When my girlfriend and I are 'fooling' around I alwase try to pay at least a little attension to her clit because I realy want to get her to orgasm (not yet:mad: ) but no mater how I try to play with her clit it is alwase too sensitive. She says it feels good but all it does it tickle realy bad. Im pretty shure I could alow her to achieve and orgasm if I could just figure out a way to stimulate her clit withought it becoming hyper sencitive... if anyone has had this problem, any thoughts or sugestions would be apreciated, thanks
ShadowMan
Wed, 02/21/2007 - 03:40
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Hyper sensitive clit
:) Thanks alot for the feedback. I have tryed the indirect approach but it does not seem to have much effect, guess ill just try a little harder next time:p Thanks agin
ShadowMan
Don't attack it directly, lol.
I even like the general area to be gently massaged through my panties....then its not as sensitive.
Generally when someone is ticklish somewhere the solution is to apply a bit more pressure rather than a lighter touch. In the case of the clitoris you can try this with her guidence, however, I think what Demon says will be a better solution. I regulary recommend that the clitoris should be stimulated indirectly thusly:
* working with one or both inner labia will transfer stimulation to the clitoris indirectly
* folding them over the clitoris and rubbing will also counter the high sensitivity
* stroking the shaft of the clitoris will work also
Ask her to give you feedback on what works and to take your fingers and guide their movements so that you can learn what she likes when she becomes ticklish. The ticklishness is just a reaction to becoming very turned on. Usually, when a woman complains of hyper-sensitivity, it is just prior to the triggering of an orgasm; whereas with men, this phenomenon occurs right after.
Isn't there a Sticky post about this?
I found most men try too hard. Go gentle and tease us!
Also, try only rubbing the hooded part that covers the clit. That little pink pearl inside the hood is very sensitive, and you may applying too much direct contact on it.
Agreed with the previous posts - too much direct contact there is just annoying, and serves little purpose. (Unless the contact is gentle strokes from a warm tongue!)
I think the best way to describe whats appropriate is soft, circular motions. The best thing to do is to ask your partner to show you how they masturbate. If they show you how they do it themselves, its the best way to learn - or, let your girlfriend guide your hands/fingers to show you how she likes it.