You pose an interesting question, Johnny, and there are undoubtedly different answers because of the different scenarios involved.

When a fella masturbates he has the option to choose when in the process to end it all. He can go for the proverbial Quickie and have relief within a matter of a two-three minutes, or, he can choose to prolong his pleasure and enjoy the stimulation for a much longer span of time. How long depends upon whether or not there is a chance of discovery and/or how close to the peak of his curve he tries to get and maintain without loosing control.

As good as masturbation feels, having sex with someone else with whom he has an emotional connection is generally going to be fantastic. Why? Because each of us becomes much more highly aroused when in the company of a lover--the pheromones and the "chemistry" between them ups the ante', so to speak. This is especially true if sex play ends with Foreplay {h/j &/or b/j).

Add intercourse into the mix and stimulation, arousal, and the ability to climax all take on a different character. Vaginal stimulation is different than receiving oral or a hand job because the friction received from rubbing against the vaginal walls is usually much less than what we receive from a tighter embrace of the hand or lips. The vagina expands when a woman is highly aroused so it will not grip the penis nearly as tightly or as constantly. What does, is the entrance.

The bane of nearly every teenager and young adult up thru his mid twenties is Premature Ejaculation. This is generally defined as experiencing a climax within the first minute--upon entering, the first return stroke, or during the first few strokes. This occurs because we become turned on to a much higher degree when in our lover's presence than when home alone doing things ourselves. Preventing or delaying the inevitable climax is difficult to accomplish without some training.

Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controlling Premature Ejaculation

With vaginal intercourse, even if the walls of the vagina provide constant contact with the shaft, it will be a lighter touch. This is not bad because the light touch is countered by being much more highly aroused. Combine this with lots of Foreplay and a guy will be hard pressed to control his climax. Inexperience with this new and higher level of arousal is the general cause of PE. Learning how to control his senses takes practice. The link, above, gives details.

Additional control can be had by masturbating an hour or so before making love. Additional control can also be had by not waiting so long to enter her vagina. In other words, forgo the desire to continue the stimulation that builds your arousal and maximizes your pleasure and instead, begin intercourse at a lower level. This will permit you to stroke longer and enjoy the aspect of intercourse without fear of ending so quickly.

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Wearing a condom will also slow a guy down because the membrane of the condom insulates him thus minimizing the amount of friction he receives. So, with all this said, you have five ways in which to control PE should it be a problem for you or other guys reading this thread.

Bottom Line: How long is too long to prolong intercourse? Most women report that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes they become sore, bored, and tired. Guys, you do not want this to happen. If the two of you desire to prolong lovemaking, then do. An ideal approach to extending a love making session is to return to Necking and Petting during the refractory period (between 10 and 30 minutes) that it takes a guy to recover from an ejaculation and then go on to engage in intercourse, again, and, again.

There is no one answer for how long a virgin male or one with limited experience and exposure will last. It all depends upon whether he is wearing a condom, how aroused he has become during the make out session, the sexual position used and thus the angle of penetration and how much friction is provided by the walls of the vagina. It also depends upon whether he masturbated recently, whether more than once that day, and to some extent how many time during the past couple of days. The more climaxes a guy has had during the previous 24-48 hours, the less sensitivity he has and thus the more difficulty he will experience in reaching his trigger point.

first time i was around 15-20 mins or so. then there-after i stopped caring how long i lasted and just enjoyed it... depending on the person ive had as little as say a few minutes (depending last time on ejaculate and how good the person is) and up to and including hour n half sessions. it will range... it all depends on your arousal levels, etc etc at the time, the feeling aka if its something youve never felt before n its amazing. well it will be longer than if its just the same old stuff as u kind of become accustomed to it.

i wouldn't worry about it 2 much.. just enjoy it.

When i lost my virginity, i didnt ejaculate. I think i was too nervous lol!

But these days, masturbation is FAR, FAR quicker then sex. You know exactly what you want when your just with yourself, obviously, and so it will always be quicker then with a partner who may not be exactly on to what you like.

[QUOTE=AussieBloke;228724]When i lost my virginity, i didnt ejaculate. I think i was too nervous lol!

