now my bf is always very good about giving me oral and he takes it without complaining, so it kinda makes me feel badly that i can't do it right back.
whenever he cums into my mouth, i try to swallow it, but it just won't go down and usually comes back up (sorry lol). this was particularly embarrassing when i was lying on my back head over the edge of my bed and giving him a blowjob and he came and all of the stuff (cum, spit, etc.) just was gagged back up onto my face and was running down into my hair and ewww there's still a little bit there i haven't been able to clean out :(
it's not the taste, idk what it is, but the fact is that i just cannot seem to get it down, instead getting up and awkwardly running (while retching and gagging) to the bathroom to go cough and gag over the sink.
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Generally, the problem that causes the gag reflex is when the ejaculate flies to the rear of the mouth and hits the Uvula. The easiest way to prevent this from occurring is to raise your tongue, either placing the tip against the roof of the mouth, or, placing the top flat part there. Doing so will contain the ejaculate and let it hit the bottom of the tongue, instead.
As for swallowing, some people have difficulty with the texture of the semen. This is usually just a mental thing. What you can try doing is to mix the semen with saliva and then swallow; take a drink of water, tea, coffee, or a soda and swallow the mixture. If you can swallow a capsule or pill, then there is no reason you cannot do the same with semen--and, keep it down.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
It's not absolutely necessary that you swallow the semen. It is absolutely necessary that you continue stimulating his penis with your mouth until his orgasmic spasms have subsided, that is if you want to give a first class BJ. That is what will make it most physically enjoyable for him. After he has ejaculated inside your mouth you can allow it to dribble out the side or you can discretely deposit it in a towel that you handily have near you. Whatever you do do not make a big deal of spitting it out. That is a a major pschological turn off and you can really upset your boyfriend that way if he thinks that you are disgusted by his semen and are purposely rejecting and ejecting it.
For some guys it is a psychologucal turn on if you swallow their semen, but for most just taking it in the mouth is enough. I have had blow jobs from some very talented and expert fellatrices. They all agree that for swallowing semen it is best if the man ejaculates as far into the back of the mouth as possible so there is no question of taste. If you can learn to deep throat I am told that the semen is basically pumped straight to the stomach:o. Of course deep throating takes a lot of practice and even having the penis toward the back of your tongue during ejaculation can take a lot of practice.
What you have going for you is that you are interested in doing it better.
The taste and the consistency are yukky. BUT, that is not what is making you gag. It is either psychological (common, try it with a condom until you get the mechanics right) or it is that first squirt striking you gag reflex.
Rest a thumb on the bottom base of his penis. You will feel the ejaculate on its way. When you feel it, IMMEDIATELY press your tongu against your hard palate. That will protect your gag reflex. The taste and consistency, you can becoome accustomed.
tried it again just last night and again, as soon as it got into my mouth, the gagging and retching started like by itself and i couldn't help it. i had to get up, cum dripping, and walk across the whole upstairs to get to the bathroom and then i puked when i got there :(
You have built up an anticipatory reflex. Do not even try to swallow. In fact, lay off blowjobs for a while. Then, start with condoms. Most prostitutes do it with condoms. You can then do a complete job and not worry about what is coming next. When ready, try again. That should be a while.
Well, you are certainly in the Premiership for trying! I am afraid that if I was the bloke in this situation I would have not allowed this to go on for so long. Credit to the professionals for their expert advice, but sex has to be pleasant. So, consider doing the business for the lucky guy, but let him shoot his load somewhere else which gives him pleasure and does not cause you this dreaded gagging etc.
Dear SCG,
I'm quite sure I've posted some advice on something comparable lately, but can't find it at the moment... The essence of it would be about what Brandye is referring to; building up a reflex.
I just want to let you know that it's nothing to be ashamed of. It's a natural reflex that is designed to protect you, but could turn against you. Your body is applying causality and predicts that since you got sick once, this stuff must be bad for you. Even if it wasn't really the cause. If you continue to force yourself it may get worse (as you've experienced). The physical aspect most probably gets accompanied by a psychological one; it gets you nervous it may happen again. And because you get nervous, you cramp up more, so there's more chance it will. The repetition makes your body even more certain this stuff is poison. It becomes a negative spiral that reinforces itself.
I can't know what you're going through exactly, but I can relate a bit to how it feels. I was ill a lot as a child which went together with vomiting. If I ate something and got sick during or right after, I would start gagging next time I ate it. Even though the first time the food wasn't the cause, but more illness or stress related. If I forced myself, I would vomit at the least taste or feel sick only because of the smell of the specific product.
What I learned is that the only way to break the spiral, is be patient with yourself. Allowing yourself to stop trying. SCG, you owe this to yourself! You're very brave for continuing. But like Maupassant says; sex is about pleasure and having fun. Not about competition. It shouldn't be spoiled by something such as this.
Which makes me wonder: Why did you go through with this so long? Are you afraid something will happen if you don't? Would you lose something? And if yes; what makes you think so?
Would he get mad if you didn't swallow?
After stumbling on a page about couples who swap cum so the man swallows it after oral. the wife and i thought we would have a go.i layed down whilst she gave me a blowjob till i came in her mouth , she suck up every drop then came up to kiss me and drop the load in my mouth, witch i swallow as she gentle rubbed my cock .over all i quiet liked it. the taste was not to bad if you swallow quick and it was nice to lay next to my wife instead of her running to the bathroom to spit it out. is this normal thing people do .please let me know and does anyone else have any other ideas on things to do in the bedroom