hi all
i have a long distance relationship with my bf, and we always talk over the phone. we had phone sex before, but lately we havent got into it anymore, he said he's tired and he don't want to do it, but i know he jack off to himself, so why he won't do it with me? how do i initiate? how do i get him into the mood? i'm still a virgin, so i don't have any experience, and it feels good when we have phone sex. but usually he's the one saying this and that, and i just moan for him, so now what i want to know is how do i make him want to do it? what should i say to get him in the mood? what do guys want to hear? what can i do to keep us intimate while on a long distance relationship?
there is the "phone sex" topic on the main website on sexinfo101, but its the wrong link, everytime i click on it, it takes me to public sex.
any feedbacks are appreciated, thanks a lot
I wrote a post on this not too long ago. Check it out:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/135953-post7.html
When my girlfriend initiated, she started talking about how much she was looking forward to us getting together again and about things she wanted me to do to her. This got me horny pretty easily, especially because her voice was becoming rather sensual because she was getting horny as well. I would get into this and agree with her and such. This provides a natural entrypoint where you can start making some 'horny noises' and tell him you need to touch yourself, and ask him how/where you should do it, and most importantly ask him for 'permission' to use toys on yourself while you're on the phone.
Basically, you can use your femininity and "feminine wiles" to turn your man on. It's really a woman's femininity and how she uses it to make her man feel masculine that drives us up the wall and makes us go gaga and lose our control/composure to sexual need. (Lol, I can't believe I'm telling a woman to exploit her femininity for power over men when that is what we men fear most, heh.)
thank you moose for the link, but hmmm what i want to know is if he doesn't seem so interested in phone sex, how do i initiate? how do i start? he used to initiate everytime, asking what i'm wearing and such... but now he doesn't do any of that... so i cant wait for him to start... please help, what do guys want to hear over the phone? thanks a lot
I've also got a long distance relationship, and that's pretty close to how we start things out, Moose. When we met over a week long vacation and hooked up, neither of us had had sex before, so we've been approaching the whole subject as a learning experience. Talking about what felt good and what we'd like to try next gets him (well, me too... haha.) all excited and I tell him that I wish I could do something for him. :rolleyes: and usually it spirals from there.
We're pretty new at this, and he's been doing most of the talking, but reading Moosey's post that he linked has given me a few ideas. He loves it when I get submissive, so asking him to do things to myself would be pretty hot.
Cheesecake, maybe the problem with your boyfriend is not with the phone sex... have you talked to him about this? How often do you get to visit him? Maybe the distance is getting difficult for him? Also, I'd try to steer clear of overused phrases like "What are you wearing?". Get creative and try new and sexy things to get your hotty stimulated. ^.^
~Sarah
I don't know that I can help you all that much with initiating anything, you could try just telling him how horny you are and see what his response is. But when my Fiancée and I have phone sex, we like to tell each other our fantasies (what we imagine each other doing while we jerk off by ourselves, graphically describing sexual scenarios, etc.) Good luck!