I don't know if I am alone in this or not but ever since the first time I ever had sex, no matter what size the man is or what skills he has in the bedroom, I can only cum when I am on top. I have never been able to do it any other way. Is it possible that every man I have been with cannot hit my g-spot? Also, I'm not sure if this is related or not but I can only cum once during sex. After the first time, it starts to get kind of painful or even if it doesn't, it seems like I just can't get there again. Is this all normal? Does anyone know what I can do to reach orgasm any other way or even how to do it more than once in one session?
Fri, 07/13/2007 - 18:40
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I can only cum one time in one position...what's wrong?
The only way that my girlfriend can orgasm during intercourse is when she's on top, and it only happens once for her. I always go down on her, and she gets off that way too, It can take up to 20 minutes, but it does happen. From your other post, it sounds like your boyfriend doesn't spend much time on oral, get him to give it a shot. Good luck to you.
cjb
I assume by "my other post" you mean the one about how sex is always his way and never mine...i'm sorry if that was misleading. I was pretty much referring to the kind of sex that we have (i.e slow and passionate vs. fast and aggressive), not so much WHAT we do during sex. He does give me oral just about every time we have sex and even if we don't have sex. Oral is his thing and he loves to do it. He usually does it for about 10 minutes or so and it is VERY good but I still have not been able to cum that way. Maybe if he tries it longer like you said then it might happen, i'll have to try it out. but what if that still doesn't work? I have NEVER had multiple orgasms and I heard that it is very satisfying so I would really like to be able to do so.
The painful feeling you're getting is a FALSE SIGNAL. You are, by pulling back at this point, denying yourself another oragsm, and another, and another. What to do? Take a deep breath and RELAX into and through this false signal. Ride it out to the orgasm on the other side where your entire body becomes incandescent and even the slightest breath of wind, in any position, can give you another orgasm.
Nota bene: the nerves are firing which the brain is interpreting as pain - it isn't pain - it is sensory overload because somewhere along the way you stopped breathing deeply and have become tense.
Hi, I Know What You Mean Cause For Me Is The Same, The Problem With Me Is That I Can Have An Orgasam But Only Ones And Only During Oral. I Think Im Not Normal As Well Cause All My Friends Can Have Orgasams During Penetration Too.
[QUOTE=Nice;186575]Hi, I Know What You Mean Cause For Me Is The Same, The Problem With Me Is That I Can Have An Orgasam But Only Ones And Only During Oral. I Think Im Not Normal As Well Cause All My Friends Can Have Orgasams During Penetration Too.[/QUOTE]
I have read some other posts on here where women say that they can only reach orgasm either orally or by penetration, not both. I am one of those women. I cannot reach orgasm orally. In a reply to one of my threads, someone wrote that maybe my b/f just needs to do oral longer than the 10 minutes I usually get. So I don't think you are "not normal". Lots of us are like that! In your case, maybe you need more direct frictional clitoral stimulation (as oral provides). Try the woman on top position. It gives the most friction against the clitoris. Or maybe you should try longer periods of penetration, or stimulatre yourself at the same time he is penetrating you.
I have just started seeing a woman who can only cum in one position and haven't had time to really try much with her yet and searched "women who only cum in one position" in google and this was the first link so I'm new to this site and I know the thread started a LONG time ago and is probably dead, but wanted to contirbute to this thread if anyone is still interested and help a little if I can as well as seeing if anyone had had success with any of these problems and had tips for me.
Often women who only cum once usually do so because they are having clitoral orgasms! I don't know if this is the case for your girlfriend cjb1981, but on top she may be grinding, if so then the stimulation is on the clit, which when she cums will become hypersensitive and often further stimulus can be painful, but as EvilEvilKitten says it can also be a FALSE SIGNAL and at this point she needs to take deep breaths and relax, often a part of her body will be contracted and she should relax that muscle consciously.
Many women masturbate their clitoris only and therefore are used to this feeling so even with penetrative sex the part of their body that they are used to is feeling pleasure from is their clit and have difficulty in feeling pleasure elsewhere in her vagina so when she has sex and cums, even though the sex is penetrative she will feel it in her clit and so she will become hypersensitive through her clit even though she is having penetrative sex.
I don't know if this is the case her, but if so then she needs to have no clitoral stimulation for a while, either by herself in her own private time or from you, it will help her to isolate other areas of her vagina that become aroused when she is. She should get in a hot bath with candle to help highten her stimulatory senses as she can then feel parts of her body that respond to her gently touching apart from her clit. Tell her to do kegels which you can find out about through the internet and she will strengthen and isolate her pvc muscles and make it easier for her to feel and have a g spot orgasm and feel pleasure through her vagina, which will allow her to have multiple orgasms.
LovinItSingle I had a girlfriend who had never had an orgasm orally, I simply made sure I aroused her first by sending her slightly dirty txts throughout the day so she could think about me and really kissed her labia and vagina around the clit which is not just a tip it branches either side of the vagina so tell your man to pay attention to those spots and encouraged her clit to become engorged so that I could spread her upper labia lips and lick up and into the clitoral hood to directly stimulate the clitoris after she was fully turned on. Lots of guys also like up and down which can be painful or not very nice, get your boyfriend to suck on your clit and lick in figure of 8s at the same time. I don't know what he does or if you've tried it, but if not I would recommend it. I hope this helps!
You are right about this old thread. And, you seem to be giving tips rather than really seeking them. You ignore a fact of female physiology: about a quarter of us never, or very rarely, experience orgasm; a quarter of us regularly reach orgasm through penetration and thrusting. That means that half of us, including myself, generally require stimulation in addition to the penetration and thrusting. For us, there isx no recipe. Each couple must work this out for themselves but there is much to be said for the "ladies first" movement. And then you quick ejaculating males do not have to worry about how long you last.
I dated a woman like you. One orgasm in one position only. We had great sex - the best I ever had. What we did with her enjoyment was we first started with whatever she wanted and got her first orgasm off. Then we improvised and enjoyed sex normally. After a while she "reset" and was able to orgasm again and I did everything that needed to be done. Some people are just built differently. I can hardly orgasm from oral. It's happened only a few times. I still enjoy it. The orgasm is just one part of sex.
The other suggestions here are good. I would just say explore - you may find other ways in which you orgasm. Maybe you like to have control?
My girlfriend at the time was the opposite - she wanted no control. Her position for having an orgasm was to lie there, her legs tightly together and me going down on her - which seems hard and it was! I had to fight to get my tongue where it was needed. However it only took 5 minutes and she would have an amazing orgasm.