Obviously your boyfriend is not paying attention and timing himself properly. Please see the sticky post entitled The Program and the other sticky post entitled Body Worship. Using both of them, you should be able to get him to orgasm in a decent amount of time. Get him excited enough and he'll orgasm even if all you do is blow lightly into his ear. The key is getting him so aroused that he glows. Using the techniques outlined in those two sticky posts should get him there.

Get to work, honey!

But to answer your question, men should last long enough for her orgasm(s) and not long enough to tire her out.

In addition....

You can also strengthen your pelvic floor and find positions and angles which tighten more around his head. I typically have no issue at all with self control, yet if my girl puts both feet on my shoulders and pulls her chest up against mine she is much tighter and when combined with her vaginal spasms it feels like she's twisting all around my glans on each stroke and I quickly lose control. A good example of this would be me holding her in the air against a wall with her legs on each of my shoulders.

You can also focus on other areas during the act such as nibbling on his ears or chest, caressing his scrotum and/or perineum with your hand, and running your hands all over him while kissing his neck. All of these things ensure intense stimulation that will keep his body and mind locked focused solely only wanting MORE and not lasting longer/wondering if you are or not/being self conscious/anything distracting. As soon as one's mind is focused solely on how amazing each and every touch feels at that instant and not the one before or after, orgasm comes quickly.

DancingDoc has many posts on the importance of foreplay and delaying intercourse until the parties are about to explode and can wait no longer.

You can also take advantage of this and teach each other how to alternate between positions, angles, and depth of penetration so that you don't become sore and instead have multiple orgasms over and over until he finally loses it. If you try that though, be sure that he isn't so focused on you that his mind is treating it more as a surgical step by step procedure than passionate transitions.

Many young men nowadays operate under the misguided misconception that the way to a great orgasm is via lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking and thrusting. This is placing the proverbial cart before the horse and is precisely why all that fooling around and Necking, Petting, and Heavy Petting is so very important. Do not rush to Foreplay {h/j & b/j). I know it feels good yet if you do as EEK is recommending, it will be so much more!

I am surprised you letting him go on and on for so long. Most women report that after about ten minutes they become sore, bored, and tired. So let's get him to enjoy a climax before ten and after two minutes. Premature Ejaculation is when a fella looses control within the first minute upon entering, the return stroke or within the first few. If he looses it sometime after (within reason) it is simply an untimely event. In his case, he seems to be expecting the vagina to grip his penis in a way that produces the stimulation he requires. It won't if he is not already primed and ready from all that has gone on before.

I recommend the two of you read the articles by EEK, as well as those on making out, kissing, response curves, etc., that I have written. Please go to the Index:

--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics

It is not that you are doing anything wrong, just that you have yet to learn about the human response curves, how a man and women each respond to stimulation, and, what it takes to stimulate each other to the brink of an orgasm. If the two of you have begun intercourse within the first half hour of that initial twinkle in the eye, you are proceeding much too quickly (except in the case of the occasional "Quickie"). Why?

Because women require much more time and effort to become turned on, reved up and "hot" than is required for men; however, all this fooling around will definitely benefit him as well. With this in mind, plan on spending at least half an hour to making out in all of its various forms and longer within reason if time permits. Do not short change this important aspect of making love or think it unnecessary or irrelevant if it lasts beyond a bit of fondling and groping. Foreplay is great, yet do not rush into it without doing a lot of prep work beforehand--take time enjoying Necking and Petting. Please reflect back "on the day" back when teens and young adults made out in the car at Inspiration Point overlooking the town, or on a back road; or, on the swing on the front porch, and sometimes up in the haystack in the barn. Guys regular climaxed in their pants because more often than not intercourse was taboo. Your goal is to take the lessons we are recommending and apply them to your love life. It isn't that you want him to ejaculate in his pants, it is that you want to make love until he is about ready to and then maneuver into position so that within a few short minutes he fires that cannon.

Also, if you haven't implemented the how-to information I outlined in your first post then I suggest going back and reading what I wrote. It takes the information in this thread and breaks it down step by step.

If he masturbates regularly and is able to climax within a short amount of time assuming he chooses to, then all this will work for the two of you. Got questions?

Samantha,

There is no definite amount of time that he should last. The average time it takes a man to reach orgasm during coitus is three minutes. Forty-five minutes to an hour of constant thrusting is on the outside, but not unheard of.

