When we and my girl are hookin up and decide to have sex, how do I go about taking the condom out? Should I just take it out and put it on right infront of her? How do I go abouts doing this?
Wed, 03/01/2006 - 14:56
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How to put condom on ... when?
Take it out and put it on. Or ask her to put it on you. At least she will know you are taking some precautions. You are even safer if she uses spermicide in addition to the condom.
yeah i would suggest that you put it on in front of her it might be a little awkward for the two of you but best to be safe than sorry...
probably too much information, but i had a boyfriend who wanted to have an unprotected sex everytime we were at it. i always insisted that he'd put on a condom in front of me until this one time i let my guard down...would you believe the b*****d he went in without...i broke up with him because i simply stopped trusting him after that.
Ya, I was planning on using a condem, I just didn't know how to go about putting it on. Should I just stop during our hookup and be like "hold on a sec, let me put a condem on"..or what?
spermacide?
[QUOTE=badguy1999]spermacide?[/QUOTE]
Is there a question here? If so, what is it?
[QUOTE=bmrbob]Ya, I was planning on using a condem, I just didn't know how to go about putting it on. Should I just stop during our hookup and be like "hold on a sec, let me put a condem on"..or what?[/QUOTE]
The long and the short of it is "YES".
You can pause the proceedings and roll it on, or, you can ask her to do the deed, then once on, continue.
Doning a condom or inserting a diaphragm, etc. can interrupt flow of things--or does it? If the caresses are continued while preparing the device then it just slows things down a bit. You can also unwrap the condom before things get underway and have it handy for when the time comes to put it on.
If you lubricate the Glans before putting the condom on as I recommend so it has some wiggle room, then she can do this and make a big production out of applying it. Hint...hint. If she also rolls it on, think of the possibilities.
spermecide what is it? how is it used
Spermicide basically kills sperm while they're swimming around inside of the vagina. It can be applied in many different forms, the most popular of which is inside the lubrication of condoms (condoms with spermicide will tell you that they contain spermicide). There are also gels, films and other methods of inserting spermicide directly into the vagina, rather than inside the condom. You'll find more than enough information on this site.
Think of it as hedging your bet. If the condom breaks (a fairly rare occurrence), then the spermicide is a secondary form of insurance.
I am happy that you are taking the time to educate yourself in the interest of protecting yourself. If you do not know what a spermicide is, you should not be planning on having intercourse--or, be doing it until you acquire a lot more knowledge about contraception in general.
I am surprised that you have not done one of the following:
* Search a dictionary for a definition of the word
* Done a search of the internet using Google or another search engine
* Search this forum for information on spermicides
A spermicide is a chemical agent that kills sperm. It can be found in certain contraceptives or used in conjunction with barrier type contraceptives like a condom and diaphragm as examples.
One of the more popular brands is "Nonoxynol 9". It resembles toothpaste and comes in a similar type tube.
Adam, that is a limited view. Most "condom failures" are actuallu leakage around the open end. That is why the insert with condoms tells you to remove your penis from the vagina as soon as ejaculation occurs. The spermicide in the vagina is additional primary protection, not just backup.
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2]I am happy that you are taking the time to educate yourself in the interest of protecting yourself. If you do not know what a spermicide is, you should not be planning on having intercourse--or, be doing it until you acquire a lot more knowledge about contraception in general.
I am surprised that you have not done one of the following:
* Search a dictionary for a definition of the word
* Done a search of the internet using Google or another search engine
* Search this forum for information on spermicides
A spermicide is a chemical agent that kills sperm. It can be found in certain contraceptives or used in conjunction with barrier type contraceptives like a condom and diaphragm as examples.
One of the more popular brands is "Nonoxynol 9". It resembles toothpaste and comes in a similar type tube.[/QUOTE]
I'm surprised you didn't suggest checking out the main website. It gives a good analysis on spermacides... and everything else you would need to know.
The greatest thing about condoms is that if your with the right person, she canput them on for you!!! I put my guy's on most of the time.. but when we first started 'hooking up' he put them on all the time. I usually had to remind him.. or maybe he was just wiating for me to grab it to let him know what I wanted... either way.. I always ended up grabbing it off my night stand and giving it to him... he'd get on his knees infront of me and put it on, and we'd get righ tback to what we were doing...
Sometimes it ruins the 'mood' a bit.. but, hey, its not THAT hard to make a guy hard again!! especially if he knows he's about to get laid!
shadowy
she's right there... if you know you're about to get laid, or any other "loving", you wont stay soft long...if you are at all.