Be gentle & don't pound, make certain she is aroused enough, add extra lube.

"Sorta common?" Not really. A twinge now and then but if it hurts frequently and regularly and you are doing nothing kinky, she should have it checked.

Are you attacking her w/ it?? lol
Like brandye said.. it's common that you might shift to a position and you get a pain... you quickly readjust... or if the girl starts to get dry,.... the friction can hurt.

What exactly is hurting her?? The friction? width? depth?

ok it is a common thing unless youve had sex more than like 3 times. you should finger her to make her vagina opening biger start with one finger than work it up to two fingers. please her other than with the peins and when she gets so horny she cant take it shell shove it in there and theres the pleasure good luck

yeah I agree with the last post, however if it still hurts her then maybe she should get a check up and make sure everything is ok.

evobyte - study up on female anatomy, learn to know where your penis is in relation to her when inside of her, learn to listen to her body and time yourself to match her body's responses and signals. Use condoms and lubricant.

Read around the forum - this question has been answered numerous times.

I think most common problem for this is that she isn't wet enough. Then, of course, it hurts. It is NOT normal though. If she feels comfortable and everything else is ok, she's just naturally so (diet or stress levels, or even genetics may cause this), use some lube.

If this is not a problem, that could be psychological thing. Best solution :talk talk talk!

Its actually not all that uncommon if you have a larger penis. Ive been through it before with girls, It really just takes some adjustment. Depending on eachothers size you should be able to work through it with a week or so of consistent sex.

Even with endowed men, a higher skill level and the use of lubricant should prevent any pain from ocurring. I suggest finding her G-Spot manually and then learning to caress her G-Spot with the head of your penis using lubricant to help keep the motion gentle. This takes control and sensitivity. Practicing this will improve your skill level tremendously and increase her enjoyment and decrease any pain.

Some girls are more prone to urinary track infections. If perhaps that is the case then the two of you may want to review your hygene habits. Are hands being washed beforehand? Do both of you wash yourselves 'down there' thuroghly, do you even shower often enough? The timing of the cleanlieness is also crucial (that is, after the long day at work followed by the trip to the gym, cleanse beforehand).

Also, allowing her to be on top puts her in control as to how much depth and at what angle she wants.

There could also be a psychological angle as well. Her simply not being turned on/in the mood enough but going through with it anyhow. Not only is there a lack of lubrication, but she'll be more inclined to notice every mistake you make.

Look, if you're worried about hurting her, don't be. Some like it rough and are afraid to admit it! If she lets you do it, she probably likes it!

[QUOTE=Hotaro;194950]Look, if you're worried about hurting her, don't be. Some like it rough and are afraid to admit it! If she lets you do it, she probably likes it![/QUOTE]

If she is complaining about the pain, she obviously does NOT like it. You are an idiot. Stop writing stuff to try and irritate ppl. Go play elsewhere, child. PPL are looking for some serious advice.

[QUOTE=Suki2007;195025]If she is complaining about the pain, she obviously does NOT like it. You are an idiot. Stop writing stuff to try and irritate ppl. Go play elsewhere, child. PPL are looking for some serious advice.[/QUOTE]

First off, years ago I graduated with a degree in psychology with an emphasis in sexuality. I do offer serious advice. Second, I'm from South Korea and we wrote the book on pleasing women. Third, if she was actually being hurt she wouldn't have sex with him and he wouldn't subject her to that.

In South Korea we don't call each other idiots. I've noticed since living in the U.S. that you people shout others down or blow them up if you have a disagreement. I should count myself lucky that I'm only an idiot.

I'm sorry, but if a girl is telling her BF that his penis is hurting her, that is complaining. From the tone of his post, obviously, they are both sort of new to the whole thing, which would also imply that they are learning together. Unfortunately, most girls think that it should/will hurt, so will continue to have sex, even when it causes them pain.

I read some of your posts before I had posted the previous one and from those, it did seem that you were merely posting to get a rise out of people. There are a lot of forum trolls who do just that. From looking at a few more of your posts, I see that isn't necessarily the case, and I apologize for calling you an idiot.

[QUOTE=Hotaro;194950]Look, if you're worried about hurting her, don't be. Some like it rough and are afraid to admit it! If she lets you do it, she probably likes it![/QUOTE]

Hotaro,
He said "She says my penis is hurting her." That means, she feels the pain while having sex with him. This sentence should be taken as it. I had similar experience some time ago, I did not tell the man because that was the first time we had sex so I wanted him to feel good (in doing what he did) and ALSO I thought I would figure out a better position next time. When we had sex the next time, I asked him to be gentle -- it helped a little. He didn't seem too experience and he focused too much on "speed".

Your second comment, saying that some like it rough but don't want to admit it .... really is another issue which also is an exceptional (and abnormal) case. If someone who has such preference should make it clear to his/her partner, I think that's a more sophisticated and matured way of keeping a healthy relationship. I agree with Suki that this should not be raised up in this section because you were supposed to give valid answer to the question.

Here, I am not really offering a good answer but at least, I want to clarify from a woman's perspective that it is not right to assume that some girls endure the pain because "they love it". They can temporarily endure the pain for some good reasons which do not include "liking it rough".

