Well, I'm sure one of the medical people on here will come by eventually and give you much more insight than I ever could... But a quick google search on "phantom orgasm" says that yes, it is very possible. Apparently there's a good chance that you still have some sexual response - read something that it's the communication between the brain and spinal center that's the problem. Whatever that means...

I don't know about the breasts thing...

I know people experience phantom pains which are very real in their brain. Now I understand spinal TRAUMA but SB is different and I do not know the extent of your spinal affliction. BUT if you can feel him (pressure) that is a good thing. Do you ever get cramps during your cycle? Slightly even?

Have you worked on meditation? Increasing the sensation to the vaginal area with some of these techniques? I know they are poo-poo'd medically but they do have some validity since much has to do with the brain, pleasure, genital focus.

I do not know about a phantom orgasm...I would think if your brain allows your body to go there then it happened & it was not imagined. Yes, I have heard of those with super sensitive nips. And can near orgasm--I am not one. They have no feeling to me. Also, increasing sensation to the breast area using the above techniques may help too. Make your body erogenous in certain spots begin with meditation techniques...

Spina bifida has a wide range of presenting symptoms dependent, mostly, upon the level of spinal cord damage. Many, perhaps most, women who have survived have relatively normal sex lives. With no sensation in the genitals, you cannot expect "normal" sexual response but a great beauty of being a woman is we do not need "normal" response to have very satisfactory sex lives. The feeling of having him inside you is satisfying and watching him perform orally on you can be very pleasant - and lead to unexpected surprises.

I would recommend being very careful with regard to pregnancy. Talk to your doctor about this. Sterilization may be a good idea as pregnancy could cause problems for you. Then some work with a certified sex therapist with experience in spinal damaged patients could be very helpful. Either your doctor or the local SB Association can make a referral. I encourage you to strive for whatever pleasure you can attain and locating other erogenous areas of your body might just get you to your goal! I can come very close with breast stimulation but always need just a little bit more. I have known women who reach orgasm through breast stimulation alone but they are not common. Give it a try; who knows what may happen and it certainly cannot hurt anything.

An experienced therapist will have ideas that you never thought of.

For some reason I thought a factor was also the degree of damage. What I have seen was not pleasant (the majority); and one who was able to ambulate with difficulty.

I'm a male, and I love having my nipples stimulated either sucking biting squeezing and gentle stroked, I have brought myself to an orgasm just by rubbing my finger tips across my hard nipples, I don't ejaculate but I do get a fantastic buzz my wife has also brought me of by playing with my nipples.
So I can see no reason that a women can not have the same experience with having her nipples played with, try it, it may just work for you. :)

[quote=RexyRay;194689]I'm a male, and I love having my nipples stimulated either sucking biting squeezing and gentle stroked, I have brought myself to an orgasm just by rubbing my finger tips across my hard nipples, I don't ejaculate but I do get a fantastic buzz my wife has also brought me of by playing with my nipples.
So I can see no reason that a women can not have the same experience with having her nipples played with, try it, it may just work for you. :)[/quote]Much depends on the sensitivity of the nipples & if stimulation causes arousal. I mainly find the sensation more of an annoyance; it's only a turn on if it's turning him on.

To the OP: I would get to a sex therapist and look at some forms of meditation where you focus on the sensation (mentally) on the genitalia. If you are feeling cramps...that's a good sign. Have you ever had him explore inside; portions of the posterior fornix or the g-spot? If you can feel pressure his exploration manually first may be a good experiment!