Im going to be sleeping w/ a guy here soon that i have never been with. He's said before that he likes my body, but he's never seen under my clothes. In my opinion, i dont think my naked body really looks that nice. Im mediun sized, i look like im a pretty thick girl w/ nice body on the outside, but a lot is just shaped fat, so when you actually see my stomach, its not all flat, its not rolls either though. I have large breasts, but i dont think they look very nice either. Im worried about his judgement on me. Im worried that once he sees my body without clothes he wont htink the same about me. I know i know, guys should like you for their personality and all, and he does like mine, but physical attraction is important too. I was just wondering, how much do guys really pay attention to a girls naked body during sex?
Mon, 12/15/2003 - 02:42
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How much do guys really judge a girl?
[QUOTE=Quote ]but a lot is just shaped fat[/QUOTE]
What's wrong with that?
[QUOTE=Quote ] so when you actually see my stomach, its not all flat, its not rolls either though.[/QUOTE]
Again, as long as its not rolls or anything a nice soft stomach can be a turn-on (at least for me). I wouldn't worry too much, women tent to be a lot more critical of their own bodies then men...
The description of your body sounds exactly like my girlfriend minus the big boobs. Dont worry about it normally if a guy likes your body shape with clothes on he will like it even more with them off.
The book analogy works rather well. A flashy cover may catch your eye, but it doesn't help if it's hiding the most horrid book ever written. But if the story inside is excellent, no one cares what the cover looks like.
However, it is very difficult to avoid judging by appearance, particularly when first meeting someone. Remember, we are all our own worst critic.
hay, i have that kinda body too, lol everyone thinks we are "medium"/slender/skinny, but under it all we are kinda chubby, but not fat? bleh, i duno Ty says he loves it... but really, if you aren'y happy with your body,, i know im not.. i gotta "change" it for myself.. make sure you do it foryouself.. not someone else.
jamie
coming from a guy physical attraction is important..the way you described yourself seems fine to me..i would see why he would have any objections to your body....good luck
I agree 100% with thetease. I don't think we are ever the best judges of out own bodies. We always tend to view ourselves more harshly than most others would. I think we would all be surprised at how seldom other people think about what we look like. So if there is something about your body you don't like, change it-but do it for yourself, not someone else; they probably won't even notice.
And for part two, if this guy should not like you after, then you are better off without him. And just something to think about- What if you don't like him without his clothes, and do you think he's worried about that?
well personally, i think the issue is more with you probably than it is with him. you need to be able to be comfortable with yourself before you start passing the judgement onto him.
and really, if once you took all your clothes off and he didn't find you attractive after that, he wasn't worth it to begin with and was only after one thing.
I agree. You sound fine. If you decide to lose weight make sure it's for you and noone else.