Okay so this post is about oral sex and swallowing. The oral sex part on him I don't mind at all, in fact I love to do it to make him pleased. BUT, of course, he wishes that I would finish him off rather than wait till right before he cums and stops and just use my hand. He says just spit it out if you don't like it, but its just not that easy hehe...I'm sure its not the same if you stop and start again...like the same thing with women. I just can't get over having that stuff in my mouth! I admit I have tried it like 3 times, but during those times I had consumed a little alcohol which made me not care as much lol!
The whole "idea" of it turns me on, but then when it comes down to it I chicken out! He said he's happy with anything, just the fact that I'm willing to do it all, but would love if I would fully do it.
What can I do to make myself not mind it so much? It's not that it tastes horrible...but if it doesn't...then why won't I just do it? I need to get over this, because of course, when he performs it on me, he deals with body fluids without choice...so its only fair, right? agghh..i don't know...
If you want to do, you just have to do it! Decide you are not going to back out and do it. It only sprays, it will not bite! :)
My first blow job, I thought I had been poisoned. Gagged, hacked, coughed and generally made a fool of myself. The taste and, worse, the consistency is not good. I still do not think it is.
What causes gagging, however, is that first hard shot directly onto your gag reflex in the back of your throat. To never be surprised, place your thumb against the bottom of his penis.. You can feel the ejaculate coming and you have very little time. Then press the back of your tongue against your hard palate. Some recommend you raise your tongue to take the shot under the tongue. I like my way.
I still do not like the taste or consistency but consider oral to be a required trick for any woman. Whether or not you swallow is up to you and the moment. I keep finger towels near the bed and they are useful for many little wipe-ups, including this.
its like salt water!!!
i was a bit scared at first to do it. but now i love doing it.
you will get used to it.
It tastes like saltwater unless the man has a high-sugar diet. Men with high protein intake tend to have saltier-bitter ejaculate. Have him eat pineapples twice a day. :)
I am the same way as Tarabelle, just the thought makes me gag. I actually finished 1 time, it was disgusting. My Hubby was body building at the time (he don't anymore, and hasn't for about 6 years), and on all sorts of vitamins and crap, wonder if that is why. Anyway, I'm to scared to try again. Don't know if that's why it tasted so awful. Anyway, goodluck and if you get any good tips, feel free to share with me!
For those of you "learning," do it with a dry condom until you get used to the mechanics. It is interesting that GoodBoy Friend is so familiar with the taste. It takes like much more than saltwater!
Pretty, on all the stuff body builders consume in the interest of whatever, I can guarantee that his semen was affected. Fish oils are used for the vehicle in much of that stuff and I cannot think of anything that would make the semen taste worse!
ive learned that if his semen has a funny taste to you then have him eat something sweet about a half hour before you do anything, the sugar (or sucrose for fruit) will get into his blood stream and make everything taste better.
Well, I'm gay and I feel the same way Tarabelle. Luckily my partner ALSO feels the same way, so neither of us feel cheated the other doesn't go "all the way". Don't get me wrong . . . . I LOVE it when someone else does it to me. But the consistency I've never gotten used to and probably never will.
Anyway, if you're really determined I'm sure you'll get there. As a halfway measure you might want to keep something to drink nearby. After you swallowed you can follow it with a "chaser". Another thing that's helped me is if you find a flavored lube you like . . . . . . use some of that on his penis (not a lot) before starting. That way the taste of the lube is what you have in your mouth when he shoots and it's not as bad.
It is protein! Why let that go to waste! Do not bother tasting it - just swallow and be done with it! It will not kill you!
Protein my a.... I've had sex with alot of dudes and I don't like it at all. If it doesn't bother him don't worry about it. Some people never get use to it.If that's your choice not to do it so be it.
Probably is not enough protein to make up if you hate the taste..
I don't understand the big deal though, just swallow it. My girlfriend doesn't really "taste" that great imo, but I do it anyway.
Well, if it makes you gag it's a big deal. Hardly sexy. And again, it's not the taste that grosses me out, it's the texture.
Then again I don't like oysters either. :D
I dont like the taste smell or consistancy of his ejaculate either heck im 36 and just started letting my man ejaculate in my mouth about 6 mnths ago havnt gotten the nerve to swallow yet though. anyway best thoughts i have are #1 just get in there and do it keep a soda or some sort of drink on hand ( even if you spit and instead of swallow you still have the residiual flavor ) #2 try using whipped cream or some sort of flavored buffer to take away from the taste and smell. i dunno why it is but the smell of cum reminds me of bleach and has an equally nasty taste.
