This question is mainly for guys but girls feel free to throw in your two cents...
My boyfriend and I have amazing sex all the time but I was just wondering, when he is cumming, is it better for him if I don't really move and let him do the thrusting to control the pace as he wants to or does it feel better to him if I move with him? If so, what's the best way to move (at the same pace as him, grinding myself against him, etc)??
I like it when my girlfriend...for lack of a better term, hugs me really tight. Ok, now answer me this, in 2 other post that you just wrote, you were complaining about the sex, and how he doesn't take your needs into account. But now, "My boyfriend and I have amazing sex all the time "... what the f*ck?
Lay still and let him drill.
My best advice when it comes to finishing the job.
cjb
maybe it's the way that I am writing things or maybe I am just being misunderstood. We do have amazing sex and it feels great every time! In reference to one of my posts about sex always being his way and never mine, I am not saying that his way sucks and it doesn't feel good. It still feels REALLY good and I enjoy it a lot. If you go back and read that post again, you will see that I wrote "don't get me wrong, his way is still great, but I just want a little more and longer lasting foreplay and I want slow sex my way once in a while". In reference to the other post about me only being able to cum in 1 position and only 1 time when we have sex, let me say this. Sex can still be amazing and feel really good even though you can only reach orgasm in a certain position and/or can't have multiple orgasms. Again, if you go back and read that post again, you will see that I wrote "Is this all normal? Does anyone know what I can do to reach orgasm any other way or even how to do it more than once in one session". The key words there was "what I can do"...meaning, it's not his fault and it's most likely not due to his performace, it's just my body. So, I don't feel that I contradicted myself in any of my posts.
the important thing for me when i cum inside my girlfriend is the intimacy of the moment. she's usually moving just a little but to keep a slow rythym going, and i push my penis as far into her vagina as i can when i cum. it feels really good to cum deep inside her
Well I don't cum inside her often, but when I do, just sit there and let me do it.
If you move around too much the combined force of the ejaculation and the sliding (especially if your vaginal muscles are clamping) could cause condom issues as well.
[QUOTE=anotheranon11;186529]If you move around too much the combined force of the ejaculation and the sliding (especially if your vaginal muscles are clamping) could cause condom issues as well.[/QUOTE]
We don't use condoms...
I notice that you seem to think it is YOUR job to satisfy HIM. It is always "What can I do?" from you. And now it is "we don't use condoms." Are you two married? Are you planning on having children? Are you being exclusive? Or is this a case of "cannot find any to fit" - which is BS because custom made condoms are easily available online - several of my men require custom condoms so I do know.
How you move or what you do when a man's orgasming depends entirely upon the man in question. Some want to be held tightly, some want you to move with them, some do not want you to do anything at all - and it also depends upon which position.
Yeah I have to strongly agree with Evil here, this guy is... Selfish, and is the "typical" stereotype that makes good men like me to discrace, who wish nothing more than the happiness of my lady, and pleasure.. It takes two to tango, and in every way of a relationship I have found this true. Even if it be when one of the two wants time alone, the other has to respect that. Espcially with sexual relations it takes both to be having a good time for anything to last long.. Also I don't care what anyone says, sexual/physical relations I believe is a VERY strong part of a relationship, no matter how old.
After reading everyone's replies to ALL of my various threads over the last few days, I am beginning to really rethink my relationship with this guy. This sounds really bad, I know, but sex is the only time I really feel close to him and I think that is why I am trying so hard to satisfy him. I don't feel like I am making him happy outside of our sexlife so I overcompensate during sex. I know everyone is supposed to try a little to satisfy their partner during sex, but I think everyone is implying that I am trying too much and him not enough. I spent a lot of time looking at our situation recently and all in all, I just don't think this is the right man for me. And Yariome, if anything, he makes good men like you look a hell of a lot better!! But it sounds like you have a really great girl that you care about a lot and who really cares about you!! Do you have any brothers?? HAHA
The key part to a healthy relationship is for both people to want tomake each other happy. At least in my opinion. If he doesn't really try/want to make you happy, I think it's best to move on.
for whatever it is worth, I like to stick it as far in my wife as possible when im ejaculating (althought there problem is that it hurts her because it is to long and so she says that it hits her uterus).
It depends very much on the mood of the moment.....if it is all about me it then depends on the position of choice at the time....
girl on top......grind down onto me!
doggy...........accept me in deep
missionary.....hold me close
cow girl/reverse cow girl.........cup my testicles
oral..............oh thank you!!
standing........kiss me
spooning........scratch my thigh
anal.............oh thank you!
masturbating....pull the skin back and hold on
If its about her.......don't even worry that I am cumming......just keep moving the way you want to.....what is pleasurable for you is the goal. If I stop doing what you want/need me to do.......Tell me!!!
