Hi
I need some help here. I have just started seeing an older man (I’m 26 and he is older than my father :) ). It will probably only be a matter of days before we get physical (he is just sooo hot), and now I want to know if anyone has any tips for me – how can I please someone much more experienced than me? And don`t tell me to ask him what he enjoys - I`ll do that later on...
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Wagie - for example: if he does oral on you, chances are that he would like it if you did oral on him. Yes? No? Maybe?
It's all excellent advice. And my guess is if he is interested in younger gals, he is (perhaps) looking to venture outside the routine or mundane. Furthermore, you will know. He is likely to tell you he wants to do this or that or you to do somethiing to him....go with the flow and enjoy.
OK well I've got you beat... :D Because I'm 22 and I'm dating a 42 yr old. You go Girl....
Experience...well I wasn't actually experienced when we were together...I guess I was just a natural. All men have different sexual preferences. From what I've learned...its a slow process as you fornicate. Talk to one another as you are doing something...and if he doesn't like it, then you know not to do...and vice-versa.
Its really hard to say ya know...because what my guy likes your guy may or may not... :D Communication...is the best way, so you can express your emotions. Hope this helps!
> I need some help here...I want to know if anyone has any tips for me – how can I please someone much more experienced than me?
Welcome to the Board. I regularly offer the following counsel as this question is raised frequently: Experience equates to knowledge and not skill. Everytime a new partnership is formed, there is a new "Square One" from which to begin. Each of us have likes, dislikes, preferences, quirks, expectations, and conditioning that must be met and managed, separately or together. A relationship must be a partnership and a team effort in which both parties participate willingly. The same goes for the sexual aspect of the relationship, also.
It doesn't necessarily matter what a person's previous experiences have been because a new dynamic is formed when a new partnership is formed; therefore, the couple will explore, learn, and discover together.
There is another important aspect of compatibility that while not necessarily related to age is none the less important--male pattern resistance. Guys of any age are often creatures of habit and resistant to change. Couple this with the fact that behaviors learned at an early age may just keep a guy from being open and accepting of new ideas. Check how open minded he is. Sometimes older guys have old preconceived ideas and are resistant to accepting new ones. What I am cautioning you about is that your "ol' dog may or may not want to learn some new "tricks". Hopefully not, yet this is something to be aware of.
So, the answer to your question is, explore, learn, and discover, together.
All the best!
Thanks to both of you
As you both expressed it – communication is vital, and this fundamental truth is not new to me. But the man in question reads me like an open book (I really don’t have to say anything about what I want since he seems to know instinctively), meanwhile he is more of a tabula rasa to me. I am guessing that his knowledge of my body in reality stems from his experience with other women, and thus I would like to argue that most women have certain preferences in common. What are these preferences in the male domain? I really want to know, because I want to make him feel just as good as he makes me feel - i.o.w. I just want to make him beg for more ;)
Green Eyes,
Piece of personal experience as I am growing older, still enjoying good and healthy sex. No idea how old your Romeo is, but I am 45 and sexually active since my late teens, for background.
Main difference between when I was younger and today is that I now enjoy taking my time : looking, feeling, touching, smelling, kissing, etc. Earlier, I may have been more "impatient", more eager for the "bang" - not that I wasn't attentive to my partner's desires, but more in the range that it was all more about "performance" than exchange... Today, good sex to me is where we take the time to please each other; it's not that climax itslef is "secondary" but certainly both the rise in pleasure and the post downtime in each other's arms are equally essential parts of the well-being.
Then again, repeating what so many have said before, likes and dislikes are really too personal to generalise... Just relax and enjoy love with Romeo!
Nicely put.
I agree with the dance master: nicely put. You have all helped to ease my mind – thanks.
You can best please him by being open and honest with him in your desires and reciprocating during sex. IF he does A with you, return the favor by doing A to him - usually men do what they themselves wouldn't mind receiving.
Hmmmmmm... Not quite sure about this last one, EvilKitten. Or maybe generalisation is not necessarily useful in this case ...
Interesting thread this is as I too get quite a few emails from young chicks wanting to have fun. My friends just can't believe my luck and feel envy that I go out and some of them are like real models. The girls contacting me are in the range between 20 and 28 being the average of 24.
At first I though to myself WTF! But now I realise I do take my time and I am not in a hurry to dip my stick I more enjoy a girl getting aroused to spasmodic level for the things I do sometimes I get a bj and that takes care of my refractory period:)
But I still wonder Why girls find attractive older men I have never had a chance to discuss this in depth?