I saw a commercial about a show called "the real world" and a guy did some webcam and other stuff for mainly a gay site. His girlfriend who met him on the show was not pleased to say the least after finding out. So I wanted to ask would this be a problem if you were dating someone that had that in their past? Would it change your opinion if it was gay content? Or would the worst part be that he/she didn't tell you?
Sun, 05/01/2011 - 23:20
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Hypothetical dating/relationship question
Let me make sure I understand. Your gf was on a website doing solo or videos with another female?
If this is the case, I look at it this way. She has videos of her fooling around with another woman...what could be better :p
i would have to agree completely ducy
No, wouldn't be a problem. Wouldn't change my opinion much, I would probably find it interesting on to what extend this adds to his preferences today and how he views his past himself. If my partner didn't tell me? There probably is a lot more in his past he hasn't had the time to tell yet! I would want him to feel free enough to tell me or certainly; not put effort in hiding such things. There should be no shame in a relationship.
Though I must admit I'm no angle; there are certain things that would make me reflect upon him and our relationship; addiction, crime, moneyproblems, violent professions, etc. And still; it wouldn't necessarily change things, yet could mean you're less compatible than you thought you were.
I completely agree with you RR. I have had a less than glorious past. I went from Mr straight and narrow to some illegal dealings. Not proud of it, but I don't hide it. If it gets brought up I will tell it like it is. But I'm also not gonna walk up to a girl and say "Hi, I'm ducy I used to "blank""
It hasn't really made me any different thought. I walked a dangerous past, got some scars and found my way back. I'm still good ole' ducy. Albeit it a little wiser.
Sexual experiences aren't much of a decision maker in relationships. Granted I'd PREFER an experienced girl over a virgin, I would go with whomever was more sexually and emotionally compatible. There are some virgin girls who become phenomenal lovers and are genuinely interest in developing their sexual prowess. Then there are some girls who sleep with anyone and are close relatives to the bed pillow judging by the way they lay there.
Same with porn experiences and such. I myself have made videos and had sex in front of a group of people. I may be a little worried that ducy jr will be on the web and see his mommy "getting railed" or scissoring. But I'm not going to look at a woman and say "You did porn?! Get out of my life you harlott!"
The one thing I will say though, is that I DO have a problem with cheaters. If a woman admitted to cheating on past boyfriends (plural) or didn't seem to be remorseful of it. Then I would be a little more hesitant. And I'm not talking about dating Johnny while dating Steven. I'm talking about being in an exclusive, monogamous relationship with Johnny, and telling him she is getting her hair done with sally, while in reaity she's getting her body done by Steven.
I will say one thing though. (Which is why this is a tough questiong for me to truly answer) if a girl admitted to cheating on past boyfriends, no matter
as long as she isnt doing another MAN, id be fine with it
both me and my girl are bi, mysefl still a virgin, and we are both cool with each other experimenting (she has, i havent had the chance yet)
Why should I care? He's with me now isn't he?
Oh, if he wants to tell me, that's fine and yes, his attitude toward his past is germane but at my age - I'd be far more concerned if he DIDN'T have a past.
Now me, I make no secret of my having had more men than he's had hot dinners; I am a generous woman who happens to REALLY enjoy men. If he has an issue with that he wouldn't be with me in the first place.
Fair being fair, if I expect him to not have issues then I can't have issues.