Im hoping someone out there might have some advice for me regarding porn and what is acceptable to watch.
I recently found a disc of my husbands porn and i was very disturbed!!!! It had women choking and vomiting while giving headjobs, women with their head held in a toilet bowl(drowning) while having sex, and most disturbing- references to bestiality porn!!!!
My husband said that it was not his disk and a friend made it for him years ago. But i dont believe him. Why else would he keep it all these years?
To add to all this, my husband has never really been interested in sex with me for over 12 years. And has disclosed that he had tried to have sex with a dog once. He said it didnt go all the way because he was worried he hurt the dog, and feels disgusted in himself.
But this is coming from a man that had a strangely close relationship with his dog. He referred to her as his girlfriend before i met him, and treated her better than me most of the time.
He said that when she went on heat for the first time he became frustrated watching males dogs trying to mount her. That they didnt know where to put it. So he showed them where to put it. He didnt actually do it. But i am disturbed.
Any advice? Please help?
Because i love my husband, but i am sickened, and no longer want to have sex with him ever.
[QUOTE=red2669;268700]He wont go to a doctor or get councelling. He has had every excuse under the sun over the years. But it always is my fault in some way or another.
I have a good sex drive, and am getting very frustrated. Yet he can go for a year without it and cant see a problem with it.
I made him go to a councellor about the dog thing, but i dont even know if he went.[/QUOTE]
You gotta dump his sorry hide. I agree with EEK - if he's "giving you every excuse under the sun, and doesn't want to stop, then he will NOT stop. And how is it your fault? The only direction this CAN go is worse, and it's already bad.
Okay, while most pornography is boring, you are quite right - this stuff is hateful.
Your husband should get counseling both with you and without you.
Most normal men think about sex every 7 seconds. You're right there and willing, I presume, and yet he's not interested? Something's not right.
Either its in his head or in his body so get him to the doctors and find out what's going on.
He wont go to a doctor or get councelling. He has had every excuse under the sun over the years. But it always is my fault in some way or another.
I have a good sex drive, and am getting very frustrated. Yet he can go for a year without it and cant see a problem with it.
I made him go to a councellor about the dog thing, but i dont even know if he went.
Evil is quite correct. Issue an ultimatum: get counselling or get out.
Though these forums are to be read without prejudice, some things make me a bit disgusted. This is the first such post for a few years. By the way, given a dog's apparent inability to think abstractly, I am not sue they would learn "where to put it" from a human playing canine. That incident was more instructive for him than for the dogs standing around. They "know" where to put it.
how long have you been married and how committed are you to the relationship?
If this is something you want him to work out and you want to keep him as your husband, then you need to lay down some ground rules. Ultimatums can be a tricky thing, but you need to approach this like you might a kid with a really bad habit. If he won't change his behavior then you need to force his hand the other direction (meaning you leave him)
Obviously, he does have some very poor taste in adult material. I will honestly say that I've seen just about every sick form of porn at one time or another, but I don't go back to most of them, as they just aren't my style.
From what you say, it sounds like he probably did have sex with his dog at one point or another. If he sees nothing wrong with it, then there's little you can do or say to make him change, but he doesn't have to enjoy it while having you as his human partner. Explain to him that what he's doing is unacceptable and lay down your terms with a timeline, then stick to your guns.
Good Luck !
Every excuse under the sun?
Then get some self-esteem and divorce him!
have to admit this guy sounds like a dead loss. tell him to change or get out
You should start sex with toys, and you can go also with your friend to fullfill your requirment it's not wrong.
getting to that level of porn is often and indicator of sexual abuse early in life, get him to talk to a professional
Based on your post it appears blatantly obvious your man has some serious issues that he needs to deal with. Needless to say his preferences, or fetishes, are clearly outside the norm even for members of the Swing LifeStyle world. There is no legitimate reason why you should settle for something you and many others find disturbing at best. It is our opinion women should be loved, appreciated, respected, and made to feel special.