well if a guy is making out then he is most likely wanting oral at least....

As for telling if a guy is in to you or the sexual pleasure that is hard to say.... if they are a young guy it could be equally both....but I think the older a man gets the more he is into you for just you and the sexual part is bonus. Younger men are still gaining experience and so the sexual interest are high...IMO.

> > I think the older a man gets the more he is into you for just you and the sexual part is bonus. Younger men are still gaining experience and so the sexual interest are high.

I think Michelle is correct; however, let's not overlook the fact that teen boys have more testosterone in their veins than blood!

> How do you know when a guy wants to kiss you?

He will try. He will try, again. He'll keep trying until you either let him or stop him.

So, how does a guy know when a gal wants to be kissed?
Answer: I just posted a NEW Sticky answering this question--and others.

> How do you know when a guy is having a rotten time?

* He looses his cool
* He becomes pushy
+ after pushing and pushing and getting nowhere with his advances (his problem)
* He wants to cut the activities short
* He looses focus
* He is no longer listening (to you)
* He tells you that whatever is not going right is your fault
* He is frustrated over his performance or lack of

> How will a guy decreitly let you know he wants to have sex or oral etc...?

I would hope your two activities would be in reverse order and that a hand job would come before the more intimate activity of oral.

* He tells you about one or more
* He keeps bringing up the subject and his interest in doing it
* He won't let the subject die
* He wants you to talk to him about all this

* While making out at some point he tries to place your hand
on his fly over his erection (successfully or not, your choice)
hoping you will move his penis around within the confines of
his pants just enough to get him off
* While making out at some point he keeps trying to place your
hand on his fly....
* While making out at some point he tries to unzip, unfasten,
or pull his pants down
* While making out at some point he tries to free his penis
and bring it out into the open for you to touch or hopefully admire
* While making out at some point he tries to slip your hand
inside his pants or underware

* At some point he tries to fondle your breast
* At some point he tries to slip his hand between your legs
* At some point he tries to undo your blouse or top
* Depending upon what you are wearing, he may try to slip
his hand up your bare leg in hopes of touching your genital
area through your panties

NOTE: [COLOR="DarkOrange">Before any of this happens, I recommend that you read what I have to say regarding boundaries and "Implied Consent".
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As for oral, let's hope the two of you have a discussion about this beforehand and come to terms about whether to do it or not; when, and how.

If not, expect that depending upon his manners, he may try
maneuvering your bodies in a way that makes it easy for your
face to be in close proximity to his penis. (HINT...HINT)

If not, and with no manners, he may try pushing your head
toward his genitals. If this should ever happen, I hope you
know where his balls are and how to latch onto them tightly.

He may simply exclaim something to the affect: "suck me"
"suck me", or some other very obvious wish.

> I dont mean to sound like an idiot but I have a hard time tell what a guy wants and when he wants it. Like if a guy and yourself start making out and stuff what will he do if he wants you to give him a blowjob/have sex.

You are not an idiot! just a person on a quest for information and knowledge. We all start here at the beginning sooner or later, whether it is Sex Ed, relationship advice, or how to perform any number of skills required throughout life.

I suggest reading through all of the articles listed in the Index.

After you assimilate the knowledge, I suggest that you have your boyfriend read any of the articles you think relevant.

> Also how can you tell that a guy is actually into you and not just the sexual pleasure.

There is a recent book by that title that you might want to read.
He is into YOU because he enjoys the pleasure of your company, makes plans for future dates, calls but not too often, likes holding your hand or placing an arm around your shoulders. He is into you because he is attentive, shows care and concern, and listens. Along with this is the fact that he schedules time to be with you and does not continually sideline you in favor of his male friends and activities.
He is into you because as important as sex is, the quality of the relationship is more important. If the relationship is working, the romantic aspect will be working. It has been said that if a relationship works, sex is 10% of it. If a relationship is not working, sex is 90% of the reason. So for right now, if the romance and sex are in proper proportion to other aspects then the two of you should be on solid footing.

> If ive missed anything that you can answer here plz do so.

As additional questions or concerns come to mind, having read the various articles, please do not hesitate to ask. This is the purpose of this site.

I hope this has been of help, even if some of my responses were sort of tongue-in-cheek.

Older men are also more upfront with what they want and tend not to use the guise which younger ones do at times...