When we are "making love" it would be in one of the following positions, missionary; spoon or girl on top......lets just kiss and stay close untill we have both reached orgasm.
Selfishly, I enjoy being deep inside my wife whe I cum....
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Selfishly, I enjoy being deep inside my wife whe I cum....[/QUOTE]
haha that's not selfish :p when my guy cums i love to wrap my arms and legs around him really tight, and hold him close so he can get as deep as he can...i love that pulsing feeling all the way inside :)
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;186562]I notice that you seem to think it is YOUR job to satisfy HIM. It is always "What can I do?" from you. And now it is "we don't use condoms." Are you two married? Are you planning on having children? Are you being exclusive? Or is this a case of "cannot find any to fit" - which is BS because custom made condoms are easily available online - several of my men require custom condoms so I do know.
How you move or what you do when a man's orgasming depends entirely upon the man in question. Some want to be held tightly, some want you to move with them, some do not want you to do anything at all - and it also depends upon which position.[/QUOTE]
No EEK, we are not married. Although, he has said to me several times that he wants to marry me and that he wants me to have his baby. But, there are a few problems with this. First, he is still technically married to his first wife even though they have not been together for a while. Second, he was told that he cannot have children. Third, I don't really think I want to marry or have children with this man. But, in answering your other questions, yes we are exclusive (at least to MY knowledge). We used condoms in the beginning when we first started dating but we don't really anymore. I am on birth control pills so that takes care of the pregnancy issue. I know the pill doesn't protect against STD's but we have both been tested. I might make stupid decisions about the kind of men that I date but I at least try to protect myself.
[QUOTE=LovinItSingle;186770]No EEK, we are not married. Although, he has said to me several times that he wants to marry me and that he wants me to have his baby. But, there are a few problems with this. First, he is still technically married to his first wife even though they have not been together for a while. Second, he was told that he cannot have children. Third, I don't really think I want to marry or have children with this man. But, in answering your other questions, yes we are exclusive (at least to MY knowledge). We used condoms in the beginning when we first started dating but we don't really anymore. I am on birth control pills so that takes care of the pregnancy issue. I know the pill doesn't protect against STD's but we have both been tested. I might make stupid decisions about the kind of men that I date but I at least try to protect myself.[/QUOTE]
The last sentence in your statement has left me almost speechless... How can you say that you try to protect yourself, if you aren't using condoms?
Because I said that he cannot have children first of all (even though he is kind of in denial and still plans his life like he can) and secondly, we don't use condoms because we have both been tested for STD's.
You are sleeping with a married man yet believe you are his only flame? I'd think about that twice, it's a contradictory statement.
[QUOTE=sera300;186795]You are sleeping with a married man yet believe you are his only flame? I'd think about that twice, it's a contradictory statement.[/QUOTE]
I know that sounds really bad but it's not at all like that. He is still married to his wife but they have been separated for a while and we got together after they were already separated. I do believe that I am "his only flame". It's not like he cheated on his wife with me or is cheating on me with his wife. He has been monogamous with me as far as I know, he just hasn't filed his divorce papers yet. We have talked about the fact that he is still married and while it bothers me and sometimes it makes me wonder if he still wants to be with her, I think that if he wanted to be with her then they wouldn't have separated or they would have at least tried to work their relationship out before he made a commitment to me. He said that he will file his papers when he is ready. I guess this process is different for everyone.
[quote=LovinItSingle;186799]I know that sounds really bad but it's not at all like that. He is still married to his wife but they have been separated for a while and we got together after they were already separated. I do believe that I am "his only flame". It's not like he cheated on his wife with me or is cheating on me with his wife. He has been monogamous with me as far as I know, he just hasn't filed his divorce papers yet. We have talked about the fact that he is still married and while it bothers me and sometimes it makes me wonder if he still wants to be with her, I think that if he wanted to be with her then they wouldn't have separated or they would have at least tried to work their relationship out before he made a commitment to me. He said that he will file his papers when he is ready. I guess this process is different for everyone.[/quote]
There is no commitment to you, the only one he does has is to his wife.
if he hasnt filed for divorce id rethink it most people who actually want a divorce and want to have nothing to do with each other file asap unless hes told you hes having financial issues which is understandable....i hate to throw you under a bus but maybe you should rethink this
when my mum are dad were separeted they got the divorce straight away cus they couldnt stand each other. if he is really slow about gettin it done and gets all defensive when you ask him about it, i think he still has some issues with his wife