My wife was the same way and didn't want me to ejaculate in her mouth, but she never gave me OS long enough to get me to the point to worry about it. I just loved the OS as part of foreplay. She was mid 30's when I first ejaculated in her mouth after 10+ years of marriage. It wasn't something we had planned to do and she quickly spit it out. We had gone out hiking in the hills to be alone and got naked. She ended up giving me oral and was really doing a great job. Plus the fact we were outside and I was watching her work on me was so fun. But I got to the point I knew I was going to ejaculate but didn't want have her stop, so I just went with it and ejaculated in her mouth. She didn't like it and fortunately we had some water with us so she could rinse and have a drink. The down side was she was reluctant to give me oral for awhile after that and never long enough to worry about ejaculation.
The key for changing this was to warn her when I was getting close. She would usually want me to finish inside her or she would finish me by hand and let me cum on her. A few times she would finish me in her mouth and just let it drip out and run down my penis or she would just spit. A few times lately she has swallowed. The first time she instigated the sex by coming over to me on the couch and started to rub my penis through my shorts and then she stripped me down. She just started giving me oral so I just leaned back and decided to enjoy it. She continued working on my penis with her mouth and hands much longer than she usually does it and I was really enjoying being able to watch her and she loved the way I was moaning. I warned her that she was going to make me cum like I had done in the past and she loved up at me with a mouth full of penis and mumbled "to ahead". So I just enjoyed watching the the ending. What surprised me was the fact that she just started to swallow as it came out and not only that but she kept sucking to get every last drop. About all I could say was WOW! and thank you very much. She just went and had a small drink of soda to rinse away the after taste.
The answer is yes, you may get used to it and find OS to completion and swallowing is something you love, others do it just to please their partner, and then there are others that will never allow him to cum in her mouth let alone swallow. I found I liked it a lot when she finally did swallow and the few times after she has done it. But if she had never swallowed, it wouldn't be something I would be disappointed about. I just love recieving oral sex and if she felt uncomfortable with ejaculating in her mouth, I would gladly give up the ejaculate part and just enjoy the oral since there are many other ways for me to enjoy finishing.
Honestly Tarabelle - I had the same problem for a while. I mean first, giving a BJ was hell for me... got used to that... I mean it was mostly the precum that was horrible... so you can imagine a guy finishing!!
But you do get used to it and figure if you can handle the pre, its really not much worse than that... at least thats my opinion....
My mentallity with spitting is 1) you gotta keep it in your mouth THAT MUCH LONGER to get to an apporpriate place to spit. I mean unless you dont mind just spattin wherever you are... but I would always run to the bathroom to spit it out... and then I felt like such a "silly girl" doing it and I know that big ole "SPAT" was not the hottest thing in the world. So i tried swallowing.
Hey like givin them in the first place you get used to it and hey, I even like giving my man that pleasure now.
Now, does your guy smoke??? I know that can really make it taste bad. Or eat a lot of redmeat? Ive heard rumors about that but seeing as most guys i know do love their meat, and Ive dated both smokers and non smokers, i dont have any variables for the meat one. But ive heard the pineapple thing for girls, dont see why it wouldnt work for guys. And DVD's idea works... or use like a sucking candy (although try and get something similar to the consistency of an altoid...dont wanna hurt the guy) or keep juice or tea or some flavored drink (or shot haha) nearby to drink right after.
Palooza - i think the smell bothers me more than anything else too - i wouldnt say bleach for me but definitely something similar...
if thats the biggest issue tho for you tara... try going in the shower!! think about it. youll have soap everywhere so itll smell nice, water pouring everywhere so if you really need to you can kinda rinse out or let a little fall into your mouth, and you can spit instantly if you just arent ready to try swallowing yet! plus, the shower is such a sexy place to get it on.
[QUOTE=chickadee;179320]I mean first, giving a BJ was hell for me... got used to that... I mean it was mostly the precum that was horrible... so you can imagine a guy finishing!!
But you do get used to it and figure if you can handle the pre, its really not much worse than that... at least thats my opinion....
[/QUOTE] Funny, I quite like pre-cum . . . . it's thin in consistency and usually not that much and (for me) doesn't taste like much of anything except perhaps a little salty . . . sorta like tears. And I've also never really noticed that much of a taste to cum either, although if I do swallow I get a peppery aftertaste that's hard to lose.
If I know a guy isn't going to blow a bucketful I can let them blow in my mouth. Unfortunately (for this activity at least) my partner cums like a horse and between the texture and volume it's just not easy getting used to.
Flavored condoms are amazing. I bought a few of them and put one in his birthday card as a "coupon" for a blowjob. And I do this sucking thing on the head of his penis that drives him absolutely insane and I tried it without the condom and it hurt him. SO he now prefers I blow him with the flavored condoms. Unfortunately the closest place to buy them is Condom Kingdon on South Street and I don't get there very often. Next time I'm buying a bunch.
(Yes we have an entire store devoted to condoms. It's set up kinda like a candy store with barrels and stuff. Besides you gotta love a store that repaved their sidewalk so they have marble sperm swimming into the front door. If you're ever in philly it is the place to buy trinkets. Who doesn't love penis shaped, strawberry flavored lollipops?)