Yea no shit man, you could be messing up a really good chance at a girl who is willing to learn and wants to have fun in more ways than going to the amusement park ;) All because you couldn’t live with the fact that you couldn’t know for sure. Some people are just more outgoing when it comes to doing what they feel like sexually….she was probably trying to make you think she was open to doing stuff and if you react in a bad way that will really mess things up!

why do u care so much? seriously. if u dont trust this girl enough to take her word for it, dont fool aroudn with her.

You sound almost as if you are looking for a reason not to believe her.  I think it's a little bit of an insult to her to say that you don't think she's telling the truth just because you can get a finger in there and she put her legs around you.

I never did ANYTHING sexual at all, not even kissing, until I was 19 (so a little over a year ago).  A lot of it came naturally...  we would dry hump and I just did what felt good.  I put my legs around him, I kissed him in different places, I rubbed and did things that felt good.  It's not rocket science.  You can learn a lot from regular movies, not just porn.

And you should be very, very happy that she is really wet down there.

There is ONLY one, just ONE way that you will EVER know she is a virgin:  what she tells you.  You either believe her or you don't.  You can't even rely on what other people tell you...  they could be lying.  So it's up to you and how much you trust her.  It really shouldn't matter.  Like Oberon said, USE PROTECTION no matter what.  You don't want to get her pregnant, you don't want to give her anything you might or might not have, and if you don't believe her, then you don't want to get anything she might or might not have.  I'm not insinuating you have anything, it's just basic reasoning to support using protection.

It's just impossible to tell if a woman is a virgin or not.  Women are built differently.  You will not find any two women that are the same.  Some vaginas are very narrow, and can forever "feel" like virgins even if they became professional porn stars!  Other women are wider.  That's it.  Not all women get noticeably "stretched out" from having sex...  I'm not even sure that's true about any woman.

If you are having such serious doubts about her integrity, that you are latching onto the tiniest most insignificant details from your intimate moments with her, then you probably shouldn't go further until you feel secure and can trust her...  otherwise you won't enjoy the experience, you'll be worrying about "Where'd she learn that?" and stressing.

I do more first time gyn exams (internals, as they are known) than any doctor for miles around. Sometimes, I can be quite certain she is virgin but I can never be certain she is not. You, young friend, will never know. Most hymens are long gone to tampons or toys or fingers before a boy ever geets to check.

She's a pro?  LOL.  Unless you met her on a streetcorner, I doubt it.

I'm still curious as to why it matters so much.  Prior experiences mean very little in a new relationship. Since everyone is different, you still have to learn the person you are with.

I'm also hoping that just because you think she's a virgin doesn't mean you think you don't need to worry about protection.  Virgins can still get pregnant.

Anyway, maybe if we knew why this was so important, we could help a little more.  

So having her legs curled around her makes her a pro?
Whatever.

I was very unexperienced when it came to being with my guy. But when I first gave him a blowjob, he was amazed that I had never done it before because apparently I was that good. I think it baffled him at first how someone who was a virgin in like every aspect was so good at something.
I told him the truth. I learned by watching porn. I've also had my fair share of popsicles and blowpops in my life.

I've learned other things by just reading up on things.
The internet is full of all sorts of things and you can learn a great deal about things with it.

So really, I say get over it. Cause if you're not going to believe her about this of all things, it makes me wonder what you're not going to believe about her in the future.

When I first had sex I was still a virgin yet I had lost my hymen a long time ago. I dont even remember have one or having trouble with the following.
I had been using tampons, had my fingers in there, and also a hairbrush handle, lol.
Anyways, now a days you can't just go by the "hymen" as a sure sign tell if a girl is a virgin.
Also girls can wear theirs away if they are active say with sports, streching, horseback riding, etc.
Why do you HAVE TO KNOW!!!?
If you dont mind me asking.
Ob's right. Either you trust her or you don't.
Don't just assume if you guys have sex the first time and she's doesn't bleed or have a lot of pain that she lied. I didn't experience either. I had a little pain but more discomfort than anything.

Try this: (graphic picture)

The Hymen

I doubt (unless you are a gyno) you'll be able to tell.  I'm also not sure what difference it makes.  Personally, if I didn't trust her enough to take her word for it, I wouldn't be fooling around with her.