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Lasting 45-50 minutes can be both good and not so good. How are you spending that time? How much time do you devote to fooling around and making out? I recommend that you read the articles in the Index in order to add to your storehouse of sex ed. information. Knowledge is empowering. So too is acquiring the proper techniques.

If you are spending much of this time having intercourse then you have your priorities wrong. Many fellas operate under the misguided misconception that the best way to an orgasm is from lots and Lots and LOTS of thrusting. WRONG. This is placing the proverbial cart before the horse. Many women report to us that they become BORED, tired, and sore, after about ten minutes of stroking. If the two of you desire to prolong intercourse, then it is best to do it in stages, returning to making out in between.

> the win is that i never really have to worry about the lady not being pleased, but the loss is that i rarely get to orgasm in my girl.

Yes, you always should be watchful and mindful regarding your partner's level of arousal and ability to enjoy a climax. You are making this sound very mechanical and it is not. Arousal is dynamic and fluid. It's not all about doing A, B, & C, and Z will result. That your partner(s) has/have enjoyed orgasms is wonderful as a result of your sex play; however, there is absolutely no reason why you should not be able to enjoy one, two, or more orgasms, also. The key is in knowing how to arouse each other and this appears to be missing in your information. So, please do your reading assignment. :cool:

As you may have gleaned from this reply, what is important is not how long you can last, it is about learning how to pleasure each other, doing what is necessary for her to enjoy that first orgasm within ten minutes, letting you have an orgasm--and, spacing additional ones for each of you in between the first and last of hers.

Another key to success is in understanding how to arouse each other and when it is appropriate to begin intercourse. This and much more are discussed in the articles.

I hope this is of help. Please do not hesitate to ask questions after going thru the articles.

-doc

I'm sorry but I had one partner who lasted as long as you say you do and to me, it was dreadful. Most women orgasm from clitoral contact not penis in vagina thrusting so there is not really any benefit in lasting so long. In the situation with my ex, I used to stimulate myself clitorally to get myself off but really I would have been just as content to do this alone. I would get bored and my fluids would dry out meaning I'd either have to use lube or risk ending up sore.

Now I'm older, I've become able to orgasm from penetration but even so, I like it to last somewhere around 10 - 20 minutes. Honestly if I'm going to orgasm from Penis-in-vagina sex at all on any particular day, it happens within seconds of him entering me or not at all. From my perspective any longer time is for savouring the closeness.

Actually you're lasting a bit on the long side for most women but for Lifestyle people (aka Swingers) you're pretty much in the ball park so, unless you are planning on joining in the Lifestyle, I'd suggest you do The Program and cultivate/learn how to stimulate those internal hotspots of hers in rotation or cut your sexcapades short, lasting about 5 to 12 minutes of actual penetration.

Yes, The Program is an advanced skill but - best learn it now, dontcha think?

I usually manage to get 2 orgasms out of her before I load her up!!!! usually about 20mins in all though I have screwed her hard enough to get almost 5 orgasms out of her before I did my thing. That time lasted about 50 mins ... and havn't been able to do it since!

I am amazed how often men are satisfied with such low numbers of feminine orgasms. Fellas - there is no limit to how many she can have if she wants them. Men are muskets; women are machine guns.

Boys nowadays do not understand that (a) if you enjoy prolonged intercourse, it is better to do it is short sprints of no more than ten--twelve minutes, returning to making out, then continuing. Why? Because as has been mentioned so many times, here, many women report becoming sore, bored, and tired, if uninterrupted intercourse lasts and lasts and lasts longer.

> usually about 20mins in all

Please clarify what "all" means. Is it twenty minutes from first kiss to orgasm, or twenty minutes of straight intercourse?

> That time lasted about 50 mins ... and havn't been able to do it since!

Fifty minutes of what? (See above.) Do what since? Last fifty minutes, or help her to enjoy more orgasms?

If the former, see above. If the latter, please read the articles on this listed in the Index. Learn how to help a women enjoy one or more orgasms, why it is not all about you, and why it is all about them and that women do not have to have an orgasm in order to enjoy making love. If they do, it is not about quantity, fellas; it is about quality.

i was once seeing a girl, we were both sexually active, we coult last 45mins to an hour (on the long side).

and 25mins would be considered short for us.

this was a mixture of fast, slow, various positions. and these times i have stated are the sex, not the foreplay.

this isnt a question that has a direct answer, as many things can affect the time of sex, liek individual body capabilites (some women come quicker than others), emotions, energy levels, mental connection (the brain is the biggest sexual organ, fact).

alot of things matter, dont worry about it, ull b cool, just enjoy it

For me I have self control. I can last long or short. For her anything over 30 mins she gets sore. What I like to do is pleasure her for 15-20 with one or more orgasms, then I will come in her and get another one out of her. Something to do with my cum being a good lubricant, and right before I cum I "load it up". She describes it as a rocket being launched in her pussy. I will make my dick get it's hardest, and thrust even faster. Shared orgasms are the greatest

My partner can go for these types of lengths, and while I enjoy it most of the time (except for when I've dried out) I really prefer little breaks in-between to get wet again, and where he just pays attention to my body, rather than my vagina.

Length is nothing without connection and an understanding with your partner. BTW: 5-7 times cumming? She could have had a LOT more fun.

Yes, she could. Men tend to judge by their own capabilities: one maybe two orgasms per erection. So 5 to 7 orgasms is decent but, guys, seriously, there is no limit to the number of orgasms she can have.

Mhm, I easily remember the best time I've ever had. I lost count around 15 and then it all turned into one long long one (it seemed, but I was too tired to walk!). He was a very good boy that day..

My wife's vagina starts aching after 45 minutes, so we had to cut down my "internal" time from an hour and a half. We still have our weekend lovefests and do it like 3 or 4 times a day for about 45 minute spurts.

One of my exes and I did it for 3 hours (straight).

Whatever works for the two of you, ViceRoy; however, please do consider what EEK and I had to say on Page 1. You might find that by going about things a bit differently during the time the two of you spend actually improves your overall enjoyment for the reasons given. The method can actually work to extend a lovemaking session out considerably longer! if desired.

I guess I should've expanded a bit on my answer.

Although we do spend a considerable amount of time "internally", we have long stretches where I'm firmly planted deep inside her while we're motionless down there and kissing and orally exploring each other's bodies. When I feel myself starting to go soft, or when my wife needs another orgasms, we start moving ever slo slightly and that's usually enough to get things back "on track". We use lots of lube too.

My wife's extremely multi-orgasmic. We counted once and she reached 45, but we're pretty sure that's not the highest she's gone.

Oh, and one more thing, 10 or 12 minutes is how long she takes to accomodate my size. I can't/won't go hard and fast until we reach that point.

Lastly, and sadly, I can only ejaculate once every 24 hours and my refractory period is about 3 or 4 hours (ugh), but... once I get it back up again, I can go as long as she wants/needs.

Thanks for the additional information and clarification. It is appreciated.

Sounds to me like you have a handle on things.