But these days, masturbation is FAR, FAR quicker then sex. You know exactly what you want when your just with yourself, obviously, and so it will always be quicker then with a partner who may not be exactly on to what you like.[/QUOTE]

ah yes.. but if they know what u r doing and can find ur spots.... then ur arousal level can get much higher and thus can be quicker tham nasterbating :P

its a very open topic.. a lot of things come into factor and it just depends on the session... no 1 session will be the same

There are men who habitually come much faster in the vagina than in the mouth, for instance. And the reverse is also true. Add handjobs and there are many variations and each man varies from time to time. There is no nomograph you can consult to determine how you will perform. Each person is different and each time is different.

for me the girl tried to jerk me off but she just couldnt idk i guess that im just used to doing that myself it was different, But i did jack off and then had the first time sex about 2hours later and the sex lasted about 10 minutes I thought it was much better with her on top, but i didnt cum at all, but if she had given me about 5 more minutes im sure i would have I was just getting the hang of it lol, But Idk i guess it just depends because for me the vagina feels alot different than I expected it was much more constricting and tighter than I thought it would be but maybe that was just her lol maybe that helps but I dont know

Time of day, enviroment and other factors determine the outcome........

[QUOTE=johnnymac57;228698]Thanks I will be sure to jerk it about an hour before my first time, just to be safe![/QUOTE]

I wouldn't do that.. Don't worry about your first time too much, it isn't going to be perfect no matter how much you prepare for it. Just go with the flow, try to relax above all else, and see how it goes. You might cum really quickly, or maybe not at all. With practice it improves a lot, and any girl will understand if it is your first time as long as you please her as well.

For my first time, I lost my erection due to nerves and it didn't really work at all, after fooling around and being hard all night (which probably contributed to me losing it). On the second time all went smoothly and I lasted a good 5-10 minutes.

Sorry, I don't go in for virgins.

You asked, however, for our experiences with virgins. I was simply stating that I have never been with one so I cannot answer your question. Since I also do not go with virgins, it not being in my interests to do so, it is unlikely that I will ever be able to answer your question.

I am a dominatrix - all power is in my hands anyway.

Please stop thinking of virginity as a 'gift'. Ignorance is not a virtue and the value of a person does not lie between their legs but rather resides in their mind, their heart, and in the quality of their character. If anything, virginity is a social handicap.

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Good lord, man! There's nothing to fear!
Sex really is the best thing on earth & God's gift to man & womankind!

Johnnymac:

Trust me when I say, if your attitude is; "it will not happen", women sense this a million miles away & will avoid putting them in a position of going out w/you.

Learn to go out and have fun first, develop a good outward personality socially among women & men. Then find a woman who is willing to bed you! However, you need social skills not to be the "shrinking violet" in the corner of gatherings.

Fear sex? HUH? Why? Think about it; what is there to be afraid of? Women do not laugh at men, no one expects immediate "wonder" sex the first time with a partner, if it happens [awesome & non-cumbersome sex the first time] we are happy [rather], relieved the awkwardness is over, and the fun really begins. The first time w/any person is hit or miss & many expect to learn about the other.

After that; all you have to do is learn her signals & know your body...the only fear here is the fear of the unknown to you. There are not women sitting out there seeking the quiet guy who is antisocial & a virgin to teach them to have overall fun much less trying to have sex with them.

If social skills are an issue try practicing talking to women in a grocery store...shoppers, the clerks, anyone. Teach yourself to be a good conversationalist. This does not mean go out and hit on these people in stores, it's learning to more extroverted.

No one is going to come around and save you from your life; you have to learn to save yourself and develop a life. Who do I talk to when out? Everyone within reach...one exception is the guy who is a wallflower and does not look around.

I know its discouraging but your attitude really doesnt help you at all. I had a football coach that had a great quote about success he said "nothing is going to happen until you want it to happen." I have always thought about that qoute because I think it really makes sense. You definately need to change your attitude I used to be like that about a year ago but I changed my attitude and it finally happened. Right now your attitude isnt shows that you dont want it to happen in my oppinion. This problem seems to be totally mental for you.