Please do take into account the other answers already given. Foreplay, positions, technique, his and yours, are all possible solutions to this situation that is a problem for you.

You might also want to consider that your boyfriend suffers from a condition of Delayed Ejaculation or Retarded Ejaculation meaning he takes too long or possibly Male Anorgasmia. Anorgasmia means the absence of orgasm.
Below are some links which discuss both conditions. Whatever the case is you need to discuss it with him. Treatment could involve some of the ideas already put forward by other forum members.

http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/articles/delayed-ejaculation.php

http://www.med.auth.gr/depts/sexhealth/eng/delayed_ejaculation_en.htm

http://www.andrology.com/ejaculatorydisorders.htm

http://www.male-orgasmic-disorder.com/treatment-male-anorgasmia-2.html

http://www.sizemed.com/male-anorgasmia.html

http://menshealth.about.com/cs/stds/a/anorgasmia.htm

About a year ago a survey was done among women asking, "How long does sex last after entry of the penis into your vagina." There were a wide variety of response with almost all falling between 3-13 minuted.

Peronsally, I like it about ten minutes and if it approaches 20, he lands on the floor.

I gurantee that I won't take an hour!

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Thats quiet a talent..

Pretty much it depends on the girl for me. There have been some who I just havent be able to orgasm at all (and have even resorted to pretending to!). A question.. is your bf pretty new to it or maybe a little inexperianced?

As everyone here as stated so well, the length of intercourse does fall on varying stimulants: foreplay, position, arousal state, and the continuance of caressing/petting and kissing during intercourse. Something that may lengthen time is alcohol or drug use, also, having different effects on different people as everyone's body has a different chemical balance. Depending on our mooods, time available, and the other things I mentioned, my wife and I can both be done in 7 or 8 minutes, or carry on for an hour or longer.

My guy is very flexible with "timeing" he can last from 5 minutes for a hot quickie up till over an hour. Don't know why you girls don't like it when they last long, but me. I could go on for hours, its just too fun.

Some can and some cannot - it all depends upon - everything!

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;228619]Obviously your boyfriend is not paying attention and timing himself properly. Please see the sticky post entitled The Program and the other sticky post entitled Body Worship. Using both of them, you should be able to get him to orgasm in a decent amount of time. Get him excited enough and he'll orgasm even if all you do is blow lightly into his ear. The key is getting him so aroused that he glows. Using the techniques outlined in those two sticky posts should get him there.

Get to work, honey!

But to answer your question, men should last long enough for her orgasm(s) and not long enough to tire her out.[/QUOTE]

I'd just like to point out that I suffer from DE due to physiological problems and can often take over an hour or two to reach climax. It's not that I'm 'not paying attention' or not 'timing myself properly', but the fact that I am circumcised and have a stab wound which severed a few nerves.

Just wanted to point out that it's not immediately the man's fault, which was kind of implied in that first sentence of yours.

Timing yourself properly INCLUDES taking into account any physiological issues you may have and both The Program and Body Worship can be done by either gender to any partner - to good effect. Sex is between persons and involves cooperation and full participation - sometimes you have to work to get both.

I realise that you may have problems with my statement but how many men have you been with? The OP's statement implied a lack of focus on the part of her partner. That may not be your problem but it might very well be his.

Fair enough - I've not had any male partners, so I can't properly say on that account - but regardless of timing and foreplay etc I simply cannot reach orgasm within the 10-15 minutes that seems to be the norm. I've been with several partners of varying levels of experience and skill and the result is still the same. The only times I've taken less than half an hour was when I was with women who could deep-throat.

I didn't have a problem with your post per se, I just wanted to say that it's not always the man's fault, which, although in the OP's case it may be.

If you remember that one's orgasms are one's own responsiblity (no one gives orgasms, they only assist you to get) then it may be fairly said that, other issues aside, if you cannot come, consult yourself first.

So why deep throat and not otherwise? What is it that does it? Do not say "I don't know".

Gagging. I'm not proud of the fact, but the sound of a woman gagging on my penis is a massive turn-on for me.

Otherwise, I've found that I get off on women enjoying themselves - I find a woman orgasming an immense turn-on, and not just because of muscular contractions etc. I generally put my partner's pleasure before my own, and I love to hear and see the results.

Still, it's rare for me to climax within half an hour.