Minimum foreplay is 20 minutes. That being said, various women have their own preferences. Some want less and some want more and maybe what they want varies depending upon situation and mood. Also, needing lubricant is NOT an indication that there's something wrong with you nor is it an indication that there's something wrong with him or with his skills or with your relationship with him. If you need lubricant, you just need lubricant - NBD.

Your relationship with him is in the process of maturing - that is, it is moving from the heady "infatuated" new romance/lust stage toward the more serious "romantic love" do I keep him stage. This is something to consider. And it isn't about being bored. It is about maturation of you, of him, and of the entire situation in which you find yourself. You're on the edge of being out on your own, college, job and so forth and now there's a lot to think about.

I'd suggest you simply relax and enjoy yourself and see where life takes you.

I cant see why u dont like giving Oral that u shouldnt recieve it, I think u should get more Oral and see what happens, maybe Oral, then Dildo, then the real thing.

Even, you should try Oral with a Dildo, My Wife loves it before da real thing.

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[COLOR="blue">I’m 19, my boyfriend is 18, and we first had sex about a year ago. (We were both virgins.)

I have found myself lately not getting turned on as much as I did at the beginning of our sexual relationship. Meaning I'm either not getting wet or wet enough. I'm not saying that I'm bored with my sexual relationship with
My boyfriend, because I enjoy sex with him, it's just the stages before that cause my problem.

My boyfriend always starts with foreplay (of course) normally with his fingers [/COLOR]

This is the why behind your difficulty. Foreplay comes later/last, not first. it has been my observation over the past several years that couples and guys in particular no long know the value of fooling around and making out and the various stages leading up to foreplay.

Turning a woman on has as much or more to do with her mind and psyche, first and foremost--than the physical stimulation. I have written about this many times and I recommend that the two of you return to basics and learn the value and the importance of how to turn each other on and why. Please read the articles listed in the Index and then discuss what you have learned.

Fooling around and making out--an umbrella term covering the following activities:

* Necking
* Petting
* Heavy Petting
then-
* Foreplay
and-
* Intercourse, if it is to be included

If the two of you (read: him) are skirting over the first three or not even doing them, then you cannot reasonably expect to become aroused.

There is even a stage that sometimes comes before making out. This is when one or the other of you plants the idea of making out and having sex hours or a day beforehand by whispering sweet nothings into her ear, or, writing a love note, etc.

[COLOR="blue">rarely oral (I REALLY don't enjoy giving oral so I don’t expect to get it). He's normally at it for 10mins and when i tell him to stop, we always need lube because I know I’m not wet enough and that it will hurt..[/COLOR]

By "at it", I gather you are referring to intercourse? This has been a topic of discussion many times and is covered in at least one article. Many women report back stating that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes they become sore, bored, and, tired. Intercourse should not begin until-
A. you invite him in verbally or non-verbally
B. he has been brought to the brink of a climax by other means, first and foremost

All too often nowadays guys operate under the misguide misconception that the way to an orgasm if by lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking and thrusting. WRONG. This is the "why" of all the other activities that (should) have gone on before.

[COLOR="blue">Sexual talk doesn't interest me because I'm too used to my boyfriend making silly gestures and silly sexual noises when we aren’t even having sex. So if he tries sexual talk during actual sex, I will just feel stupid.[/COLOR]

Tell him to stop and adopt a more mature behavior, that his demeanor is juvenile and not becoming.
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If anyone can advise me that would be good[/COLOR] (:[/QUOTE]

Please read each of the articles and, as noted, discuss what you have learned from each. Knowledge is empowering. Explore and learn together.