well first u cant just dive right in and say u want sex, u need to find out if shes actually interested in u as more than a friend, ask her out, take her to the cinema or woteva, then once u find that out then u can talk to her bout how u both feel bout havin sex. straight up askin bout sex before a first date could possibly get u slap or a kick in the nuts so id advise against it, take her out first then see how it goes.

DONT EVER TALK ABOUT SEX IN THE FIRST TEN DATES

my first date: idiot me started rambling about sex on the phone with gf (we met online from 2 different countries, before we met up a few weeks later), my relationship ended in 3 weeks.

second date: I asked a girl for sex on sixth (or seventh, cant remember) date. Got rejected, then dumped a few days later.

third date: didnt ask. Guess wat? she asked me for it instead after 2 months :P

patience pays off.

Just wait for now...there is no "time" frame. Ask her out on a few dates, see what happens. Kiss her, hold hands, do the romantic stuff. If it's geting hot and heavy then lightly discuss it w/her. If she is passionately kissing you, press against her and see her reaction; if she is open to you then bring the matter up for the first time in a casual way. See her response. IF she expresses interest then you need to sit and have a serious discussion about it, including BC. You need to wait until you are at that point in the relationship, you cannot just say...this is what I want. She will give indicators too...BUT don't rush and don't leave it up to her to ask b/c if you are not picking up on her clues she may think YOU are not interested. It's a mutual decision and two adults discuss the subject prior...especially when condoms and BCP are required. You need to have "the talk" before you get there...my point is; wait to bring up the subject based on her response to you, then so you don't feel foolish just say something cute or jokingly, and then have "the talk". During a hot, steamy, passionate moment just say something like; "I want you so bad" and see what she has to say. No woman could blame you for that...if she responds positively then wait and talk about it. If she has a negative response then back it down. Also, you don't "ask" for sex it's a mutual decision, if a man just asked me I would think that's all he cared about. Also, carrying on about sex on the phone, not knowing someone well, will get you dumped (unless that was the only purpose of your discussion and you met on I want U. com).

[QUOTE=aussiedude;163621]DONT EVER TALK ABOUT SEX IN THE FIRST TEN DATES

my first date: idiot me started rambling about sex on the phone with gf (we met online from 2 different countries, before we met up a few weeks later), my relationship ended in 3 weeks.

second date: I asked a girl for sex on sixth (or seventh, cant remember) date. Got rejected, then dumped a few days later.

third date: didnt ask. Guess wat? she asked me for it instead after 2 months :P

patience pays off.[/QUOTE]

well me nd my gf (of 8 months) met online, talkeda few times, then swapped numbers, on the first night we were txtn eachother, durin this txt convo the subject of sex came up, we then met up a few days later and have been lovin eachother since, so talkin bout it really has no specific time thats best or anythin, but it all depends on how u do it and y, cos we werent talkin bout sex like sayin we want to have sex like right now lol.

When you see her in class go up and start a conversation w/her, you said you are friends. Ask her on a date...if you have not gotten that far yet put sex w/her out of your mind!!! Ask her to go to dinner, out for a drink, to a movie, etc.

girls give small hints that they want us to pick up on. so keep that in mind

ok first off you said when you talk to her on msn she really doesnt talk so much, she could just be shy. if you want to know if she likes you the easiest way of knowing would be to ask her out. as for the whole bringing up sex thing. wait till you know her and your both comfortable with eachother. i just met my bf this summer [ its a long distance thing i met him when i was at my grandmas house ] and the night i was leaving he asked me online if he could finger me the next time he saw me. and i like freaked out. i just wasnt ready for a questin like that. but i got comfortable with him and we've been together for 6 months now and have done alot of stuff together. so just ask her out see if she likes you then get to know eachother and get comfortable with eachother then just bring up the topic of sex.

Ask her out. Chat with her. Tell her she's very cute! Smile and be friendly without turning yourself into a lapdog. Get her telephone numbers and give her a decent kiss goodbye if she seems willing. Wait two days then give her a call and ask her out to a specific event with a specific date/time. If she says yes - you have a chance. If she says no, then move on.

You cannot initiate sex talk until AFTER she has physically touched you, that first kiss aside. If she wants you, she will let you know.

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Originally Posted by aussiedude
DONT EVER TALK ABOUT SEX IN THE FIRST TEN DATES

my first date: idiot me started rambling about sex on the phone with gf (we met online from 2 different countries, before we met up a few weeks later), my relationship ended in 3 weeks.

second date: I asked a girl for sex on sixth (or seventh, cant remember) date. Got rejected, then dumped a few days later.

third date: didnt ask. Guess wat? she asked me for it instead after 2 months :P

patience pays off.

well me nd my gf (of 8 months) met online, talkeda few times, then swapped numbers, on the first night we were txtn eachother, durin this txt convo the subject of sex came up, we then met up a few days later and have been lovin eachother since, so talkin bout it really has no specific time thats best or anythin, but it all depends on how u do it and y, cos we werent talkin bout sex like sayin we want to have sex like right now lol.[/QUOTE]

LOL! good for you.

you have to start dating, chatting, going out and spending time together before she would event think about having sex with you. True, maybe she's shy, but if you are sweet enough (and with luck, if she thinks ur a right guy) then she'll eventually drop you some little hints (eg. her: i love to kiss my little cousin! you: haha. does he enjoy it? her: would you enjoy it?). BANG. Theres your date (unless you dont it -_-")

After readng your post again...i think you dont even kno this girl well enough. 'She seems single' ...man if you really want her you should know the answer to that by now!! do you have any friends in common?

Whereas if he isn't discussing sex during the first meeting and showing me what he knows by the second - he's dropped from my list. But then, I'm out for fun and my ice-cold chrome-plated steel heart remains mine alone.

your jumpin the gun a bit ?

Not really, Newtolove - remember my goal when meeting men.

actually I was referring to the original poster I am well aware of your attitude and thats your choice and not my problem

I say take your time and wate for her to alsk

try and start a friendship and see where it leads, don't even have sex on the mind at the moment you will only act in a way that will let her know thats all you are after, make afriend of her and then try going further

Regards the originaly poster.

Anything Sexual is intimate, whether the lady whishes it immediately or after a certain time perod (sound.like.robot. =D). Intimacy is something best left for when you are comfortable with each other.

Your best bet no matter what your age is, is to forget about sex, learn the person first. I met my girlfriend online (people called me idiot for that), and so we learned about each others personalities first over phonecalls and MSN. Then we saw each other.

Obviously it may be harder for you as you have seen your woman of desire.

Just treat her as a friend, or as me an my missus like to say a 'friend with benefits'. You dont even have to jump straight into dating a Hello and a smile works wonders. Obviously once you get to know the lady, she'll start telling you things. If she turns out to be quite the strumpet(no offense to anyone) then it will be all the easier for you, just dont push things take life one step at a time, you never know you may be with her for a long time. ;)