I am a bit overweight, so I am self concious a bout being on top. My partner is also more experienced than me and it seems like it takes him forever to cum. Does anyone have any advice on how I could please him better?
Fri, 01/18/2008 - 17:53
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How to please him better?
Excess weight is a great limiter on sex. It precludes some positions, physically, and limits mobility for bouncing around the bed.
As for his taking a long time, you do not give enough information. Some men are slowest in male superior; some slowest. The same can be said for almost any position. If, on your back, you can his legs spread and yours together, you will have the narrowest part of your vagina gripping the widest and most sensitive part of his penis. This may help.
If it is only self-sonciousness about your weight keeping you from being on top, you can be certain he has seen you and there will be no surprises. If he accepts your weight lying on your back, he should certainly accept your weight on top. You have got it, use it. I would suggest a slimming down for better sex and a thousand other reasons.
We, in the western world, are moving from tobacco being the health crisis to weight being the health crisis.
If you are uncomfortable with your weight, try wearing something that covers your midsection but still allows you to expose your breasts. He'll be too busy staring upward to notice anything else. I don't want to appear shallow, for all I know he may not even care about your weight. Personally, I prefer larger woman.
As for his duration, he might like taking longer to orgasm, it'll give him more time to make sure he satisfies you.
If your weight upsets you - do something about it. You know what that requires. So take care of it.
As for the rest, what most pleases men is your PARTICIPATION. Be there with him enjoying and reciprocating in the fun of sex. Get into it and nevermind your weight, his weight, if the ceiling's painted beige, whatever! Focus and enjoy!
Maybe you talk about it with him first, if he has a certain reason why it takes a while before he can come. When you have the reason maybe you can both do something about it.
the best thing you can do is be confident and enjoy the experience as much as possible! enthusiasm is always a plus. the more fun you're having, the more fun he's sure to have as well. and the others are right, if he's been with you before, he knows exactly what you look like and accepts every veluptuous(sp?) bit of you exactly the way you are.
i have the same problem my man says im not fat and he has no problem with my weight. me on the other hand see it and feel bad, i actually like being on top but i wont get into it cause i feel like im all over the place nd my man is skinny, i feel like imma hurt him
Please realise that men do NOT see your body the same way you do. You may think you have a fat that or an ugly this but to him YOUR FIGURE IS DELIGHTFUL! Think of it this way - he knows he is not perfect so he doesn't expect you to be perfect.
If you forgive him his 'figure flaws', he will forgive you yours.
We're real people here, not "Barbie & Ken". Climb up there and go for a ride!
eek's Right. It's not what you have, it's how you use it. Some of the sexiest girls I know are a bit overweight and others with great bodies but were clueless about how to be sexy. So you really can't judge by looks alone.
[QUOTE=pbklutz14;206060] My partner is also more experienced than me and it seems like it takes him forever to cum. Does anyone have any advice on how I could please him better?[/QUOTE]
Hi!
Yes. Please begin by reading the articles listed in the Index.
There are many informative and helpful how-to articles that have been written about how to please and pleasure each other. I suggest you do not pick and choose but read each. Knowledge is empowering for both of you.
When you state that your partner is more experienced, please read this:
Chapter Five (also has its own separate link):
HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:
When you state that it seems to take your partner forever to cum, do you mean during intercourse? A hand job? Oral? Both by hand and oral?
Knowing will help us provide a more insightful solution.
If by intercourse:
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping
Please read the opening paragraph and see if this is the problem.
If by foreplay:
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
I hope this will be of help. Please feel free to ask questions once you've done your homework.
-doc