im fairly new to sex ...and admittedly dont have a clue what i am doing. i have recently started seeing someone who is used to having a strong sexual relationship, this did get in the way to start with but now we are having sex it isnt so much of a worry. obviously O_o ...however, i dont really know what to do during sex. i mean ...what do i do ?! that sounds like a really daft question but i cant really think of another way to encompass it ...hrm. we joke about '[lying] back and think[ing] of england' ..but the way things stand right now thats pretty much whats going on. he has a high sex drive, and i want to make him happy in this part of our relationship ..and i do enjoy sex ..i guess i just need some help on what to actually *do* ..iv used this sight before ..and have checked out all the links which should help, but i think i actually need instruction ...how silly. he wont really help me out on this ...so i have to find out for myself, just dont know where to start. so, after rambling on incoherantly does anyone a)know what the hell i am talking about b)have any words of advice ? ..oh, also, he came out with some random stat ..according to him only about 80% (scientists - pft) of women can 'get off' on sex alone ...is this true ? in which case is what he said true ..is sex mainly just for a man 
...hrm ...*confused* ...
Tue, 09/16/2003 - 14:20
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how to make sex better ...
a) I understand you perfectly
b) There are about 100 million things you can do durning sex. Key is to use your immagination, be comfortable with the person your with, and above all make sure this is what YOU want. I would recommend different positions, kissing, gripping, light nibbling. I HIGHLY recommend you tring to get on top. Girl riding is my favorite position for 2 reasons. 1) I find it very arousing having the female take control (as most men do), and 2) The woman seems to be able to orgasm very easily in this position, Yay for you!
The key is to talk about it, know what eachother like. Once your open about it amazing sex will follow.
c) It's true that a lot of women cannot orgasm though sex, but for good reason. Most offen case is that the mans penis isn't hitting the womans G-Spot, changing positions does mircials to solve this. Most surveys don't take into account the positions used, and that makes a HUGE difference.
Well I hope I have done some good for you. If you care to discuss more add me to your MSN (if you use it). Sorry if I ramble
[QUOTE=Quote (TommyBoy @ Sep. 16 2003,16:58)]And you wanna know what to do while sex...thats easy aint it?
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i dont mean the obvious ...just, kind of what to do ...that doesnt make it any clearer.
yes, i meant what to do when he is on top and i am lying there ...its complicated ..being an s/m person ..in a non s/m relationship ...hmm not sure what i mean myself now..
its not like i dont enjoy it, i do ..but ..hm ..
i dont know. nm.
thanks for the suggestions^^
Sex is for men and women. And you wanna know what to do while sex...thats easy aint it?
im not sure if is 80% is correct or not but there is a high number of women who can't orgasm thru vaginal penetration alone. most usually also need some clitoral stimulation or can orgasm thru oral sex.
as far as what to do during sex it all depends. i mean when you are on top you are pretty much already doing something. when you are on bottom and you feel like you are just lying there? is that what you mean?
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you can do different stuff...like run you hands thru his hair,
kiss him and his neck...wrap your legs around his waist ( my b/f likes that one
ummm talk dirty...play w/ his nipples... play w/ your own nipples or clit... anything to give him good visuals
the more you practice the more natural all this will come about
hope this helps
thanks
'girl riding' ..i love that term ...thing is, even though its something that i want to do ..im self conscious ..which i know is abit daft considering what we would be doing anyway ..but ..hm ...yeah, id be stressing about my body and that really would hinder any chances of being turned on.
anyway, your reply helped, so thanks
- oh, and thanks for answering 'a'
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