[QUOTE=Brandye;187191]There are as many threads on this as on any one topic. Read.[/QUOTE]
Hehe. I can see how the amount of repetition on this site. Would be annoy especially to someone trying to help.
Here's some general info links, lookingtopleasemymanright
Excuse me? "I like it but how do I make it fun and hot" If it is NOT fun and hot now - then why do you like it?? Why are you doing things that AREN'T fun and hot to you? Because that's called "paid employment".
[QUOTE=lookingtopleasemymanright;187167]i want to know how to prepare and be ready for anal i like it dont get me wrong i just want some advice to make it fun and hot[/QUOTE]
Have you done it before? If not:
Here is a short tutorial I typed up a while back. It's how *I* learned..
The key to this is to take your time and go slow. You learn how to control your butt and schincter muscles. You learn how to RELAX THEM and you get used to the feeling of it all.
Anal play for beginners
Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT play one on TV. This is the way *I* learned how to discover anal play. As usual care needs to be practiced. GO VERY SLOWLY.
First start off with a TRIMMED index finger. You may even want to put on a latex glove first to help make it even smoother. Use KY or the drug store brand of KY and lube the finger well. Place it VERY GENTLY near the anus and lightly circle the hole with the finger. DON'T INSERT YET. Just circle it for a few minutes. After a few minutes without insert, just put the finger over the anus and gently press a bit without entering. Just apply a bit of pressure.
Do this over and over a few times and after a few minutes SLOWLY begin to insert JUST THE FINGER *TIP* in about a quarter of an inch then take it out. Do this a few times then go a LITTLE further in. Repeat this until you have you whole finger in. DO NOT FORCE IT, IF HE OR SHE OR YOU SAYS STOP, STOP!
Within a week or so of trying this the person should be fairly used to the finger and inserting and pumping it in and out should become easy. Also try moving the finger around while inserted, back & forth,etc. Orgasms ARE VERY VERY INTENSE when you leave your finger or butt plug or dildo in.
Soon you will want to try something slightly bigger than your finger. Try your middle finger or graduate to a SMALL butt plug. Same rules apply to the new toy as did with the finger. Start off using the finger as usual then after getting loose begin with the plug.
Plugs have flared bottoms to prevent them from going all the way in. If you graduate to dildos later get ones with a flared base or ones that have the balls at the bottom. This prevents them from slipping all the way in. You don't need a trip to the ER to retrieve it, that would SUCK!
After a while you will become very used to anal play and you won't need much time to prep for your session. You'll loosen up very quickly after you learn how to relax your anal muscles. It takes me less than 5 minutes to go from start to riding a 8 inch silicon dildo like a bucking bronco!
GITTYUP LITTLE DOGGIE!
The key to learning anal play/sex is to TAKE YOUR TIME.
I would agree with TommyHot here - the key to anal is to take ur time! Anal is something that cannot be rushed because if it is then it's not going to work out cause everything will tighten up.
Lube is key. The anus is non-lubricated therefore it will hurt like a PAIN IN THE BUTT to put it mildy to have something shoved up there with no lube to help it along the way.
If you're first starting off - i would start with fingering and then gradually work up to butt plugs and dildos. Judging by your name I'm assuming you want to do this to your man but if you ever want to venture into the actual anal sex this can venture into all different alleys. From experience, use a condom (To protect from pregnancy and for extra lube) and use lube and keep reapplying. I like to use Durex Play. The mint stuff feels really good but burns alot during anal so if you use a cooling lubricant make sure you level it out with warming lubricant or else it will hurt!
Read through some of the threads on the site. Try a nice bath together...
There are as many threads on this as on any one topic. Read.
[QUOTE=Brandye;187191]There are as many threads on this as on any one topic. Read.[/QUOTE]
Hehe. I can see how the amount of repetition on this site. Would be annoy especially to someone trying to help.
Here's some general info links, lookingtopleasemymanright
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_him/11220-anal_101.html
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_him/21237-does_anal_hurt.html
Excuse me? "I like it but how do I make it fun and hot" If it is NOT fun and hot now - then why do you like it?? Why are you doing things that AREN'T fun and hot to you? Because that's called "paid employment".
[QUOTE=lookingtopleasemymanright;187167]i want to know how to prepare and be ready for anal i like it dont get me wrong i just want some advice to make it fun and hot[/QUOTE]
Have you done it before? If not:
Here is a short tutorial I typed up a while back. It's how *I* learned..
The key to this is to take your time and go slow. You learn how to control your butt and schincter muscles. You learn how to RELAX THEM and you get used to the feeling of it all.
Anal play for beginners
Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT play one on TV. This is the way *I* learned how to discover anal play. As usual care needs to be practiced. GO VERY SLOWLY.
First start off with a TRIMMED index finger. You may even want to put on a latex glove first to help make it even smoother. Use KY or the drug store brand of KY and lube the finger well. Place it VERY GENTLY near the anus and lightly circle the hole with the finger. DON'T INSERT YET. Just circle it for a few minutes. After a few minutes without insert, just put the finger over the anus and gently press a bit without entering. Just apply a bit of pressure.
Do this over and over a few times and after a few minutes SLOWLY begin to insert JUST THE FINGER *TIP* in about a quarter of an inch then take it out. Do this a few times then go a LITTLE further in. Repeat this until you have you whole finger in. DO NOT FORCE IT, IF HE OR SHE OR YOU SAYS STOP, STOP!
Within a week or so of trying this the person should be fairly used to the finger and inserting and pumping it in and out should become easy. Also try moving the finger around while inserted, back & forth,etc. Orgasms ARE VERY VERY INTENSE when you leave your finger or butt plug or dildo in.
Soon you will want to try something slightly bigger than your finger. Try your middle finger or graduate to a SMALL butt plug. Same rules apply to the new toy as did with the finger. Start off using the finger as usual then after getting loose begin with the plug.
Plugs have flared bottoms to prevent them from going all the way in. If you graduate to dildos later get ones with a flared base or ones that have the balls at the bottom. This prevents them from slipping all the way in. You don't need a trip to the ER to retrieve it, that would SUCK!
After a while you will become very used to anal play and you won't need much time to prep for your session. You'll loosen up very quickly after you learn how to relax your anal muscles. It takes me less than 5 minutes to go from start to riding a 8 inch silicon dildo like a bucking bronco!
GITTYUP LITTLE DOGGIE!
The key to learning anal play/sex is to TAKE YOUR TIME.
I would agree with TommyHot here - the key to anal is to take ur time! Anal is something that cannot be rushed because if it is then it's not going to work out cause everything will tighten up.
Lube is key. The anus is non-lubricated therefore it will hurt like a PAIN IN THE BUTT to put it mildy to have something shoved up there with no lube to help it along the way.
If you're first starting off - i would start with fingering and then gradually work up to butt plugs and dildos. Judging by your name I'm assuming you want to do this to your man but if you ever want to venture into the actual anal sex this can venture into all different alleys. From experience, use a condom (To protect from pregnancy and for extra lube) and use lube and keep reapplying. I like to use Durex Play. The mint stuff feels really good but burns alot during anal so if you use a cooling lubricant make sure you level it out with warming lubricant or else it will hurt!
Hope this helped! :P
~Wendy~
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This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal play.