wish to emulate and before you know it those qualities and behaviors will become second nature. Do not worry about the "what ifs". Nobody except a guy with little experience expects perfection the first time or two. For more on this, please read the article on "experience".

I run into PA all the time in my dance classes when the fragile male ego gets in the way of having a good time. I tell my students that when they go to a dance, go to "practice", not to "dance". New students often get it into their heads that they do not have enough experience, know enough dance moves, and do not look as polished as others. The point is that if a couple goes and practices, the man especially is free to goof up yet dust himself off and continue on; whereas, if he is "dancing" then the mindset is he has to "perform", knowing all the while that he isn't very good--so why even make the attempt. EXPLORE and LEARN TOGETHER!

I encourage you to read the articles listed in the Index that discuss the how-to's of making out, etc., then following the recommendations. Acquire a good working knowledge from those on Page 1, then continue to fine-tune your knowledge with those written by EEK on Page 2.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

With your problem its hard to say if its normal or not also depending on the situation
your in. As I noticed you mentioned 'engage in sex with a new partner'.. that there
can be one problem as Ive gotten really nervous on the 'first night' with a lady and
my mind starts racing and a couple times sadly enough I was slightly shaking lol.
The main thought that went through my mind was how well I was going to perform
and if she would enjoy it.

Not to get personally but do you masturbate alone and does it do its thing like its
suppose to. If the answer is yes then it could maybe be what I mentioned above.
Your still really young and I dont think you should need the pill at your age as it
was 'meant' (not saying you dont need it) for older men with a Erectile Dysfunction
problem.

Lastly Im not sure on the solution at the moment but Ill suggest maybe doing foreplay,
dirty talking and whatever else you both can think of. I hope some of this helps ;)