This is a sticky situation, and one that forces me into territory that I'm not totally comfortable with. You might have to set her up to fall a little. Normally, I'm not into beating around the bush (no pun intended), and would just say "suck it up and tell her", but this can be a touchy subject. So, then next time you go down on her, after a little bit, stop and act like you got a hair in your mouth. Do it again a few minutes later. If she doesn't start to get the idea here, act like you have a hair stuck in your teeth. Hopefully, she'll say something like, "oh, I'm sorry sweetie, that's kind of gross". Then you can say, "oh, it's no big deal. A hazard of the trade." Here comes the part where you win the Academy Award... Act like you have this great idea and excitedly say "HEY! Maybe we should try having you shave down here! That would be really sexy!" Or something a little more suave than that. You get the picture. Hey, it worked with my girl...

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It's not something I'd normally recommend, but I can't think of another way out of this situation. Unless, of course, you decide to cowboy up and just tell her that you think it would be cool if she trimmed or shaved.

Try this: Mention one day, that you have been wondering what it would be like if you were to shave, and ask her what she would think about it. That my prompt her to return the question. If not, you could try actually doing it, and if she likes it, she may consider trying it.

My guy just asked me if I would shave for him ... I said no so he asked if he could shave me because it would turn him on -- I said OK :rolleyes: ;)

As I've said before, my guy told me that he liked keeping himself trimmed for me. I took that idea and shaved for him and he loved it.
If he'd have asked me if I'd be interested in trying something new I would at least listen to his request.

That's my suggestion. Ask her if she'd try something new. Or mention that you'd like to try something and see what she thinks of it. The worst she could say is no. On the other hand, she might like the idea too.

I would go with something Maribelle said..., why don't you try introduce it as part of foreplay...set the mood and lie her down, bring out the warm towel, scissors etc and tell her what you would like to do. Tell her how much it would turn you on, the trust she would have in you, the look, the feeling etc...be prepared to have it done to you to.

[QUOTE=learning]I would go with something Maribelle said..., why don't you try introduce it as part of foreplay...set the mood and lie her down, bring out the warm towel, scissors etc and tell her what you would like to do. Tell her how much it would turn you on, the trust she would have in you, the look, the feeling etc...be prepared to have it done to you to.[/QUOTE]

As much as I trust my guy, if I saw him coming at me with a towel and scissors, I'd probably freak a little.
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[QUOTE=ShadesRuda]As much as I trust my guy, if I saw him coming at me with a towel and scissors, I'd probably freak a little.
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Just as long as he doesn't come at you with a pair of wool sheers or a gas-powered hedge clipper... THAT would be a scary situation on so many levels...

Hey Shades, well maybe a glass or two of red wine would help "settle" the nerves...none for him though, as impaired vision/co-ordination etc is not needed in this situation!

I say bring it up when you both are really wasted.

The next time you are giving her oral, why don't you start touching her lips and other areas that are not shaved and tell her "You know, if you trimmed this, I bet it would feel better for you when I ran my tongue over this spot" or "I heard it's a lot more sensitive when you shave" or something like that. My BF said that to me before when he wanted me to trim more than I had been (I was doing the bare minimum) and I didn't find it offensive. He was still touching me and kissing me so I didn't feel like it repulsed him and he tried to make it all about my pleasure when he said it.

If you expect your girlfriend to shave then you must definately be willing to do the same. You can't expect her to be all up for the idea if it's something you're not willing to do. You must definately handle the situation with tact. Don't just blurt out "I refuse to go anywhere near that bush. You need to shave." That will mostly likely get you slapped or dumped unless your girlfriend has a thing for *******s. Definately mention that it will benefit her, it's there's something in it for both of you then she is more likely to participate. I don't know if it's true for all women but I know when I shave I am more sensitive and I also love the way it feels when I play with myself. The most important thing is to be understanding if she says no. It is actually healthier to keep the hair (it's there for a reason) but many women (and men) do shave, but it's not something that is uniform. If she doesn't feel comfortable, just drop it. This is not something that should make or break the relationship.

yah i keep it fairly trimmed the last few years but when i was younger (say 17-19), my bf told me hey why dont u trim so i was like ok
but its all about communication explain yourself and stuff :)

Be very careful, I mentioned it once or twice (as sensitively as I could) and she took it to mean she wasn't adequate - she has self esteem issues (why I don't know because she's the best lover and partner I could ever wish for)

I tell you I felt like a total bastard after that:( :( . Though once I told her how I felt (above) she bounced back:) .

In this scenario drop it. Mind you I am going to shave myself (and maybe she might try herself) - but mostly I'm shaving to add to her pleasure and for hygene and cosmetic reasons too.

So for Godsake be careful broaching the subject. And once you have an answer leave it, don't force the issue.:)

RS

My first serious gf was very hairy but loved me giving her oral, when i suggested she might find it better with less hair she agreed to remove some around her clit just to try, after that she shaved it all off !!

I was trimmed but not shaved. My bf got up the next morning and shaved himself and said how much he liked being hairless. The next day I asked him if he wanted me to shave. He said he didn't care, either was fine. Then later he brought up how much more stimulating it would be for oral if I shaved. So I did! So far so good! I didn't really have an aversion to it from the beginning though.

Maybe the subtle hinting might be better if she is sensitive. Also, if she sees you shave she may want to try it or you can tell her it will make it better for her!

This is something I brought up with my partner and she wasn't open to the idea at all. However when she started to have a hard time keeping everything in her swimsuit, I suggested a little trim and even offered to do it for her which she let me do. It took a while before she started to trim it more and more. I always commented on how good it looked and was something I really liked. I also started to shave to see how it felt. I enjoyed the feeling and so kept shaving more and more. Finally took it all off for awhile. I think this helped reinforce her shaving. She doesn't like going totally bare which is unfortunate because I would love her to do that for when I give her oral sex. She didn't like the itching when she did try going bare. She wasn't willing to give it additional time to get used to the feeling down there. I found with myself that it took a while of being bare before I got used to the itching and prickly feeling when it starts to grow out. What she does shave is super sexy for me and she tries to keep it up. It does take additional care like shaving every 3 days. If she wants a longer term solution, then waxing seems to work but is a little painful to have done. I love being shaved myself and keep everything bare except for a little one inch patch just above my shaft. There are times that I take the patch off also and go totally bare. I am in a long term relationship so could take my time to get to this point. With a gf, you will need to speed things up. I suggest shaving yourself and then suggest that you will be touching up in three days and maybe she could try it then. Then have a quick comparison of who did the best shave job. Then just keep shaving more and more off to get to an amount that you both like. Maybe totally bare for her and you or just each with some small patchs. Could be alot of fun.

My guy just told me that he wanted me to shave, and I love him so I agreed to try it. It's made things better for me too :)

congratulations ageless gypsy on the change. What made it better for you? Did the smoothness help sensitivity or just doing something different make things more exciting. As a male I love shaving and leaving just a small patch of hair or going totally bare. I enjoy the smoothness of the skin and the sensitivity without the hair.

Smoothness, Much increased sensitivity, and my boyfriend goes down on me a lot more often ;)

i agree with ShadesRuda i would run if my boyfriend came at me with a towel and some scissors in the bedroom...

I would just say ask her... dont be to blunt but just say ur interested in a new look and feeling... because it does feel different in my opinion...

so did her ask her? lol