By the way, getting a degree in any subject - be it a bachelor, a master or a doctorate - doesn't necessarily mean that you are good at it. Nowadays, everybody has a degree of some sort, and publishing a book is not a big deal. Just a general comment, I have a lot of PhD friends, but still can find one or two who are idots in one way or another. We are only human.

Please do not play the racial cards when you are not happy with a comment. I am from Asia too. I am not sure if Korean would call each other idots, but I know that it is very common for Korean to hit someone's head. FYI, that is uncommon in the U.S. In addition, your name doesn't sound Korean to me, it is a Japanese name. Japanese address peers or the youngsters as "Idiot" very casually. You should get used to it since you have chosen a Japanese name.

Aye:rolleyes: EEK...I did not mean I knew more than everybody. I have friend in their mid 20's who have been having sex for years and they still think as long as shes wet she will orgasm. Or that the only way is hard and fast...some barely know about protection. Obviously I will neve know as much about sex as you or many other senior members of this board...doc sera brandye etc. I was merely using this to show that you dont need a PhD to be intelligent or to be right.

Ok seriously people should learn to just take peoples comments with a grain of salt. Everyones opinions are different, and people are gonna disagree with you...

Suki i believe you were wrong for calling him an idiot....ignorant is more like it...The US bombs people when they have a disagreement? Im guessing your from north korea...since I know south koreans sure as heck werent complaining when we were bombing the crap outa their enemies!

Second...If a girl liked it rough she would tell you...I know my girlfriend had no problem expressing herself during her...well our first time...In fact I was really surprised because she is one of the most outspoken and shy person when it comes to doing new things(first kiss, manual stimulation, oral sex, etc)...Even if she was to embarassed to admit it the first time, I can bet 100% by the 3rd even 4th time she would be like **** Im sick of it just being his pleasure....**** me harder, faster...and so on and so forth...(maybe not in those exact words)

Third...last time I checked it was india that wrote the book on pleasing women...hell pleasure in general...ever heard of tantric? Many of its ideas are rooted in the many religions of INDIA, based on pleasure and spirituality....and kama sutra...the book on love and sensuality....I dont think there could be any better books out there....Someone remind me to go to India and thank each and every one of them....:rolleyes:

Finally...A degree in psychology with an emphasis in sexuality. PFFT its a piece of paper...it means nothing. Im 17...and I know things that most 40 year olds dont...I know more about sex in just 2 months (6 if you count outercourse) than people who have been having sex for years...Hell I knew more about psychology than my counselor did when I was diagnosed with depression (shes definitely good at what she does cuz she has won quite a few awards)...But I get her to talk about her past and realize things that she never realized before, so if that doesnt show a piece of paper means nothing than I dont know what will...

Sorry for the long post, but not I guess I PMS when my girlfriend is about to start lol. This just really made me angry...especially the nice little race card thrown in.

[quote=4love;196104]By the way, getting a degree in any subject - be it a bachelor, a master or a doctorate - doesn't necessarily mean that you are good at it. Nowadays, everybody has a degree of some sort, and publishing a book is not a big deal. Just a general comment, I have a lot of PhD friends, but still can find one or two who are idots in one way or another. We are only human. [/quote]
I believe in another thread they agreed it was a miscommunication; just to clarify. And obtaining a Master or PhD trust me & being published IS A BIG DEAL! Don't knock it until you do it; then you will shake your head to hear the marbles rattle, LOL!

lol love it is hard work....I had a history teacher who actually missed a week cuz he had a mini mental breakdown over it...poor guy...

But you have to admit sera...If someone was really all that smart they wouldnt stand up and say Im right and your wrong cuz I have a PhD....now if they're degree was a shotgun thats another story...:D

[quote=Ducy;196127]lol love it is hard work....I had a history teacher who actually missed a week cuz he had a mini mental breakdown over it...poor guy...

But you have to admit sera...If someone was really all that smart they wouldnt stand up and say Im right and your wrong cuz I have a PhD....now if they're degree was a shotgun thats another story...:D[/quote]
No, one would not say right/wrong; rather, they provide a persuasive, intelligent point of view that hopefully engages ones brain or causes the other to think.

However, knocking ones educational level is a sure "Piss off" [to me] since those who are not there have no idea what goes into it [I did not]! It's an accomplishment which pushes one to the brink of insanity! Additionally, what was "given up" out of personal time is grossly misunderstood. To be published in a Peer Reviewed Journal; knowing that other's will write against your stance after you researched, cited, and sourced [and wrote] is an trial it's self.

Many times, I wished I could just "skip out" and play around but we all "pick our poisons". :)

Oh do you now know more about sex, Ducy, *evil grin* than people who have been doing it for years?

Now then, do not discount education; do not get racial; and let's not bring politics into this either. Stick to the issue at hand.

He's too big and there are only three possible causes:
1. he is too big physically - she's just built that way
2. there is a physical medical issue with her - infection of some sort
3. there is a psychological issue - either control, insecurity, or abuse

There is the side issue that a man has simply got to be skilled, whatever his size may be, to be of any use - when speaking of pleasure apart from procreation.

Ducy - send your friends here then.
We'll educate them as well.

Alrighty then...sounds like a party