Two things:

T#1--It seems a trend these days particularly among young couples that once a guy looses his erection it is all over. WHY?

T#2--Assuming you have climaxed, wait out your refractory period of 10-30 minutes, then work on rebuilding the erection. You can take the direct approach or spend lots of time making out and (re)building your arousal level and if need be tweak the erection by hand and/or mouth. It is literally and figuratively and realistically that simple.

> No no, either I put it down wrong or you read wrong. I meant when she has FIRST orgawm I tend to lose it, I think it's because I wear a condom so I can't feel it nearly as much to keep the erection. But I won't change that, at least right now but anyways, it's before my first orgasm.

Thank you for the clarification.

This goes back to my first sentence, above. If you loose an erection, partially or fully, before climaxing, then rebuild it. The activities are not over just because a penis looses rigidity or goes limp.

There are dozens of posts on the site where people are wondering how to make a love making session or sex--last. The answer is in part to do what is required and if this means keeping the fires burning with lots and lots of making out (not foreplay) after each climax, then go for it.

I agree that a condom can dampen the intensity of the sensations capable, yet if you wait to begin intercourse until you are right on the brink of an orgasm condom or not, you and other guys stand a much better chance of remaining erect. All too often guys nowadays have the mistaken belief that the way to a climax is from lots and lots of stroking. Wrong. It is better and wiser to get to this stage by making out then foreplay, first.

If your erection is waning then pause and get it back with hand and/or oral stimulation. Try by hand, first, with the condom on, and if that fails, remove it, rebuild it, then put a new condom on and begin intercourse. Just make sure you are at the brink.

I hope this is of help.