I'm 18, my girlfriend is 17. We've had sex twice now, we were both virgins before we had sex with each other. Anyway, our second time having sex was today, and at first it hurt her a bit, but after 5 or so minutes she said it didnt hurt at all, but she also said she also didnt feel any real pleasure in it beyond being close to me.
Its not like i was quick on the draw either, we were going at it for around a half an hour. I'm normal sized, around 6 and a half inches long and 5 or so in girth. She's very sweet and said she enjoyed being close, but she said girls in general dont get much pleasure from "thrusting". I know for a fact alot of girls love sex, if its not the thrusting that gets them off what is it?
This is very odd and disheartening for me because she is usually a very easy girl to please, i've had alot of success getting her off through cunnilingus, fingering, and dry sex. We've only tried missionary if thats any help.
So is she not feeling any pleasure because she is still not used to sex? Or is it because it wasnt a good position for her? or maybe we're just too inexperienced? i dunno...any help for a disillusioned kid?
Yup! One more suggestion: patience!
When I read the topic I thought, don't start making notches on the headboard to keep track of the number of times. LOL
Seriously, relationships and sex are about exploring and growing together. It may take some very enjoyable practice to get it "right."
Try this, try that... bring her right to the edge before entering... just have tons of fun exploring each other and keep talking about it.
Wally
thanks for the input,
She was very wet, and we used prelubed spermicidal condoms, plenty of foreplay happened beforehand so we'll try different positions and see how she likes it. Any other suggestions?
Locke, I think your post gives you your own answer - POSITIONS!
Eveyrone is different when it comes to the positions that make them feel the best!
Exploring positions is the first best step to finding out what will get her motor running...also, reassure her that the "closeness" will always be there, but to really make YOU happy, she has to relax and focus on what makes her feel good..so you, in turn can do more of it!
I have posted MANY links to webpages that show positions...i can repost it if you like!
I'm going to go out on a limb here and say,
how about some foreplay?
Foreplay is all that other stuff (than actual sex- fingering etc.) that feels good. She should be well lubricated before you 'get in'. Also, many women don't achieve orgasms through 'thrusting'. A lot of women get off on oral sex, fingering, etc.
Your girl should get to know herself and what turns her on. Also, the first time(s) is pretty awkward/uncomfortable for many of us.
Hope that Helps!
-Lixme