I was so close, but she couldn't get over the discomfort of felling as if she was going to urinate. I felt so accomplished though, she was soaked beyond belief and i felt her g-spot filling up like a balloon she just couldn't take the feeling. Best part is I knew what I was doing, but does anyone have any kind of suggestions to help her with this? Other than she has to relax cause she tried for awhile.
Mon, 09/01/2008 - 17:41
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I almost got her to squirt!
I would just go into it slowly and well practise i guess, get to the stage where she's really close and stop a few times so she gets used to the sensation and soon she will be ready for it.
Yeah that's what we tried, went from penetration to that off and on.
also have her go to the bathroom before you start just to make sure that its you not her blader making her feel that way
What We Know: G-Spot and Ejaculation
G Spot 101
Does she have orgasms by masturbating?
If yes, then it may or may not be possible to achieve a G-spot "O", however, my suggestion is to try and learn what happens. Absolutely do not make this a do or die situation. Some women can and some cannot.
I agree that she should empty her bladder beforehand. The feeling of having to pee is common just prior to climaxing particularly if a girl/woman is just learning how. Just push beyond and see what happens. After awhile and with some experience the sensation will go away.
She doesn't masturbate regularly, very rarely in fact. And she always empties her bladder before hand and still gets the urination feeling and that's why I believe she can.
The sensation of having to pee is a false signal. Just continue to stimulate her and push beyond it and the orgasm (of whatever type) should happen. With enough practice the urge to pee will disappear.
Do I understand from your reply that she can orgasm from masturbation, just doesn't do it very much? If so, you are on the right road. If she masturbates yet does not climax then first before anything else she has to learn to connect the dots and experience some orgasms on her own before the two of you can ever expect you to be able to help her achieve them. If and when she can do this, then she should guide your fingers or tongue and give you feedback on how she is responding to your caresses and for what she needs next.
If she is wary of giving you any feedback then your "batting average" will be 50/50 at best and with something so important who wants this score? Please read what I have written on "feedback".
You are right, but let me explain a little more. She was raised to think masturbation was bad and nasty, I was a sexaholic I guess so I learned my way around the ropes early. I showed her what she liked and then I got her to try masturbation, she can orgasm, but it is very minuscule. So she prefers me at all times to do it, unless I have no way of getting to her soon.
Those kinds of negative beliefs about sex take time to get over. It's entirely possible she still has some of that nasty social programming left over.
Regarding her masturbation, I am fairly certain she will get better at it as time goes on.
Has she tried masturbating with some porn? The visual and audio stimuli can help increase arousal.
As far as getting past that feeling, she needs to relax and mentally push past the feeling, but that can be a very difficult thing to do. If I were in your position I would just keep trying. Eventually she will figure out what to do.
-Dan
Use loads of towels! If she is lying on thick layers of towelling, and she has emptied her bladder before, and you tell her you don't even care if it is pee... then that might relax her enough to let go.
Maybe show her a video on the internet of someone squirting too so she gets a better idea of what it is like.
I wouldn't let it get to you. You were this close to making your woman recieve ultimate pleasure. Like they said try again and see what happens.
Amen,
This is something that i am defiantely into. I am absolutely positive that wife is able to. She always speaks about the urge to pee and I feel her g spot begin to swell, her orgasms are absolutely phenomenal but she will not allow herself to ride them out and see the suprise that comes next. When i have her moments away from squirting meanwhile already cumming she always wants me to stop giving her oral so that she can finish the orgasm with my dick in her. I am by no mean complaining because we have the most amazing sex life, BUT i would absolutely love for her to just release and drench me in everything that i have been working for.
[QUOTE=Yariome;222571]I was so close, but she couldn't get over the discomfort of felling as if she was going to urinate. I felt so accomplished though, she was soaked beyond belief and i felt her g-spot filling up like a balloon she just couldn't take the feeling. Best part is I knew what I was doing, but does anyone have any kind of suggestions to help her with this? Other than she has to relax cause she tried for awhile.[/QUOTE]
What I've found that works is to take one hand (palm flat) and place it on the lowest part of her stomach right above her pubic bone while you're doing whatever it is you're doing to get her near squirting. As you "work" push in on her lower stomach towards the action that you're using below. Apply as much pressure as you can without making her uncomfortable... you can also move that hand in a circular massaging motion. This involves her entire sensual region. It's worked for me with more than one woman. (and they had ever squirted before that.) please, keep in mind that i can't promise anything. just trying to help...
also, as stated by others: ultimately the key is that "she has to feel comfortable with you." when you think she's comfortable enough... even if she says so, she's probably still not. help (not make) her feel double that comfortable. trust plays a big part in this. when it does works, show her by your reactions that she made the right choice in "allowing" YOU to help her squirt. tell her how she's amazing and just keeps getting better... even when you thought she was already great.
[QUOTE=mjp106;227984]What I've found that works is to take one hand (palm flat) and place it on the lowest part of her stomach right above her pubic bone while you're doing whatever it is you're doing to get her near squirting. As you "work" push in on her lower stomach towards the action that you're using below. Apply as much pressure as you can without making her uncomfortable... you can also move that hand in a circular massaging motion. This involves her entire sensual region. It's worked for me with more than one woman. (and they had ever squirted before that.) please, keep in mind that i can't promise anything. just trying to help...
also, as stated by others: ultimately the key is that "she has to feel comfortable with you." when you think she's comfortable enough... even if she says so, she's probably still not. help (not make) her feel double that comfortable. trust plays a big part in this. when it does works, show her by your reactions that she made the right choice in "allowing" YOU to help her squirt. tell her how she's amazing and just keeps getting better... even when you thought she was already great.[/QUOTE]
im always open to new suggestions and this is one that i will definately not overlook. thanks for the advice